Holiday house for the weekend, dividing costs

[scottishlovely]

A good friend is turning 30 next year, and wants a bunch of us (uni friends + families) to go away for the weekend.
She's found a nice house for us the rent. It's got a mega posh master suite, a couple of standard doubles, and a couple of sofa beds in the lounge.
She wants to split the cost equally, so £350 per couple. It's bloody expensive!
My AIBU; to think that the poor sods who end up on the sofa beds in the communal space, should not be paying as much as those that have a room to call their own. Bday girl gets master suite, but I suppose that's only right and proper...

I wouldn’t stay there. We go away as a large group fairly regularly and always get somewhere with enough bedrooms for everyone to have one - we’ve never spent £350!!

My AIBU; to think that the poor sods who end up on the sofa beds in the communal space, should not be paying as much as those that have a room to call their own.

^I completely agree

I agree

I'd back out now. And tell her why. There's no way I'd spend that much money to kip on a sofa in a shared house.

It’s not a nice house for the occasion if there aren’t enough bedrooms. Your friend sounds really thoughtless. I’m currently staying in a beautiful 5 bedroom holiday home with 3 couples and 1 child and we are paying £116 each for a week - where is this place she has chosen and why is it so expensive?

There is absolutely no way in hell we would pay £350 to sleep on a sofa bed - what a joke!!! I'd be checking in to a very nice hotel instead.

£350 per couple is ridiculous for the weekend even if you get a bedroom! I've done similar holidays with friends and paid (less than) half that. If she wants "mega posh" you'd be better spending out on a hotel.

For someone else's thirtieth birthday...that's an awful lot of money in the first place, never mind any other details. And that's not covering anything other than accommodation? No way.

There is zero way I'd pay that amount of money for accommodation like that. She's taking the p expecting people to shell out that for her birthday and sleep on a bloody sofa. Sounds crap, too, uni friends + family. Back out now.

The house isn't big enough - you need enough bedrooms for the number of people not 'sleeps 16' but only say 4 bedrooms.

I wouldn’t pay that to sleep on a sofa bed. Plus you haven’t got your own space to go to if you want time out from everyone! She needs to find a house with enough bedrooms. Or book a hotel.

So, there's 3 rooms.Are there 5 couples because two would have to share the living room. That is uber shit.

Honestly, who are these entitled snowflakes who expect people to stump up huge sums of money because it's their bloody birthday? I can't image asking my friends to shell out £350+ to celebrate my birthday, much less sleep on a sofa bed. Don't indulge her, say no now.

For my 40th I have rented a youth hostel under their exclusive hire scheme (very good value for large groups). I've asked for a contribution of £100 a room. All rooms sleep 4 and are en suite. I've made it very clear that I do not expect people to come and checked with the main people I wanted to invite before I booked.

I'd go back to the drawing board and find a new house. People on sofa beds? Nah. There are millions of nice houses for rent with enough bedrooms. If she wants a posh master suite, then she can pay for one on her own weekend away!

Clearly this house is massively unsuitable. Your friend knows that as the birthday girl and the organiser, she will get the fabulous master suite, and the rest of you will be left squabbling over what's left. Every person/couple going needs to be offered a similar level of comfort, so she either needs to keep looking, or accept that she'll be spending her birthday on her own. No way would I be agreeing to such an arrangement.

I wouldn’t mind paying to stay somewhere to celebrate a friends birthday.....

However, I would definitely want a room for that kind of money.

• lack of privacy
• have to stay up until everyone is ready for bed

-most sofa beds are smaller than a real bed and not as comfy

• get woken up when people decide to get up

No chance. I’d suggest a different house. A financial split wouldn’t even be on my agenda as regardless of cost I’d not be happy with the arrangements.

So the couples in the sofa-beds would actually be sharing a room i.e. as in 2 couples in one room ? Fairer to split by room so if you're sharing with another couple you pay half as much.

Or she gets a bigger property and stops being a princess - turning 30 does not entitle you to the master suite.

Defo not fair to pay the same money as someone who has a room. I went away with a group of friends recently and one poor sod had to have the sofa bed in the lounge, but she paid half what the rest did.

OP, I would say your friend should be paying for the accommodation as she's the one who wants the weekend away. You can't invite people then charge them for the pleasure of an invite.

18 of us went away for a week to a very amazing house in Devon this summer. 12 proper bedrooms, six bathrooms, huge kitchen, three sitting rooms, games room, laundry, tennis courts etc etc. £250 per person for the week. You're being ripped off!

You just know that some selfish prat will send their kids of to play/watch tv in the living room, so the poor sods sleeping their will get no peace for a lie in/sex. Plus they’ll end up being asked by the kids to sort out squabbles, get them drinks, etc. Never mind paying less to sleep in that room, you couldn’t pay me to do it!

Before the no room debacle comes into place, it’s not a fair split, it should be priced per person, not per couple, unless every couple have the same amount of children. I wouldn’t pay to have no bedroom or for someone else’s children.

She wants to split the cost equally, so £350 per couple. It's bloody expensive!

No fucking way, she needs to find somewhere where all people have a private room (or are happy to stay on the sofa bed for a very reduced share of the cost).

You’re better off renting a bunch of villas with a communial area to get together. Same price and same accommodation for everyone.