Awkward dinner

[FlyteB]

Hi everyone. Last night I went out for dinner with a few friends. They had all met the week before but I couldn't make it. It was nice but a few times I could see them smirking and pulling faces at each other. At the restaurant as we were finishing I saw 3 of them give each other a 'look'. I ignored it. then later on 2 of them burst out laughing and when I asked what was funny they made up some bullshit. aibu to think how rude?

They sound horrible

Also from your last post I get the feeling that if they want a lift or babysitting or someone to reassure them or listen to their problems you are there for them or to tell them they are ok they ask you but don't help if you ask for their help

Have you watched "MOTHERLAND" on iplayer?

Sounds like the gaggle on there

Grrr I know that feeling. I'm good enough to be a counsellor/fountain of wisdom/emotional toilet to some but the minute I have some emotional or practical need of them I turn invisible. I too, OP am coming to the conclusion that some of my oldest friendships weren't what I was thinking and that I have known some very selfish and self-involved people. At least when they make a demand request of you, you can tell them to GTFO.

For me it was being made to be invisible whenever I was depressed - because how dare I change lanes and be depressed - that's their thing and they are the only depressed people on the planet, apparently...

it's all take take take isn't it? I actually can't be arsed. I do think all the bitchiness over the years has contributed to my depression JohnMcCain. I'm just expected to fucking take it well no more.

Don’t give them either ammunition or another chance to screw with your head by texting or asking them what was going on.

As pp have said, retreat. Make excuses or just go non contact with them. They sound like immature schoolgirls.

I think I might start a new thread in Chat for all of us who have resigned our commission of Butt Monkey and Emotional Toilet and who just want friends we can hang out with who don't take the piss.

See you there I hope!

Emotional toilet

Well it's like they unload their emotional shit onto you and you have to flush it down but woe betide you try and do the same in your time of need...

oh yes I know it Well!

You're better off without them. So sorry you had such a horrible night. I had "friends" like this at school and only now in my late 20s I am feeling confident in normal female friendships. Don't let them do it to you again!