to call boys in sick on friday when we go on holiday?

[Marie0]

I've been meaning to ask the school receptionist but I've been really busy in work and DH has been doing pick ups and drop off's for our DS1 (13) and DS2 (11).

We're going away for the weekend on Friday and I haven't taken the boys out from school before but they will need the day off as we are going first thing.

Not sure what the procedure is - presumably I need to ask the school permission to have the day off? It seems a bit of a faff - I think it may be easier to call them in sick?

Is it really that important to ask permission? Anyone else just called them in sick for 1 day off?

Wolfie

My priority right now is his mental state of mind and my sanity. If we can't function as a family unit then we are not going to be any good for supporting him in school or any other area of his life.

Yes school matters - but our mental health (mainly DS1) matters more

Wolfiefan sounds bored and self-righteous

It's a lethal cocktail.

Enjoy your trip to Centreparks.

WeWantJustice

Thank you - I can't wait :)

Have I missed something??

Mission - I put a thread on last night about my vile 13 year old with real behavioural problems both in school and at home

Ah ok. Hope everything is alright.👍🏽 I read through this 3 times and couldn't work out why others thought you taking them on holiday meant exclusion.

Marie0

If he is excluded (fixed term or otherwise) then there could be implications at county level.

Wolfie why do you keep stalking this op

I've been meaning to ask the school receptionist but I've been really busy in work and DH has been doing pick ups and drop off's for our DS1 (13) and DS2 (11)

So why didn’t your DH ask if he’s been doing pick ups and drop offs?

ha ha continually - Wolfie is after my blood on the teenager thread lol

If they go to the same school, it looks suspicious

You will only be fined if the total absence for the year is over ten days

reallyanother - because he picks DS2 up and drops off at the ASD base which is at the other end of the school to where the reception is (DS1 often walks home with his mates) - he obviously could have then driven around to the other side but would have got caught in all the congestion and I think he thought better of that idea.

Thesnobby

Yes I agree it will look suspicious - I won't be calling them in sick, I will be telling them the truth

Don't lie, just be factual and say holiday.

You won't be fined unless you meet your LAs criteria - you can find that online.

I've never known anyone take a child on holiday whilst excluded... unsure whether there is a different criteria as the child shouldn't be in public without good reason during school hours whilst excluded.

OP, is he currently on a fixed term exclusion, you were a bit vague in one of your previous posts? If so the EducationAct states that an excluded pupil should not be in a public place during school hours.

For Five

He was 'temporarily excluded' on friday - I think that means a day or two until we have had a chance to meet with his head of year.

We are expecting a call from school tomorrow / Tuesday at the latest and hope he will be able to return as soon as we've had a meeting which hopefully will be before Friday

A fixed term exclusion is for a specified number of days and confirmed in writing with a readmission date, not a vague promise of a phone call. Sounds like the school aren’t following the exclusion guidelines.
That’s said, if my child had been excluded from school I wouldn’t be rewarding them with a trip to Centre Parcs!

Christ it's like a police state on here sometimes!

I'd call both boys in sick with a stomach bug. Then make sure DS wears a balaclava at the pool in case he's spotted in public place!

Woodfin LOL especially balaclava comment he he

After all this time of tightening up on absences at school I'm always surprised that parents still think that schools can somehow stop them going on holiday or to weddings or funerals or wherever.

It doesn't matter if the school can't authorise the absence you can still go and take the risk that you will be fined. It's not complicated.

And don't insult the intellegence of the school staff by pretending the chidlren are ill, I don't know any of the history but it sounds like you might need the school onside, why would you lie to them?

That’s said, if my child had been excluded from school I wouldn’t be rewarding them with a trip to Centre Parcs

It's a pre paid family hoiliday. Should all members be punished because of one child's actions? (No idea why they've been excluded)

You can't change the past but you can build in the future

You should have been informed exactly for how many days and when he was due back when he was excluded. You should also have received the details formally in writing (although that isn't always immediate - we send a letter same day in the post but slow for postal times). You need to find this out ASAP - either the school is breaking the 'rules' or you've misunderstood the exclusion (which I don't think is likely).

GreenTulips - thanks yes - I feel exactly the same - try and look forward to try and be positive - actually the main reason we are going is because DS2 has autism and he won't fly - he absolutely LOVES Center Parcs - there is NO WAY I will be cancelling the holiday!

Ds’s School are really hot on attendance. We managed to book a last minute deal this year that fell during term time. I sent an email the week before requesting authorised absence and if any problems to contact me. I heard nothing. So logged into the school portal from the airport as we were about board the plane, to say he was about to get on the plane for holidays and as no one had contacted us to say there would be a problem. Got home and it had been authorised.