To not fix DS's dented car?

[graceandmichael]

DS parked his car on the wrong bit, he has the back driveway but parked it in DH's spot as he thought he'd be back out before DH got home. DH came home, obviously thinking it was empty and as he reverses in, he doesn't particularly see what's there as it's really tucked away. He reversed on and boom, hit DS's car. There's quite a bad dent in it. Have been quoted £450 to fix. We don't particularly have the spare money and would have to 'find it'. DS has a few thousand in savings and DH thinks he should pay for it if he cares enough about the dent because of the way it happened.

After opinions please and thanks for reading.

Is your husband an Audi driver by any chance?

I mean he needs to agree with DS how he is going to pay DS for it.

Of course your DH should pay. He hit a parked car! You ALWAYS have to check when reversing as you simply never know what might be there. It's not good enough to just 'expect' it to be clear. Unbelievable!

Well yes o course your husband should pay for the damage as he caused it. You should also get your own car checked out, even if you can't see any damage.

Somebody reversed into me in a car park and the damage looked very superficia (a couple of scratches) but when I took it to the garage , the assessor pointed out the cracks underneath the bumper and the damage behind the front grille that we hadn't noticed. I was astonished that what seemed like a teeny little bump caused so much damage and cost over £1000 to put right.

Your husband should pay for the damage. And he should look before he reverses

Your DH should have been looking where he was going. If this were an insurance claim he would be 100 percent to blame. He needs to man up, stop playing the victim and pay up. Blaming his son is both disgusting and pathetic.

If your DH doesn't watch where he is driving, then he shouldn't be on the road. Hitting something because "it wasn't supposed to be there" is no excuse!

FWIW, I reversed into a car one night years ago when I was young, when I hadn't demisted properly, and didn't see the other car in the dark. I immediately found the owner and offered to pay for the damage. Luckily it was minimal , on an old banger, so they said not to worry about it, but I did the decent thing.

DH reversed into DS's car, he needs to pay for the damage. What a CF your DH is!

I've twice had (different) neighbours reverse into my car without looking, when it was parked outside my house but a couple of feet further forwards or backwards than usual. Both coughed up for repair.

As the saying goes
"SMIDSY"
"Well you would have done if you'd looked."

Another one saying DH should pay. It doesn't matter what he expects, he should always check behind him when reversing. Could have been a person pottering about there, or an animal.

One where I think it might be good to show DH the thread.

Why would anyone even bother asking this? The answer's obvious. Dad pays, he hit a stationary car.

I bet if it was the other way around your DH would be expecting your DS to pay

Absolutely your OH should pay - he reversed without checking, he is solely at fault.

As an aside is he intending on finding the money to fix his own car? Maybe he should live with the dented car and use that money to pay for the fix to DS's car.

I cannot believe you have to ask this either. Your poor son, it would appear you want to be siding with your DH over this.

I'm also just wondering why it would be such a heinous crime for somebody else to park in 'his' space. Is he generally such an entitled arse?

What on earth are you teaching your son

Will talk to DH, clearly he needs to pay.

Surprisingly, there's no damage to DH's car. It is much larger though, if that makes a difference.

Dh should pay. If ds has the money could he pay now and you then pay him back each month?

What if a visitor parked in his spot?
Do they have to pay for the damage?

Your DH should clearly pay.

Are you hard up? Is your adult son living with you rent free? Is there maybe already resentment about finances from your husband towards your son?

YABU, Your DH should pay. He's carelessly reversed in without checking behind him. It doesn't matter that someone 'doesn't normally use that bit'.

Rephrase your question 'IABU, DH reversed his car round a corner and hit neighbours visitors parked car, but he doesn't normally park there. Should DH pay for the damage?'.......... Just because it's your son's car, doesn't give your DH the right to refuse to pay for the damage he caused!

I reversed into a wall, that I didn't see (2ft high), thought I was miles away out of the bay I was parking in and broke the towbar on my dads car. I had to pay for the damage. I couldn't say 'well the wall isn't usually there'........

It's sad that you even think of raiding your sons savings to compensate for your husbands carelessness. What kind of a life's lesson is that? Remember, one day it could be your DS who chooses the care home!

Your son should call his insurers, pass on the details of the person who hit his parked cat and let them sort it out. They'll recover the cost from your husband's insurance.

CrochetBelle

Hey!!!!!! Not all Audi drivers fail to pay attention (or try to squirm out of taking responsibility).

"We don't particularly have the spare money......"
What on earth does that mean? You either have or can find the money or you don't and you can't!

Your DH needs to learn to check what is going on around him when he is driving. He should never be reversing (or indeed driving in any direction) without checking. Not ever. Not even in his space which is usually free. It is 100% his fault. Secondly, if you dent someone else's car, you pay for it. Doesn't matter how much money they have. You do it, you pay for it.