To give up and leave teenage DD alone :(

[tinkerbellone]

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My daughter is nearly 16 (just started Y11). She has aspergers. In school 1.5 hours tue to thu due to social anxiety. She is taught one on one in a room on her own.
She is overweight. She has sensory issues and hates sweating. Hates exercise. I know she is unhappy with the way she looks because she says people must look at her and see a depressed fat blob.
I got her to do a little bit of weightlifting at a gym which is empty in the day.
It's so hard to encourage her to go.
She rarely goes out the house and is happy on her Xbox and phone. She has online friends she chats to all day. She says food and Xbox makes her happy.

I feel exhausted trying support her and encourage her to eat well (I don't buy junk now) and exercise. To get her to school. To get her out the car (if there are any people around she won't get out). Tried CBT but she wouldn't engage very well and hated it. It's a battle.
I'm so tired. I have three more children and I'm a single parent. My eldest 'slips under the radar' because she is so quiet and no trouble.
Please help. Has anyone has experience of this and can offer advice?
I've tried limiting WiFi or exercise & you get your Xbox back.
Does it get any easier?
I could cry today. I can't wake her up. She promised she'd go to gym with me. If there is anyone in the gym she won't go in. It's all such hard work and pointless :(
Would it be worth it being hardline mum and getting strict with her.
Life/outside her room causes her so much stress that I want 'home' to be safe. I fear I'm enabling her to do nothing but Xbox :(

Work on her confidence and the rest will follow OP I’m glad your feeling less alone

Are there any X Box exercise games she could play? My daughter has similar issues and she enjoys the dance games, which are fun and she can do in the privacy of her room. Also maybe have her try Yoga for her anxiety, YouTube has lots of starter videos she could try. Don’t give up, there will be something out there for her, it’s not easy finding it though.

I don't blame you for wanting to give up, we all have limits. However I bet you don't.

Dancing is very good exercise. Putting on a cd and leaping around the room. I did that for quite a long while and became as fit as a flea!
Just a thought, you could do it and she might join you.

I think the depressions needs to be dealt with before the weight or fitness. Can you get a CAMHS referral and get therapy/medication for the depression first and then when she is in a better place mentally she might start deal with some other issues.

Hi
Just wanted to say thank you for all your kid comments. That day I had taken my third tablet of antibiotics for a water infection. They had a dramatic and scary affect on my mood. I had never felt so hopeless in all my life. I cried all day.
Thankfully after googling antibiotics and mood. I stopped taking them. I felt much better by Monday/Tuesday.
I realise they affected my mood but also brought up a lot of anxiety and stress I have about my daughters.
Thank you to all you lovely people xx