I'm size 20 bottom and 18 top, pear shaped curvy with a relatively flat Mum Tum but with a muffin top which I try to hide, bra strap bulge etc. A guy I see occasionally has mostly had slim girlfriends size 8/10 apart from the mother of his child who was more a 12-14 and went to about an 18 after having their child and then lost the excess again.
He connected with me on social media but I can see why he would add me without being interested (business, career etc.). I locked eyes with him once inna social situation where there were around 20 people and it lasted that split second longer than normal and I wondered if he knew I was into him so felt embarrassed, but also felt like his gaze had lingered a bit too!!
Crush aside, I am working on losing weight and am naturally around a 14 but on a healthy lifestyle plan to get in the best shape I've ever been.
My ex was 'boyfriend goals' and would always tell me how I was naturally beautiful, how I was looking sexy and how I could have any man I wanted. This was throughout our ten year relationship and wether I was slimmer or larger. He is a fit attractive man, we are friends and I ended it so I am not rebounding if anyone thinks that! He was good to me but my self esteem never got better and even at a size 20 he would say this and I would think he was just patronising me to get laid later...
So, men (and women who want to answer!), have any of you had slim girlfriends mostly but still see a larger lady and find her attractive? Do you ever think 'pretty girl, shame about the body'?
I accept that there is an electrician of personal preference too and that noone can say what this other guy is thinking.
And be honest, I can handle it!
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To wonder if a man with slim exes would ever find a bigger woman attractive? Eager for male responses!
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UserGazillion · 26/09/2018 10:55
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