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Lying ex was 3 hours late dropping baby back

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user1496231209 · 17/09/2018 21:10

Second time DD's dad had her without me and it was bloody awful which ended up with me calling the police.
We came up to London so he could take her to see his grandad and agreed to drop her to me at the station for 3pm.
He left me and my 7 year old son stood there till 6.00pm and I used the station phone to call the police at that time because my phone died and he still hasn’t come back and she’s only 6 weeks old. He was ignoring my texts phone calls after texting at 4pm to say he’d lost track of time. I tried to ring straight after that text three times with no answer.
My older brother came and got my eldest as I was too scared to leave encase he turned up.
When he did, DD was dressed in just a vest and he stared shouting at me telling me she was too hot in a babygrow. He then proceeded to pull out a babygrow which apparently was soaking when I handed him but clearly he had dipped it in water as it didn’t smell of urine and wasn’t even the one she was wearing when I dropped her off but the spare one I packed.
He was really verbally aggressive and said if I wanted to make trouble (cause I called the police) then he could do the same for me.

Since then I've had numerous texts filled with lies about me, my parenting, my mental health and the aggressive incident which took place.

I'm still in such a shock and his latest text has said he will be down at 2.30 on Saturday to see DD. Am I being unreasonable denying contact until I've arranged mediation and from there obtained a court order in regards to contact and residence?

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Justanothernameonthepage · 18/10/2018 16:14

I'd also contact your mp. They'll have the power to get the police to look very carefully at your case.

RB68 · 18/10/2018 16:35

DV staff are very knowledeable about these matters please do contact them - this happens alot - you do not have to give your child to a Father that behaves like this (It is tantamount to abuse and neglect) however as he has PR your child is at risk of abduction by someone who is inappropriate to care for them - you need to involve SS and DV teams

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