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To think my friend is in the wrong not me?

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Pianolegs · 18/09/2018 12:51

A friend I have known for for 40 odd years has cut off all contact with me. She lives on the other side of the world from me now but we were at school together and saw a lot of each other from the age of 11 until our early thirties.

We have led quite different lives, I had my first DC at the age of 20 followed by two more a few years later. She hasn't got any DC and didn't get married until she was 35.

I have always looked after myself financially and made sure I got a proper settlement when I divorced my first husband, my second husband died and left me our house and some money. Her DH is a low earner and sponges off her a bit and they don't have much money, she still works full-time and I think she is jealous of my financial security.

She was complaining about some chronic pain she suffers from because of arthritis and I was sympathetic at first but she was going on about it and then she got really bitchy saying she wished she had just shagged a few old men like me instead of working all her life.

I told her I didn't like her attitude and that it wasn't my fault her DH is so useless, now she has cut me off on social media and I don't suppose we will ever see one another again.

I can't believe our friendship of so long means nothing to her, I have always tried to be a good friend to her and she does something like that, it's not me, is it?

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lindalee3 · 18/09/2018 15:58

@Pianolegs

You sound smug and patronising and quite unpleasant and NOT a good friend at ALL.

I think she is better off without you, and I would have blocked your ass too! Hmm

Saying her husband 'sponges off her,' because she earns more than him?! How fucking rude. Lots of women earn more than their husband/partner, that doesn't make the men spongers or cocklodgers. This is 2018 FFS, men ARE allowed to earn less than their wife/partner without being made to feel they are a scrounging twat! Hmm

Duskqueen · 18/09/2018 16:44

No it's not your friend it is you OP. It might not be easy listening to someone complain all the time but then again it isn't a walk in the park for her either. If you were a real friend you would have just listened to her, but I suppose your luxuries are far more important.

Babycham1979 · 18/09/2018 17:27

I have always looked after myself financially and made sure I got a proper settlement when I divorced my first husband, my second husband died and left me our house and some money. Her DH is a low earner and sponges off her a bit and they don't have much money, she still works full-time and I think she is jealous of my financial security

Sounds like you're the sponger, love!

Thatstheendofmytether · 18/09/2018 17:43

I hat a troll that doesn't follow through with a thread. If you are going to start a bullshit thread at least think of some good follow up posts and keep us entertained or try and convince us your not 😂. You have let yourself down OP disappointing!

Pianolegs · 18/09/2018 21:45

Thanks for the genuine opinions, I wouldn't waste anyone's time or my own trolling. The implication that I killed my second husband is offensive, when my friend was getting married he had just been diagnosed with a terminal illness.

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Crunchymum · 18/09/2018 21:51

I have Arthritis and it's a debilitating condition.... It can render you disabled / unable to do even the most simple of tasks. Sorry you got bored with her illness Angry

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