Panicking about stretch marks

[CherryRoseAnna]

Nearly 8 months pregnant and have developed stretch marks on my thighs and belly and boobs. Aware I could have 6 ish weeks left of getting bigger and stretch marks getting worse. After crying in bed for an hour quietly not to wake DP up, I'm turning to mn for advice on how to cope with my changing body. I'm very self conscious and have low self esteem anyway. I don't show it and have a big personality which masks my insecurities about my physical appearance.

DP made a comment a while back about how pregnancy had a real toll on his exes body and how many stretch marks she had. That he still loved her at the time but found the stretch marks unattractive. I can't forgive him for this comment about someone who gave birth his child, and it's stuck with me. I'm angry he ever said it and now don't believe him when he tells me my stretch marks don't bother him.

AIBU to feel ugly and down about this? I'm really sad and just feel unattractive. Do they really fade? They're red and angry.

I just feel so low. Can't stop crying and hate my body. Having a body image crisis. Help.

What about when your dp starts to go thin on top, goes grey, get midlife spread on his belly...among the many things he can look forward to as he goes on in life. Will you still love him?
When we are with someone we barely notice these things as we are more interested in the personality. Just come straight out and tell your dh how you are affected by his comment on his exwife. Give him a change to retract it as hopefully he is made of better stuff than that.
Its not good to say l will never forgive him for that. Talk about it and hopefully his reaction will lead to you forgiving him and moving on.

What a tool he is! for you

I have no DC but I got tall very quickly in my teenage years and have them on the back of my hips (proper wide ones), all down my thighs and you can see some on my boobs if I bend forward in the right light. But for the most part nobody would ever notice them. It's rare that I do to be honest, and I am a bit body conscious.

Okay, he made a comment years ago, probably without thinking. You and your DH have a different relationship to the one he had with his ex. I know that his comment will stick with you and be hard to get over, but he has also grown and changed as a person since he was with her and since he made that comment. Just because someone once believed or thought something years ago, doesn't mean they still do now. He loves you.

I had a really tough time coming to terms with my body. To be honest I'm still not there. My eating habits haven't changed since before I had DS but now I'm a hell of a lot fatter. My boobs sag and I've got a pouch. I'm very ashamed of how I look naked. I didn't have stretch marks but my skin and hair have never recovered either.
I've had to accept who I am now and in working on it! Easier said than done