AIBU to take DD1 to use the disabled loo?

[KitKat1985]

DD1 is now 4. We are still waiting for a formal diagnosis (long wait to see paediatrician in our area) but looking pretty certain she will get an ASD diagnosis. Ourselves and nursery have had no luck with potty training her, despite lots of persistence. We've been advised by the special needs service to take a break for a bit as they don't think she's ready. Upshot is that she's still in nappies.

The problem is I have two issues with changing her in regular loos:

1. She's too big now to fit on a baby changing table (she's tall for her age) and there isn't room to change her in most toilet cubicles, (and it doesn't feel very dignified to just change her on the floor by the sinks), so the extra floor-space in the disabled loos really helps.

2. She's terrified of the sound of hand driers, which is really difficult to avoid in the communal ladies loos.

A couple of times recently when I've nipped in the disabled loos with her I've had a few rolled eye / tutting type moments in my direction, which is I'm guessing because she doesn't 'look' disabled, and I guess because she doesn't have a formal diagnosis yet it makes explaining it complicated. So AIBU?

I'm with you with hand dryers my ds has an ASD diagnosis, it's quite frankly horrific when we need to use public toilets, most definitely use the disabled toilets also look into a radar key for disabled toilets that are locked (usually in parks ect) you just swipe and your in x

Of course you should!

I use them, I'm technically not "disabled" but have a health condition which means when I need to go, I need to go, it I'll wet/ soil myself do if there's a queue, I use a disabled loo. I don't look disabled and people tut, but fuck them! They'd tut more if I share on them.