AIBU to tell my MIL to stop making it her life’s work to fill my house up with utter crap?

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Every sodding week she brings a ‘present’ for DS. This week it’s this ‘iPad bag’. Look at the fucking size of it. And that’s a bag apparently. WTF

My mum does it with food. I wish it were tat and I could chuck it. I say only 2 small treats but I am mean apparently, so she keeps feeding more and more chocolates whilst I protest and try to hide them. DD loves it but then wonders why there are no treats for a week after. DM has made DD sick in the night several times from too much chocolate.
She begs me and says 'a freddo won't hurt.' No, one won't but she fails to grasp DD is 3 and has eaten 2 freddos, cake, crisps, a million biscuits, 4 yoghurts and probably mcdonalds previously in the day. All washed down with about 2 litres of whole milk.
She is not allowed to visit often.

I quite like it. And I like your flooring

OMG, I think I'm actually this gran

My MiL does it with food too. The constant undermining really gets to me. The worst one was when we were out in a restaurant, I didn't want DD (age 2ish) to have a milkshake, as I didn't want to wrangle a sugared toddler in a crowded space. She said 'oh go on, just a bit' and gave away MY milkshake before I could stop her I was very annoyed, and we had to leave in a rush because DD got overexcited.

That frog is awesome! Very cute. I want one for our iPad!

My poor MIL has a hoarding issue and I feel she is in danger of passing it on to us too with all the stuff she buys. It has caused difficulties because she gets upset when we explain why we can't take everything/something isn't necessary etc etc. Where I can i funnel things to charity shop and food bank. It started off as from a kind place but it's become a real bone of contention.

Sorry didn't mean that to be all serious

Lols

She enjoys giving it
DC enjoys getting it
You enjoy giving it away
Everyone's happy

It’s a bag and a stand send it my way , my three year old ds would love it.

@cholka

At what point did you get 'You enjoy giving it away'?

I highly doubt the OP enjoys the endless chore of reducing the amount of shit in her home and having to dispose of it one way or another.

@RustyBear Nanny Ogg! 😂😂😂😂😂
And yes you'd think a banana slicer was just a knife but this thing looks like a medieval torture device and even more irritatingly does not fit all bananas!!!!!!!!

Oh op I feel your pain.

My mil is a bargain shopper, and frequents charity shops. A lot ends up back at the charity shop as my dds don’t like it. It’s usually clothes and dds are 7 and 9 now, and like choosing what to wear.

We get random shit that you buy at service stations or garages. It tends to go in the bin or get immediately gifted to the charity shop and this isn't just MIL but also my DM!

My parents are currently decluttering and the latest was: did we want their old cups?

That is truly hideous 😂 YADNBU

Make sure that you donate to charity shops not in your locality as she may see it and go "Oh great - I know I gave Basin one of these, she needs a matching pair of it" (whatever it is). Then she may end up paying twice for the same item that you've just relocated to the charity shop!

I had to start making my DM return stuff. I was putting many ££ worth of brand new stuff straight in the bin because it seemed rude to not pretend to be grateful. In the end I had to start saying we don’t want this, take it back. She sometimes gets upset but she was wasting a fortune!

My MIL used to do this, but not with anything new she'd bought, just old stuff of hers that she seemed to think we would feel grateful and privileged for because everything she'd ever bought was the epitome of style and good taste (it really wasn't). And she was a hoarder, so had TONS of stuff.
She brought hideous curtains, light shades, duvet covers from the 70s, and pots and pans with flowers on them etc. to us from her attic, saying what wonderful quality they were and how expensive they'd been at the time. I asked why she replaced them herself then, but she said I was ungrateful, and young people starting out should appreciate the help.
This went on until DH and I were in our 40s and had plenty of our own nice things!

My mil does this with charity shop finds,so far this year we've had a childs puzzle with half the pieces missing, a dirty teddy bear with an ear hanging off and several ripped books. If I see her coming with a bag,I take it straight off her and put it away while telling her thanks as if dd sees it,she wants it.
She does the same with my dh's junk mail that goes up to hers such as newsletters from companies that he bought something from years ago and any other junk that that has his name on,puts it all lovingly into a bag to be given to us when she see us.
Tried speaking to her about this and it falls on deaf ears so I keep taking it and chucking/recycling where I can.

Why the 3 slices of bread?!

My DM does this - I find it really sweet, even as my heart sinks. My problem is DS has a very acute memory for things he saw once several months ago, and will start taking the house apart looking for some awful toy that went to Sue Ryder months ago.

spiky thats it, it’s not charity shop stuff it’s brand new and she spends £. DS doesn’t need any more stuff we are drowning in toys and clothes, and he has only just has a birthday too.

The bread - no idea. How do you end up with 3 slices of bread in a carrier bag? Forgot to ask her I just binned it.

My MIL is addicted to online shopping. We regularly receive parcels in the mail containing fruit loop earrings, odd assortment and colours of cosmetics, weird colognes and after shaves ( Who wants to smell like Justin Bieber?) and decorating disasters like a talking trout. My MIL is generous and lovely but the money wasted on these things is mind blowing (and sad)

My DM landed on Sunday with-
3 potatoes
Half a bag of brown pasta
Out of date tuna
Half a bottle of water and half a bottle of milk

Left behind in the hoilday let they own. She gave me strangers leftovers!! (And the dodgy tuna- what the hell!)

I’ve got one of those, we have a European velour animal mountain.

Horrible, collects dust, takes up half a wardrobe and is completely pointless. I give them to charity when ds isn’t looking.

My late DM used to do this. She didn't buy stuff especially,it was just old stuff of hers that she didn't want any more. She was constantly trying to give me old books (a stack of enormous tomes from the 1950s on TELEPHONY FFS),old cooking utensils,toiletries that she didn't want any more,out of date food,you name it,she tried to give it to me. I swear she was under the impression that I lived in a vast mansion with unlimited storage space. The reality was a smallish 2 bedroom second floor flat. Whereas she lived in a 3 bedroom house,with one of the bedrooms as a spare,a garage,a large conservatory,a utility room and a shed! It used to cause a lot of tension between us and I lost count of how many times I had to explain to her that I just didn't have room for all this crap stuff.