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Holiday house for the weekend, dividing costs

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scottishlovely · 19/09/2018 00:34

A good friend is turning 30 next year, and wants a bunch of us (uni friends + families) to go away for the weekend.
She's found a nice house for us the rent. It's got a mega posh master suite, a couple of standard doubles, and a couple of sofa beds in the lounge.
She wants to split the cost equally, so £350 per couple. It's bloody expensive!
My AIBU; to think that the poor sods who end up on the sofa beds in the communal space, should not be paying as much as those that have a room to call their own. Bday girl gets master suite, but I suppose that's only right and proper...

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MarthasGinYard · 19/09/2018 00:37

Presumably the 'families' will be in the actual bedrooms

Any singles on sofa beds should pay slightly less IMO

TakeAChanseyOnMe · 19/09/2018 00:37

Sounds like she needs to find a better house with enough bedrooms for everyone!

MarthasGinYard · 19/09/2018 00:38

'Sounds like she needs to find a better house with enough bedrooms for everyone!'

Seems a good idea

Original poster
scottishlovely · 19/09/2018 00:41

There are no single people coming. Everyone is in a couple.

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Justgivemeasoddingname · 19/09/2018 00:43

Yes I agree with you all. It's tricky to say but you could come out in apparent defense of those who do end up on sofas- whether it ends up being you or someone else.
Have a search and see if you could find a bigger house. Where are you planning to go?

user1238544334565 · 19/09/2018 03:46

If she wants people to go away to celebrate her birthday (ie. her), she can pay for the entire rental herself.

Failing that, the pay scale should be based on the quality of the rooms. There's no way someone sleeping on a sofa bed in the lounge should be paying as much as someone in a proper bedroom. She just wants her friends to subsidise her having the best room.

milkysmum · 19/09/2018 03:51

She needs to rent somewhere with enough bedrooms. I woukd not be paying 350 to sleep on a sofa bed in the lounge. How will you work out who gets which room if you do go?

Monty27 · 19/09/2018 03:58

Is your friend ok to stay in the communal sofas?
It's bollox to me as far as splitting hairs expenses go. Cake

Returnofthesmileybar · 19/09/2018 04:03

No way I'd pay the same for a sofa bed with zero privacy, not that I'd go if that's where I had to sleep with my family - hell on earth!

Sleepykate · 19/09/2018 04:11

That sounds like an awfully inappropriate house. You need to find somewhere better or this trip won't be good. If I was on a sofa bed paying the same as the people in the master room I'd probably kick off.

jay55 · 19/09/2018 04:14

£350 would get a nice hotel room for a weekend. No way I’d pay that for a sofa bed.

Holidayshopping · 19/09/2018 04:16

Sounds like a shit choice of accommodation and I wouldn’t be going if I had to spend my nights on a sofa. I’d rather spend half that and sleep in a travel lodge, in-you know-a bed! Whoever sleeps on the sofa beds is basically laying a fortune to subsidise her nice posh suite-what a good friend!

Tell her now though that you won’t be coming. Don’t wait until the week before.

Josiebloggs · 19/09/2018 04:22

I wouldn't pay £350 to celebrate a friends birthday unless they lived abroad and I went to visit. I certainly wouldn't want to pay that to sleep on a sofa bed in a communal room with little privacy.

HollyBollyBooBoo · 19/09/2018 04:25

That's going to be a crazy expensive weekend when you add on food/drink/ getting there. I'd be opting out at this stage!

BedtimeTea · 19/09/2018 04:26

She is being very unreasonable to want to rent a place with not enough bedrooms. I would tell her I was not attending unless she gets a better house.

Holidayshopping · 19/09/2018 04:27

Is it only 8 people going? If someone drops out-presumably the price will rocket even higher. Do not agree to this!!

KC225 · 19/09/2018 06:45

Scrap the house. Why not just book a nice hotel, 350 would get you somewhere quite nice for a couple of nights.

Peterrabbitscarrots · 19/09/2018 06:48

I’d stay in a nearby hotel and meet up with the group during the day if I was being charged £350 for a sofa bed

EmmaGrundyForPM · 19/09/2018 06:52

So this house has only got 3 bedrooms and its still comong out at £350 per couple??? That's ridiculous.

If you have 5 couples going then you need 5 bedrooms. There are loads of holiday rentals where you would get a 5 bedrooms house for less than £1750 for a weekend.

We've shared houses with groups of friends before and drawn straws for who is getting which bedroom. There"s always been enough bedrooms though!

londonrach · 19/09/2018 06:55

Needs a better house

positivepixie · 19/09/2018 07:15

YANBU. Someone needs to say something to the birthday girl otherwise she's going to have a lot of resentful friends! People on the sofa beds (without kids presumably) will be peed off paying £350 but will also have the joy of kids up early wanting to play on them! More bedrooms required!

MarthasGinYard · 19/09/2018 07:46

'uni friends + families)'

Are kids going or just couples?

HolidayModeMum · 19/09/2018 07:50

The house is not suitable!Hell would freeze over before I would pay £350 to sleep on a sofa for the weekend while birthday girl is enjoying the master suite!!!!
You need new friends.

Inertia · 19/09/2018 07:51

She needs to find a different house with enough bedrooms for the number of couples.

RainbowsArePretty · 19/09/2018 07:52

That's hugely expensive for it only being a weekend with insufficient bedrooms!

I think an alternate property needs to be found with one bedroom per couple. Ideally with multiple shower rooms too

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