To think this is fucking rude!

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Had a bit of a to do with a colleague today and her parting shot was

'You're the only person I know who blames everyone else for their own failures'

She knows me personally and I felt this was below the belt

AIBU??

Without knowing you and the context of the discussion it's impossible to tell!

She’s bloody lucky if you’re the only one she knows

It depends. Is she right?

slieghtofmind

OP, I think you’re right and it wasn’t the greatest thing to say but do you think there’s an ounce of truth in it?

Just an avenue to consider if you have more than a professional relationship with her.

SleightOfMind you beat me to it!

Have to say OP, we need more data in order to give an opinion one way or the other.

Not a nice comment to say to anyone.

I just think personal attacks at work aren't on regardless of what went before
I wouldn't dare speak to someone in work in that way

You said you had a "bit of a to do" at work, and it takes two people to argue. You have to take at least some responsibility for that.

Is she right though? Do you blame everyone else for your own failings? How can we say if YABU really?!

I just think personal attacks at work aren't on regardless of what went before

I disagree. If what went before prompted such a severe reaction then its entirely relevant.

If it came from nowhere, that’s different.

I'm not pissed off about the exchange prior to that
She called me on something and I said she was totally right

Obviously it's not a kind thing to say but we can't judge whether there's any truth to it or not. If you're someone with lots of issues you can't help (e.g. disability) and you're doing you're best to overcome them then it would be a particularly cruel thing to say. If you're someone without any real issues to contend with but who always has an excuse to pass work onto other people then I can understand why she snapped.

What did you say to her to prompt her reaction?

Without knowing it’s impossible to say. As it stands you indicate she pulled you up for something, you agreed with her and she then, out of nowhere, said what she said.

I’m fairly sure there’s more to it.

Agree with FullofJellyBeans

That's definitely below the belt OP, you know you did something wrong and you'll own that, you don't need someone being rude and disrespectful on top - not conducive to teamwork or good working morale - the fact that she knows you personally compounds it all too.

TFI Friday OP!

Did she call you on blaming others for your mistakes?

I think it's bang out of order regardless of the circumstances, the old phrase "it's not what you say, it's how you say it" springs to mind.

I actually don't blame others for my mistakes
And I will always say when I'm in the wrong and have apologised in the past to people
I'm not to big to say sorry

I agree OP... there was no need for such a comment

Is it a personal attack though? If she's talking about work failures then it isn't.

It's definitely rude if out the blue, but what prompted the argument?

Gemini69 without context how can you state that as fact?

Who knows what OP said, because they’re not telling us. Which makes me think it was called for actually

I know something like this but... it's harsh to say that to someone's face.

So According to what you wrote above:

She said you'd done something wrong
You said that she was right, and you had done it wrong
She replied that you always blame others for your mistakes

Yeah there's definitely a missing piece to this story

You said you had a "bit of a to do" at work, and it takes two people to argue. You have to take at least some responsibility for that.
and you now seem to be blaming her, when I'll bet you said some things she didn't like too, if you're describing it as a "to do", so I suspect there is at least some truth in it.

If it was said in relation to your behaviour at work then I think it’s ok for them to have said it - but if you have confided personal stuff to her and she was referring to that then definitely not ok to say at work!