to think there's nothing wrong with selling on old stuff?

[YerAuntFanny]

Facebook friend of a friend (now deleted as all she seems to do is moan) has posted a massive rant about how "skanky" it is to sell on used children's things and that "these people have no shame".

Now, I see nothing wrong with this and quite a few people posted to ask her what they should do with it and her reply was to "skip it because no one wants your old shit" and that if you can't afford to bin stuff then you shouldn't have kids. Surprisingly 2 or 3 people also pitched in to agree.

I honestly had no idea that people would be against this, if it's good condition and usable then I really can't see the issue for the sake of the environment, saving some cash and making a few £'s for the kids piggy banks.

Why is she so bothered? I’m on a FB group that does it. We put the money we make into DDs piggy bank. Stuff that doesn’t sell goes to charity shop. It’d be so wasteful to throw it away when another kid could enjoy it.

Are you posting it in your feed to sell to friends - or are you posting on a facebook page for that purpose? If the latter than nothing wrong with it.

YANBU. I'm an avid "keep things out of landfill when possible" type and I hate this throwaway culture. I see nothing wrong with trying to sell your old stuff; if someone buys it they obviously want it, so what's the problem. Besides, one person's rubbish is another person's treasure.

She's crackers. I am frequently surprised at people who expect more than half Theo original price for something used, but They're perhaps naive. She obviously thinks anyone looking to be frugal or more ethical in their consumption is "skanky" she sounds odd. Even those who might not bother can see a logic in it, surely?

Some people are just snobs, wasteful snobs. We can give our daughter more and better quality items by buying second-hand.

Although I'm not keen on second-hand toys because she puts everything in her mouth.

There is enough shit in landfill already, we should all be making an effort to reduce that by buying second hand or passing things we no longer need on.

I normally give to friends or charity, but buy things second hand. Binning everything is just irresponsible

Tell her she doesn't have to buy it but it's irresponsible to throw away perfectly good stuff when it's finished with.

Weird. I'm more likely to donate old stuff than sell it but either is better than just throwing stuff away. I love a second hand bargain.

Is she a yes, get over it chav op?

Certain people are very concerned with seeming to have the newest and 'best' and it normally comes from an insecurity about being perceived as poor.

I love selling and buying second hand bargains but i always check (unless item us quite valuable) if family or friends want it for free first.

I have a friend who sells everything second hand atabout 15% off rrp. People buy it as well. Always surprises me. Im 5 months pregnant at the moment and she is forever selling baby stuff. Find it odd she never offers it (even for a price) to me.

What a nasty cow. She sounds unhinged. I tend to recycle or charity shop it because I'm lazy but I can't even begin to think why selling it would be a bad thing. Lots of people much richer than me sell old child's things. I'd only tend to judge people if they were wasteful and put perfectly good clothes in the skip instead of selling or charity shopping them.

Nothing wrong in selling used kids stuff, people obviously want to buy it at the right price so why not? It could be making a real difference to some people who couldn't afford to buy new. If she doesn't want to sell herself then charities would benefit from her used items so she is being mean not donating and also wasteful / harming the environment etc. If it's real rubbish then no one would buy it for a start and of course it should be binned.

I wonder if we have the same fb friend because I saw a rant this this recently and I couldn't get over the amount of people agreeing with her, it was all "I know love, I would dream of charging anyone, just give them away like"

I don't know if she was referring to people posting on their personal feeds or specific groups.

I tend to put it on our local buy, swap and sell pages or ask if friends could use on my newsfeed if it's something I'd rather just pass on.

I love a second hand bargain!

But yes, from what I've seen she likes to show what she has.

I try and sell first and the money goes into DS' savings, if it doesn't sell it goes to a charity shop. I buy a lot second hand too. I am trying hard to reduce our impact on the planet and I seriously judge your friend for her opinion on this. Sending good stuff to landfill is so wasteful.

She is being unreasonable for binning it.
I am surprised by friends with high disposable incomes who sell on fb instead of donating to charity. Seems like a lot of hassle for a few quid they don’t need.

I've sold loads on Facebook selling pages. I give clothes away for free but toys and other items I sell. Single parent on benefits so the money helps (I don't actually sell my childrens stuff for money! Only stuff that is no longer used and taking up room). Someone I know sent me a message during the week asking to buy an item from me but since I knew her I gave her it for free. I couldn't care less if anyone thinks I'm skanky, a lot of people who I see buying/selling on Facebook are actually in good jobs and well off.

Some people take pride in being wasteful.

Personally, I don't bother with FB and Ebay selling any more as it's no end of hassle, but larger things go on Gumtree. Anything which is still worth keeping goes to the charity shop.

Other people in my extended family wouldn't DREAM of going anywhere near a charity shop - what if someone saw them going in and god forbid thought they were actually buying something??? They would much rather bin stuff as to them the idea of anything second-hand is totally alien. It's a class thing, all bound up with not having very much but trying to prove to everyone you're not "poor". In their world "poor" equates to second hand. In my world, second hand equates to keeping stuff out of landfill, bargains and unusual buys.

I’m not against people selling baby stuff on but personally I would rather give it away (family and friends) or donate it to children’s centres/refuges/charities. I don’t think you ever get back enough money to make the effort worthwhile.
In defence of OPs friend I have seen a lot of gross baby stuff for sale on Facebook - like chairs covered in felt tip, mouldy table and chairs and used potties/pants. Sometimes, things do just need to be thrown away

Some people don’t like second hand stuff for their children and that’s fair enough but to actually not understand why people would try and sell their stuff and to write a fb post ranting is wasteful and snobbish.

I have bought many things second hand for my children and sold their stuff too. We have a Moses basket that has been used for 5 children the last couple of years (new mattress for every one) because we have passed it amongst the cousins. Much better than buying a new one for a few months.

We all need to be doing a little for the environment

It tends to be people with the least who feel like this , they worry too much what others think about them . I love a good rummage in a charity shop and have recently started selling my sons outgrown clothes on a Facebook page . Two pair of trousers sold for £28 . I don’t need the money but hate waste.

Second hand all the way. It’s more environmentally friendly and financially sensible.

There's a huge emphasis on saving the planet and being green right now, so selling on old stuff and buying secondhand has become mainstream and ethical.

I know lots of well off upper middle class mums who sell on cloth nappies, and some who buy secondhand nappies because it's greener than buying new. Along with reusable sanpro etc.

Young professionals tend to be very eco conscious, it's now cool to carry a reusable coffee cup or Kleen Kanteen thing and your own reusable straw.

People are becoming more aware of how much stuff goes into landfill, how much plastic ends up in the oceans. They're opening their eyes to the reality of mass produced toys painted with unregulated chemicals. To the horrors suffered by exploited workers in the sweatshops producing fast fashion.

People are becoming more ethically and environmentally aware, across all classes. The secondhand market is part of that. People who sneer at it tend to be the uneducated (or just not very clever) type, who don't see the point of recycling and believe global warming is a myth.

I don’t sell old stuff because it’s disheartening to see stuff with lovely memories attached being knocked down in price and the ‘will you deliver hun’ for a few quids worth of stuff. Hundreds of pounds of clothing for a fiver.

All the good/clean/pristine stuff I send to refugee camps. Hopefully it’ll be well received.

The rest are used as rags and cloths. Old baby grows make excellent cleaning cloths.