Body hair!!

[Mummyontherocks]

I had no idea this is such a controversial issue but I'm not sure who is BU on the question of face and body hair. My 10 year old has quite a distinct unibrow and I wondered if AIBU to take her to be waxed. I have raised the subject of waxing in general with several friends IRL but got such drasticly different responses! 'From women should never wax anywhere' to 'she's way too young' to 'I was waxed much younger and I'm okay'. So mumsnet - what do you think? When is too young to wax?

Yeah she should definitely get it removed. I would try using facial hair removal cream/wax or plucking. Threading is also a good option but I find it very painful

Get it threaded much less chance of getting burnt. Like i did. Top lip. Have a permamoustache that gets darker in the sun.

By taking her to wax it you are validating and reinforcing the teasing though aren't you? In your place I would focus on teaching her to rise above bullying and to make her own decisions about her body without allowing peer pressure to influence her.

No need to pay for waxing, just teach her how to pluck them herself, then she can decide for herself whether to do it or not.

Very commendable @Racecardriver. Possibly not how it works in the real world.

Take her and get it sorted. My little sister permanently wrecked her eyebrows trying to pluck them without guidance.
Racecardriver, I notice you're being insensitive, verging on unpleasant on a number of topics this evening.

Racecardriver but OPs DD wants to do something to change it, so why is that decision not valid?

Yes, take her. Why let her be teased when she can simply get them waxed or threaded?

@vilainousbroodmare @YeTalkShiteHen she hasn't though. She just brought it up. No mention of getting rid of it has been made at this point. If she did make the decision because that was what she wanted then it would be her right. But her mother telling her to get rid of it because of what these ghastly children are saying would just add to her feelings of discomfort. Her mother shouldn't be sending these messages. If her mother sets a good example of self acceptance it make not make her dd like her unibriw but it will make her question why people are being so mean about something perfectly natural.

I am extra blunt this evening because I am on my period and have a wisdom tooth coming through.

Racecardriver OP says her DD doesn’t realise it’s an option. So surely the best idea is to lay out all the options and let her decide for herself?

Don't get it waxed because for some reason it makes you more likely to get pigmentation. Threading or plucking is better.

@justkeeprolling I have had a moustache since childhood which I used to be teased about. My parents didn't tell me to get rid of it and I learned to live with it. I actually really liked it in my late teens, I thought it was a bit of an ironic juxtaposition of masculine and feminine. I did eventually decide to get rid of it (my skin is a bit paler these days and it's become more visible, not the end of the world but not as charming as it once was) but because I wanted to, not because I feel like I have to to look presentable.

@YeTalkShiteHen that would be more reasonable than just taking her to get it done. It may actually make her feel better if she knew that lots of women have one and they can alter it if they want to.

Fair enough, I just think all the options need to be available to her before she makes her own choice. Whether that’s waxing or not doing anything to it.

I’m totally projecting because I wish someone had told me I had options before I spent years getting ripped apart by bullies.

Yes I started taking my dd at 10 for her unibrow she’s 12 now and goes for threading.

Fair enough Racecardriver but I suppose I'm recalling being a shy unattractive kid who did not know what options were out there to improve my appearance and wouldn't have had the confidence to ask for them if I did. I would have received a "Aren't you lovely the way you are?" at best which is frankly fucking useless.
This is why I am very dubious about the oft-heard (on here) response to such questions as "When should I stop throwing all the kids in the bath together/ being naked in front of the children/ organise the pill for my teenage daughter?" "Wait until they specifically ask" just does not work for a self-conscious kid who is already possibly feeling humiliated.

We absolutely shouldn’t live in a world where this matters. However to a 10 year old it can be a massive deal.

Why make her deal with feeling bad when it’s easy to fix. I do DD’s with a razor at the mo as she was a bit self conscious. Just a quick whip up the middle does hers fine. If she needed more I’d take her for waxing.

Something so simple should not be allowed to cause distress (life’s too short for eyebrows to cause us stress) so I’d say offer her solutions if she wants them and let her decide.

I was a hairy child, my mum didn’t get it because she isbthe complete opposite and doesn’t even need to shave her legs :( I was teased and self conscious and nowbhave very low self esteem. I would have loved an adult to sort it out for me rather than having to wait until I could research and afford it myself.

Thanks for your replies everyone, I think as she has already mentioned it I will maybe make an appointment at a salon myself (I normally just pluck and not in front of her) and take her with me. That should be the perfect opportunity for her to ask questions and talk about it, thanks to those with specific advice will look into the electrolysis and threading a bit more. Hopefully that will let her know she has options without 'siding with the bullies'. Thanks everyone!