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I may well be BU regarding Neighbours parking.... what do you think?

68 replies

Blueberriesandbananas · 19/09/2018 11:47

I know the MN rules regarding parking is to put a diagram on, but I won't as I'll probably out myself!

I moved into my house over ten years ago, the house has off road parking as there's a dropped kerb outside. However, after changing my car eight years ago I could no longer park on the drive as every time I did the car would 'bang on the bottom' as the drive is quite steep. you'd have thought I'd have had the sense to think about this before I bought the car.
Anyway, it wasn't a problem to park on the road instead as there was mostly only my car and ndn's parked on a large stretch of road (where you could probably park seven or eight cars) and part of this includes a lay by.
Ndn has always parked in the lay by (he doesn't have a drive) and I parked just on the straight bit of road, but not directly across my dropped kerb as I preferred to be able to see my car easily. (Kerb nearer to the side of my house more out of view).
Parking like this was all ok, but inevitably over the past few years, other neighbours have bought cars/moved in and the lay by where my ndn parked has been 'taken over' by others who don't go out often, thereby not giving ndn as much opportunity to park there now. Because of this, ndn (or his wife who uses the car for work) started to park their car in the spot I've been using for years.
No problem at all (I could just move a bit further down if ndn was there first). Now though, ndn's son has moved back home with his car and ndn now also comes home in a works van.

Again no problem with this, but, I've noticed over a period of time that if I happen to park where I did for a number of years, ndn and his wife or son often park right up my arse and up to the bonnet leaving me to have to do about 27 manoeuvres to try and get out, and they do that even if there is plenty of room for them to park a little bit further down.
Although, if the lay by is free, ndn's are happy to park there and don't attempt to box me in.
I've started to feel as if they're trying to 'intimidate me' into parking directly outside my dropped kerb so that they are left to have the 'better' parking spots.
I've noticed that if I 'move along' and park across my kerb 'out of their way' they don't park within an inch of my car.
The past couple of weeks though, if either the ndn, his wife and son can't manage to park all three of their vehicles outside our houses, they have taken to parking directly across my dropped kerb, leaving me to park further down the road with my car being out of sight.
This has really pissed me off, especially as they have three vehicles between them, against my one!
Although, I'm prepared to be told I am BU expecting to at least be able to park against my own dropped kerb, as I don't use the drive way.
Mind you, I do use it to turn in and may need to leave access for skips I sometimes have delivered.

What do you think? am I being precious or are my ndn's being intimidating CF's?

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Blueberriesandbananas · 19/09/2018 19:23

If others*

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user139328237 · 19/09/2018 19:25

You need to either get a car that is suitable for your driveway or make your driveway suitable for your car

Blueberriesandbananas · 19/09/2018 19:29

Winchester
I park right next to it, but do park over it if I need to.
Tbh, theres plenty of room for my car to park right near the dropped kerb, with ndn's vehicles parked next to mine.
Trouble is they park like twats usually they tend to just dump their vehicles with about five foot gaps in between their own ones (if all three of theirs are parked together) which takes up so much room.
In short, they only drive close up to other people's cars to make it difficult to get out. Mine especially.

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KnotsInMay · 19/09/2018 19:38

So you can’t use your drive, don’t want to use the road across your drive. And you don’t want anyone else to, either.

People can park where they like on open road but it pusses me off when people have basically commandeered a bit of road by having a dropped kerb over it, but don’t use their drive, don’t use the space across, and use up another bit of road.

I would have knocked on your door and said “when your car is parked over there, is it OK if I park across your drive, now space is tight “

YABU, or at least, inconsiderate.

Mummyoflittledragon · 19/09/2018 20:16

Like how you ignore the posters saying about changing the drive or your car.

NoSleepTil2030 · 19/09/2018 20:30

You're not taking up 3 spaces (as you say you were accused of) but you are taking up 2 spaces instead of 1 by refusing to park on or in front of your drive and not wanting to let anyone else park there either. If it's so important that you see your car then why not offer the space on the road in front of your house to your neighbour, at least whilst you have your current car so can't use the drive?

liverbird79 · 19/09/2018 20:43

I don't see why you wouldn't let the neighbour use your drive and then they could also park behind the car in the drive? You are not being boxed in and everyone has somewhere to park.

Added security for your house as then it looks like someone is in a lot of the time so would deter burglars.

Blueberriesandbananas · 19/09/2018 20:47

No sleep
The neighbour does park in front of our houses, as does his wife and son.

I've already explained earlier that my ndn was more than happy to not move me along when he was able to park in the lay by.
Mummyoflittledragon.

Bit ridiculous of you to say I'm ignoring posters. In answer to you, I can't afford to get the drive done or change my car. Is that enough for you?Hmm

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TheOxymoron · 19/09/2018 20:54

How about asking them if they would like to park across your dropped kerb? though I think it more sensible if you were to do it.

MrsExpo · 19/09/2018 20:54

Tbh, I think i'd change my car for one which will actually go on my drive, and park on the drive. That would save a lot of hassle.

NoSleepTil2030 · 19/09/2018 20:59

But your preference is to park elsewhere, no? So you can see your car? Meaning that you've taken up a space someone else could have (which would be ok if they could then take the space in front of your drive, but you don't want them to).

I am on the other side of a similar scenario (my neighbours have a drive they refuse to use, park in front of* or let anyone else use/park in front of) & it's bloody annoying. Especially when I'm dealing with small children, shopping etc..

  • unless all other spaces are taken
Blueberriesandbananas · 19/09/2018 21:03

Ok I guess I am bu for being annoyed that, now more cars have appeared, I've had to move along to where I can barely see my car. And if I don't move along I'm boxed in. Hmm

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Blueberriesandbananas · 19/09/2018 21:12

For the record, I'm not so bothered people parking across the drive if I'm already parked up. Its only really when i come home and find I cant even park across the kerb because ndn's three vehicles are all parked next to each other (with five foot gaps in between each vehicle), which then means I have to go further down the road.

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DontCallMeCharlotte · 19/09/2018 21:48

You could argue that maybe I'm using one extra space by not parking against the dropped kerb, but if I could park on the drive then the kerb space wouldn't be available anyway for someone to park on as I'd be blocked in!

But you are wasting an extra space by not using the space outside your own house. I genuinely don't understand this overriding need to be able to see your car?

I'm sorry I rather think you've brought this on yourself.

Also, unless you're Gerald Scarfe or Quentin Blake, I'm intrigued as to how a diagram would out you Smile

Winchester89 · 19/09/2018 22:35

I really don't understand why you're bothered if you can't see your car? I assume you don't have eyes on it 24/7?

Otterseatpuffinsdontthey · 19/09/2018 22:36

Q

nocoriander · 20/09/2018 09:25

It's very annoying when people with several cars don't park considerately and the boxing you in is nasty.
They're unlikely to be the type you can speak to about it though so, given you can't change your car or your drive, I'm afraid you're just going to have to put up with it.

Blueberriesandbananas · 20/09/2018 11:03

nocoriander
I agree, even the ndn's friends have started to park against the dropped kerb too.

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