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Original poster

To call the police about creepy car on street

291 replies

sianais · 19/09/2018 01:06

Hi all,

Hoping there's someone up who can make me feel a little better. Basically for the last few nights a black Mercedes has been pulling up on the street with a direct view into my upstairs window (full length, curtains always open). Always after midnight. It sits there for around an hour sometimes more, sidelights on and no interior lights (occupants not even having phone screens on which light their faces...) but definitely people inside.

When this happened a few nights ago I saw the reflection of something pointed at my house as a car drove past - looks like a camera lens or similar. I called the police, they sent someone to drive by but they left without speaking to the car. 20 minutes ish later someone left the car, walked across the car park behind my house to another street. The car pulled off a little later.

I assumed it was a couples liaison or something and that I was imagining the lens reflection. It's been here for the last couple nights but I ignored it. Tonight I saw the reflection of something again and watched the drivers side occupant scratch their face clearly holding something and body positioned towards my house. Called police again and shut my curtains. Around 5 minutes later the car pulled away.

Am I being paranoid, or am I being watched?! Sitting here telling myself both things alternately. I live alone with my 3 year old daughter for context.

OP posts:
AimlesslyPurposeful · 21/09/2018 00:09

Could ring your local police station and ask if anyone is available to come out now and speak to the person/people in the car as you’re a single mother and this is now becoming a worry?

TheHollowLeggedGoat · 21/09/2018 00:10

I would definitely be calling the police. The fact that they have engaged thus far suggests that they are willing to take this seriously. Call the police now and you could have your answer.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 21/09/2018 00:13

Jesus, call the police and ask them to do a drive by! Are you alone?

LoveAGoodChat · 21/09/2018 00:15

Op so let's get this straight, you deliberately parked in a way so they couldn't park outside your house unless they blocked the carpark entrance, and instead of parking anywhere else in the street they have blocked the carpark entrance so they are still in full view of your house?

Op that is worrying, it sounds like they are watching you, it could be some weirdo you have never talked to who has decided to stalk you...please get back on to the police and insist they send someone out to talk to the car people, you are not paranoid, any of us would be just as worried and afraid..

Op consider getting night vision goggles from Amazon, they are under a tenner for the cheapest and you will be able to get a glimpse of who is in that car and what they are doing...

Original poster
sianais · 21/09/2018 00:15

Panda, anywhere between 1 hour and 2. Never usually less than that.

Losingthewill, they've said they'll add my address to their rounds - they didn't say call back if it showed again. Should I? Is this escalation? There's an empty space the other side of the car park entrance and space all behind my car - space the other side is directly under a streetlight and spaces behind are further from car park entrance.

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Losingthewill1 · 21/09/2018 00:17

It doesn’t matter what they have said, this person(s) is still following you.

Call the police -.- and advise that you need a patrol car to come round because you fear that someone is watching you and has been for DAYS as per the previous record.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 21/09/2018 00:18

Yes, call back.

MintySweets · 21/09/2018 00:18

Police NOW

ar44455 · 21/09/2018 00:18

I don't think your being paranoid at all this would massively freak me out !
Keep an eye out the couple of nights and keep ringing the police every time it stops outside your house. Tell them to question the person they are facing your property and looking in ! I would not like this at all. Make sure your house is locked securely and close curtains.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 21/09/2018 00:18

Keep posting, op. This is worrying.

Candymay · 21/09/2018 00:19

Oh my goodness how scary! I would have had the curtains closed after the first incident though. It’s a good idea about getting some security cameras and maybe a burglar alarm system. I wouldn’t wait for a landlord to do it I’d just buy it myself. Then some binoculars so that you can spy on the car!

Ignoramusgiganticus · 21/09/2018 00:25

I'd be calling the police too.

Can they see you looking out and observing them? Could that be part of their fun?

ar44455 · 21/09/2018 00:26

OP call the police ! This need investigating ASAP ! Why are they parking so they can see your house. Hope your ok

ar44455 · 21/09/2018 00:27

Ask the police to come to your house

tessiegirl · 21/09/2018 00:34

Are you ok ok?

tessiegirl · 21/09/2018 00:34

Op

MipMipMip · 21/09/2018 00:41

Look at it this way - if they can get this sorted now they can remove your street from the list and save lots of time in the future. Ring them!

Cantthinkofabloodyname · 21/09/2018 00:43

I would ask the police to physically me out to your house and speak to you. That way everything is very visible.

Original poster
sianais · 21/09/2018 00:44

Hi all. I closed my curtains immediately as the car arrived and called the police. Instead of their 1-2 hour stay they left as I was on the phone- lady took me very seriously. She's flagged the car for observation and has told me that I need to ring as soon as it comes back tomorrow - DD is at her dad's for weekend so I will be totally alone (send hugs). They will send someone out to find out what exactly is going on.

Thank you all - it's scary from where I am. Dispatcher said she'd feel exactly the same as me and that they will now be checking other incident reports against mine and see if anyone has made similar complaints. She was great, really reassuring.

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ReanimatedSGB · 21/09/2018 00:47

They're probably after one of your neighbours. Either lively potential divorce case or you live in the same road as Mr Big Smack Dealer.

AimlesslyPurposeful · 21/09/2018 00:47

I really hope you call the police OP.

They won’t think you’re wasting their time if that’s your worry. Far better they catch them watching your or neighbouring houses (The person in the car might be known to police) than having to find them once a house has been broken into.

Also as a PP said, and yes these cases are rare, but perhaps someone watching/stalking you.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 21/09/2018 00:47

Great that they’re taking it seriously. Will you be able to get some sleep now they’ve clocked off for this evening?!

AimlesslyPurposeful · 21/09/2018 00:51

Sorry, ignore my post. I hadn’t seen your update.

So glad you rang! The Dispatcher sounds lovely and it’s great you now know to ring immediately when they return.

MipMipMip · 21/09/2018 00:51

Sounds like the police are on the ball. So glad you're ok.

Would you consider leaving the curtains open once you've phone the police tomorrow. It should increase the chances of their still being there when the police arrive. It would feel horrible though so no one would blame you if you didn't.

Stay safe.Flowers

AimlesslyPurposeful · 21/09/2018 00:54

As you closed the curtains when the car arrived could that be why they left immediately when previously they haven’t?
It might be wise to leave the curtains open when they arrive next in the hope they stay long enough for the police to get there.