To think this is fucking rude!

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Had a bit of a to do with a colleague today and her parting shot was

'You're the only person I know who blames everyone else for their own failures'

She knows me personally and I felt this was below the belt

AIBU??

To give whole context would be far too long

After she had a go at me and I said yes I can't deny that, you're right, I then said she doesn't communicate with me about this topic and then she said that

But given that she knows about my recent MH and general health issues I didn't expect that

And I'm not blaming her for anything

I then said she doesn't communicate with me about this topic and then she said that

But you ARE blaming her by saying that OP, can you see that?

Can't tell if YABU. Depends if she is right or not.

I'm not sure on this one. I have an ex-colleague who would literally blame ANYone else for their mistakes, and couldn't see that they were the issue, so whilst I agree that it is rude to say that at work, maybe you need to take a look at yourself and how you come across

I'm another one who thinks she's lucky to only know one!

Bang out of order though.

So your point is that you’ll admit when you’re wrong, and you were wrong and didn’t deny it... but then told her it was her fault for not communicating?

Are you sure she doesn’t have a point?

I don’t think it’s a personal attack.

It’s althugh well saying it would be too long to post properly - but if you don’t, this is unanswerable.

Well you did "blame it on her" with your comment about communication.
I guess, and I am sure I am correct, this was preceeded by a number of "yeah I messed up, but you/they didn't do/say that and that properly" talks or arguments in the past already...
It sounds like she just finally said something tbh.

But you know her personally so it’s not like a just a normal work colleague said it to you...

Maybe she was rude, but your language is worse

Regardless of subject, you seem to suggest if you work with someone you know, they can’t ever refer to your character outside of work.

That’s definitely unreasonable.

Yeah, now we have a bit more context, sorry Op, but you kinda proved her point. You were called out for something, admitted to having screwed up but then blame-shifted to make it at least partly her fault because of her lack of communication.

There's a difference between being prepared to hold your hand up and being prepared to hold your hand up whilst simultaneously pointing the finger to deflect the blame.

If there's enough truth there to offend you, examine yourself. Then come back.