Not attracted to DP anymore. He makes me feel sick.

[BananaBoat99]

DP has become a bit gross of late. Constant farts. Constant burps. Constant throat cleaning. Plus his snoring keeps me clearing all night every night. It is all infuriating and I feel like I am becoming less and less attracted to him because of it.

How do I fix? Do I just outright tell him? Do I learn to live with it? It's driving me insane to the point that sex is off the cards pretty much permanently.

Don't know what to do. He's the same person, he just doesn't care about manners anymore.

I agree with easy, if he’s given up smoking it may take quite a while before the snoring stops.

I am single but have dated a few people, when it gets to them staying over and I find out they snore it kind of puts a end to things. I hate any kind of noise when I’m sleeping, it makes me angry and grumpy.

My ex husband was a snorer, I think to begin with I wasn’t too bothered because I was so in love with him but as the years went on it bothered me more and more and I found him less atractive. We ended up sleeping in separate beds for 9 years until I finally kicked him out. The snoring got so bad I could hear him from downstairs, he would never go to the GP to ask for help even though it was keeping me awake.

It’s also the name of a dessert and a fairground ride and a major sunscreen brand

Banana Boat Song (Day O) is one of my favourites!

It’s also the name of a dessert and a fairground ride and a major sunscreen brand

And a wonderful song...

Day-o!

Pregnancy may be exacerbating it, but constantly farting and burping and throat clearing is gross and annoying regardless. I think you should tell him that you think it’s disgusting and disrespectful.

Best me to it, Ryder!

I was going to ask if you were pregnant when I read your OP.

I am not saying he ISN'T revolting in his behaviour, it is just that these things can become unbearable when you are pregnant.

Oh this post is making me feel so much better about my current situation. I am 26 weeks pregnant and EVERYTHING about my DH makes me want to punch him. Hearing him eat cereal literally makes me consider murder, and don't get me started on him breathing!!

I had the same thing when I was pregnant with my DD and again when I was on the implant. The last 2 years with no contraception was bliss...I do not think he was any less annoying just that my tolerance levels were higher and I was much less irritable.

His little face when he is eating then catches my glare of disgust is enough to make me realise I am being unreasonable so I am really trying to be better with him and not alienate him.

#hormonesareevil

I feel for you OP. Used to share a small office with a lovely guy who constantly cleared his throat- it drove me insane. I used to say to stbxh that I pitied his partner as I cloud not live with that.

I'm a black woman with West Indian heritage, and I didn't have a clue it was a racist term. I thought it was a boat...

My Ex has sleep apnea and I had to wear wax earplugs in bed as he was such a noisy sleeper, May help with your sleeping? The rest just sounds gross though!

YANBU op.

And isn't a banana boat that big yellow inflatable folk sit on and get pulled round on by a speed boat on holiday?

OP it might just have been my dad’s own made up expression. I don’t really want to share it on here. He was a bit of a racist I’m afraid.

Can't help who you're related to! No need to share. Looks like it did at one point have some vague racist connotations but none that I've heard of.

Sorry to sidetrack your thread!

You really need to tackle him on the burping and farting thing. It’s really disrespectful to you, especially when you’re pregnant and extra-sensitive to these things.

Jeezo professionally offended brigade out in full force

Oh I relate to the annoyance at throat clearing - it always makes me feel I need to clear mine too (ditto sniffing). And I'm not pregnant. I expect you're right about the vaping, and if he did recently stop smoking in a way it's great that his lungs are now working in a way that they have been stopped from doing before.

I get the need to clear my throat too though - I find having a hot drink helps make it less sticky and therefore it kind of sorts itself out more easily or even silently (sorry if that made you ...)

dunno about the burping and farting though. Maybe peppermints?

I do remember having the rage about anythig and everything during pregnancy though. My DH got quite scared of me. That did pass! (mostly )

He's never been a smoker, he just caught on to vaping, started using his mates' and hasn't stopped since. It's pointless. It just got him addicted to nicotine. It's so expensive as well. Does my head in!

When i read your first post I wondered if you were pregnant and then I see you are. I have heard of women who get grossed out by their DPs during pregnancy so it might be this? I know I did. I was sick because of a fart DP did.
Did you feel like this before pregnancy?

I couldn't cope with constant burping and farting either.

when my dad had a major illness and had to work to control it, he would still apologise. It's just euch not to.

He's a non smoker who took up vaping?
That's another reason to hate him

@BreakfastAtSquiffanys it's ridiculous!

(I don't hate him though..)

Man starts vaping because his friends do it. Jesus! No wonder you find him annoying.