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Awkward dinner

34 replies

FlyteB · 22/09/2018 07:06

Hi everyone. Last night I went out for dinner with a few friends. They had all met the week before but I couldn't make it. It was nice but a few times I could see them smirking and pulling faces at each other. At the restaurant as we were finishing I saw 3 of them give each other a 'look'. I ignored it. then later on 2 of them burst out laughing and when I asked what was funny they made up some bullshit. aibu to think how rude?

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MollyHuaCha · 22/09/2018 07:17

V rude. Maybe you could see the nicest of this group one to one for coffee and ask her what was going on.

Alternatively find some new friends.

TwoOddSocks · 22/09/2018 07:21

How old are you all? Even at 16 I would find that kind of behaviour rude and immature. They sound like the kind of people that like to feel more included by leaving someone out. It's probably not personal - you were just today's scapegoat. They don't sound very nice though.

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FlyteB · 22/09/2018 07:22

in our 30s

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PeachyKeenJellymonster · 22/09/2018 07:23

Can u group message and ask them out right... twats

Orchiddingme · 22/09/2018 07:39

Sounds like my old NCT group. OP, they don't sound like your friends.

CoconutQueen · 22/09/2018 07:45

Yes; think I would try and speak to the nicest of them (If there is one slightly more friendly.) Did they try and put you off attending? Have they never been like this before?

KitKat1985 · 22/09/2018 07:46

That sounds horrible OP. I'd be tempted to send out a group text this morning saying you're not sure but was happening last night, but you felt that there was clearly a 'private joke' going on last night that you weren't privy to, and it really upset you as it felt like you were being laughed at by the others all night.

BlueJava · 22/09/2018 07:51

That's horrible OP. I really wouldn't be grouping texting or texting them at all. I'd be distancing myself from them. Move on and find some genuine, nice friends!

LynetteScavo · 22/09/2018 07:57

Yep, very rude.

Whether or not you want to continue to socialise with such rude people is up to you, but I'd not go out with them again.

SLoisachtal · 22/09/2018 08:06

That sounds deeply unpleasant and it sounds as though they'd had a gossip/bitch about you at the previous evening that you couldn't attend.

I'm not sure that you'd get a straight answer though.

Feefeetrixabelle · 22/09/2018 08:08

Time to find some new friends as these just sound like frenemies

eddielizzard · 22/09/2018 08:17

Nope, I wouldn't be meeting up with them again any time soon.

TeddybearBaby · 22/09/2018 08:28

They sound like bullies. How horrible for you 💐

Alpacanorange · 22/09/2018 08:33

Don’t send texts, it will give hem something else to smirk over and entertain them.
Smile, nod and avoid.

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FlyteB · 22/09/2018 08:53

you know when you're not sure if you're paranoid but it did happen

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Hellywelly10 · 22/09/2018 08:57

They sound like bitches op.

Sparklyfee · 22/09/2018 09:09

How do you know them? If they aren't very close friends I would just retreat now. No point giving them anything else to laugh at

TeddybearBaby · 22/09/2018 09:09

What are they usually like, how long have you known them?

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FlyteB · 22/09/2018 09:53

About a year I've known them. I'm not going to say anything but I won't be seeing them again

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Sparklyfee · 22/09/2018 09:56

Ah, yes, just retreat. They are not worth your energy. They clearly aren't friends and are just taking the piss.

You're not their plaything. Just don't bother with them anymore. Sorry that they treated you like that

SerenDippitty · 22/09/2018 09:57

Some people never grow out of the school playground mentality. Agree best to move on from them.

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FlyteB · 22/09/2018 10:02

I know but I wondered if it's in my head lol

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TeddybearBaby · 22/09/2018 10:10

Their loss! I know that feeling though and it’s horrible. I’m glad they’re not long term friends!

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FlyteB · 22/09/2018 11:14

I think it's time to give up on mates. I'm so tired of all this shit

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FlyteB · 22/09/2018 12:13

it's like I'm good enough to be a counsellor etc but never bridesmaid or part of the group. I can't be fucked

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