AIBU to tell my MIL to stop making it her life’s work to fill my house up with utter crap?

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Every sodding week she brings a ‘present’ for DS. This week it’s this ‘iPad bag’. Look at the fucking size of it. And that’s a bag apparently. WTF

I feel your pain. I have some horrors as well. My mil brings something awful every time she sees my ds. She gets a lot of stuff in second hand shops or tk max. My local charity shop does well out of her. It’s well meaning but total crap. She bought me a coffee travel mug with no lid recently so I can keep pens on it

My MIL volunteers in a charity shop, the crap she gives my daughter, old soft toys, blankets, dolls - as if I haven’t got enough of my own tat, I don’t need other people’s cast offs

I suppose now isn’t the time to say I love that bag and ask where she got it?

Yanbu

Tell her that any ire stuff she buys will need to go straight back with her. Enough is enough.

proud you can have this one!

Honestly on what planet would you buy this? And she knows I hate pointless crap....

That’s not a bag it’s a stand for watching movies.

It’s both apparently Marvel, and for that I’m supposed to think it’s a good purchase.

Does it also serve as a cushion onong journies?

Why is this a problem? Have regular car boots and make some money out of her shite.

I think it’s a grandparent thing because dm does this. I think they enjoy buying random pointless crap because they can, they don’t have to prioritise all the necessities

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Before I clicked on this I was convinced this was my SIL posting.

My mother loves buying junk.
I’ve now reached acceptance with moderate “neutral”boundaries. (Neutral meaning I no longer get the rage)

I either put it straight back in the car and say thank you for thinking of me but you keep it for yourself or smile&say thank you then throw it away immediately.

We now have a tacit argeement that I will let about 1 item in 10 slip through the net to clutter up my lovely house for a year or so before its quietly rehomed in a nearby charity shop.

Ahahahahaha that is so shit

I once mentioned to my mil that I disliked having no storage in our small kitchen. Since then we have received every kitchen gadget known to mankind. Including plate warmers(?!), no fewer than THREE coffee machines, a buffet station(??!!!!) and A BANNANA SLICER. I hate bananas.

We are not the closest and to maintain relationships I accept all this crap with a smile and a 'how very thoughtful'. DH on the other hand has no tact and says to her 'what the hell will we do with this?!' every time 😂😂😂 she has not got the message yet.

BANANA* apologies for my mid rant misspelling

Mine’s the same, especially at Christmas. She buys me a bag load of naff tat from the garden centre (seen it all in there) - post it notes, notepad/pen sets, twee sayings on signs, key rings, ornaments etc We did a big clearout recently and a back bin liner of the shite when to the charity shop.

I like to keep baby's room neutral and calming, lots of storage so toys etc tucked out of the way for the most part. My dm seems to make it her mission to clutter it with the brightest, tackiest colours and toys in the world. I know kids toys are bright. But whyyyyy when I tell her no does she still do it?!

Next time it's gonna be "right, anything you buy now is to be kept at yours unless it's an exception for a special toy.

She also brought a carrier bag with 3 slices of bread in it with her today.

I'm in the same boat! I know it makes her and my DD happy so I don't say anything, I just keep it for a bit then charity shop time!

@toomuchtv88 - not as bad as Nanny Ogg, who spelt it banananananana, because she “knew how to start spelling 'banana', but didn't know how you stopped”

I think I saw something like that bag/stand/cushion in a motorway service station the other day. Or possibly a garden centre. It’s that kind of product...

She also brought a carrier bag with 3 slices of bread in it with her today.

Did she say why?

Hahaha I can relate to this!!!

My MIL tries so hard not to buy junk but can’t help it. Bless them, just bored I think? Also isn’t giving one of the ‘languages of love’? All well intended x

A banana slicer?? Wouldn’t that be A FRUIT KNIFE? Where do people find these things?

@RustyBear You beat me too it with the Nanny Ogg reference

Mine's the same. When the DC were very small I was able to deflect some of it back with a 'wouldn't it be lovely to keep it at your's for them to play with there' (this stopped the flow for a bit- her house is very neat and colour co-ordinated).

Now they're older she hands the tat directly to them and of course they want to keep it.

She also hates to throw anything away so regularly brings us her cast-offs that she thinks will be 'useful'. Best to date are a 'handy' large wooden box to store wine glasses (holds 2) which took up almost all the counter space in my kitchen, wooden spoons which are too small to actually use but have names of herbs on them, and the very best not one but 2 bags of used knickers (some too big for her that she thought might be good for me and some too small for her that she thought would be ideal for teenage DD).