Body hair!!

[Mummyontherocks]

I had no idea this is such a controversial issue but I'm not sure who is BU on the question of face and body hair. My 10 year old has quite a distinct unibrow and I wondered if AIBU to take her to be waxed. I have raised the subject of waxing in general with several friends IRL but got such drasticly different responses! 'From women should never wax anywhere' to 'she's way too young' to 'I was waxed much younger and I'm okay'. So mumsnet - what do you think? When is too young to wax?

Has your DD made any comments? If she's not bothered, why should you be?

Is she asking to be waxed/ have it removed? If she is, then yes, get it removed, if she sin't, then don't and don't suggest it to her.

Her body, her choice.

Too young is when it's your choice not hers.

She's self conscious about it, she hasn't asked to be waxed because I don't think she realises it's an option to be honest, but she does keep bringing up that she feels uncomfortable and that people tease her. And of course, it wouldn't be my decision.

If she is getting teased I would explain there's something that can be done if she would like to.

If she's uncomfortable then I think it's fine to take her.

Yeah I wouldn't just let me child be teased or made to feel uncomfortable without at least providing information on solutions. Waxing, plucking, threading are all I can think of now. let her know it hurts, let her know the cost and how often she'll need to do it to keep on top of it. Maybe shell decide she can live with it.

It's so shit that 10 year olds are being bullied and made to change by their peers.
Where does it and?
I wouldn't want to enforce that she needs to change because of bullies, but she's already uncomfortable and making her suffer isn't got to help either.
I'd take her but maybe try and have a body confidence talk with her. Easier said than done and as a 26 year old who's not confident I don't know what you should say. But I do feel talking about the issue is needed to.

I’d offer her the option of having it threaded or waxed.

Yes, being teased for it is shit and in an ideal world the kids would stop but they never do.

I think it's fine to wax it if that's what she wants
In an ideal world no one would get bullied over their appearance, but I strongly believe as parents our job is to make life easier for our children rather than try to change society!

Just do the middle bit and not get them shaped. I had one abd I was about her age when I started having mine threaded. Kids tease a monobrow, it isn't limited to girls either. It's not right but it is a fact, unfortunately

Don't wax it. Try to get it threaded it will look more natural.

Yes I would. Being teased is horrible. My DD had very hairy legs so I started waxing her legs when she was 8 at her request. She loved her smooth legs. There is no age limit on feeling good about yourself.

Dd has had hers plucked since about 9 when she asked. Older dd has no pain threshold but isn't bothered about hers!!

Speaking as a hairy Mary I would have LOVED some adult to take me seriously enough to have taken me to a salon ,

DS(11) has just started high school and has a bit of a monobrow thing going on. He’s asked me if I’ll keep on top of the bit in the middle for him so we do it with the tweezers when he started getting a bit hairy.

He’s really good with it and seems to have a fairly high pain threshold as he never complains!

I had hair on my top lip in primary school and was teased for it, but I was too embarrassed to talk to my mum. I would have loved if my mum had offered to help me with it.

If she’s comfortable talking to you about it and you know she’s self-conscious, I’d explain that there are a few different methods of removal (waxing, tweezing, threading) and you’d be happy to support her with that, but make it clear that it’s absolutely her choice and she doesn’t need to remove it if she doesn’t want to

Owner of prolific eyebrows here. I would 100% support her to get them done professionally, just the middle bit to start off maybe? Because otherwise in another few months she may well want to start doing them herself, and then she runs the risk of over plucking etc. Agree completely with TheFluffyHippo’s approach - give her control over the situation.

I'd give her all the options the next time she mentions it. Maybe tweeze one to give her an idea of how it will feel.

Threading is my preference. A young girl was brought in with her mum during my last appointment for her first eyebrow wax... I reckon she was about 12.

There were a few tears, but she was adamant she wanted it done... there was no coercion from her mother.

My lovely Mum paid for me to have electrolysis done on mine in my teens. It wasn't any more painful than tweezing and they've never grown back.

A few years later I paid for the stays to be removed underneath and for them to be shaped. I've had maintenance free brows for over 25 years!

Why are people so resistant about things like this?

I have a 10 year old, if she felt self-conscious over this then I'd 100% be letting her explore options to improve her confidence. I'm not sure what's best for children so young, maybe waxing? Whichever it is...I'd be there helping her to decide.

Please let her get it waxed. I was bullied at school for excess hair. Didn’t really know what options there were.

I had a horrendous monobrow as a child (think Ronnie Kray) and I was bullied mercilessly for it. I wish my Mum had let me fix it, because it destroyed my confidence.

She's obviously mentioned it's an issue for her then, so I would talk her through the options- waxing, threading, removal cream, tweezing and electrolysis and take it from there.