Is it true DD will seriously be disadvantaged and miss out on so much by not going into halls at uni?

[AsherD]

Just that please. She hasn't been there long (in a private studio) and seems to be enjoying it, but part of me is always feeling like she's missing out now because of what I've read on here, so just looking for insight on a thread that is just on this subject.

I think she will miss out and that it's a real shame, which is the same as what you think. BUT we are both projecting what we would want onto her and if she is happy as she is then I guess it's her choice. She's old enough to know what she wants.
Things might change as the year progresses.

My son lived in halls for his first year and then in shared private accommodation for yrs 2&3. His halls were very modern and divided into shared flats with ensuite bedrooms and a shared common living area (unlike my nephew at another uni who essentially lived in a dorm type scenario). It wasn’t all sunshine and roses, his flat mates weren’t all his kind of people. All these kids away from home for the first time, some a bit feral, some a bit wild, others a bit lazy. All mostly used to living in families where allowances are made for their foibles. He learned a lot of people skills in that first year and mixed with a greater diversity of people than he would've done in a studio. Also, speaking for DS as an indiviual, he would've been a bit lonely in a studio in that homesick first year. Having other first years around who were going through the same thing was helpful for him, even if it was just as a distraction.

However, that’s only one person’s experience. If your DD is happy as she is then who are we to tell her otherwise?

She knows her own mind.
Fwiw dd was in halls in greenwich for her first year and it really wasnt what she expected and knocked her confidence a fair bit.

No she's not missing out and if she's happy then no problem. I would have hated halls - noisy, can't get to sleep well, lack of personal space. I liked living off campus and out of the bubble far better.

Depends on the child. I was never in halls, always in a shared house and adored it.

I didn't get into halls and I was kind of lonely. Everyone else had friends around them all the time and I was in a bedsit in an old lady's house. It was harder to make friends, and I am shy so that went against me too.

Also I think living in a studio would be quite lonely. Cooking for yourself, shopping just for yourself, coming home to an empty place etc. Think about holidays Yes in halls you live independently but

It wouldn’t be so bad if she had a partner/friends al

Sorry posted too early!

*live independently but it’s not isolating like living in a studio alone.

*partner/friends always over. I’m 22, wouldn’t want to live alone in a studio now let alone at 18/19.