To not pick Mum up?

[advicepleasex]

Mum just rang us to see if OH can pick her up from a funeral reception apparently no one can give her a lift.

I've just had a c-section so can't drive and I have ds and dd I don't want to be left alone with them because I'm still in pain.

He can't be bothered and wants to relax plus he just took her to a job interview Wednesday and picked her up.

We're not mean are we?

Is it really so hard for some people to believe others aren't besties with their mums? Until you've had a draining parent you don't know what it is like

Explain the concepts of taxis and Uber to her!

There seems to be an assumption that OP's mother will be upset/fragile/emotional because she has been to a funeral.

I know people who genuinely enjoy a funeral. Happily attend funerals of people they had the most passing of acquaintanceships with, almost like keeping score of all the people whom they have 'beaten' IYKWIM.

The key here is how much she does for you @advicepleasex.

But you don't answer this? Babysits, shops, helps with housework now you've three?

Does she do anything for you?

Well, I'm older than she is, don't have a car and certainly don't expect lifts from anyone.

Meh, I would. My mum certainly gave me enough lifts to last a lifetime growing up and still does now to airport etc. Suppose it depends on your relationship

I wouldn't hesitate to give my mum a lift if I could. She helps me out loads with the kids and other stuff.
Ops not answered previous questions what her mum does for her, makes me think loads. So without any further info I'm going to say yabu.

She's been to a funeral and your OH can't be bothered giving her a lift. And you can't be left on your own for 10 mins. . .
Exactly! She obviously thought someone would be able to drive her home afterwards and they've let her down. And if you're stuck at a funeral it's not that simple to find a taxi. I don't have a phone that I can google on & I'm sure I'm not the only one. A simple lift to your mother. Unless she's constantly demanding & lazy I can't see the problem as a one off.

Ops not answered previous questions what her mum does for her, makes me think loads. So without any further info I'm going to say yabu

I sometimes wonder if OP is also the same one moaning about the mum not wanting to look after the son while the op was in hospital after a section. All sounds very similar

Its mean.

Also you dont want to be left alone with your kids for like half an hour tops? Come on OP

I do think it's a bit mean unless there's a back story that we've not got.
Also are you really worried about being left on your own with your children or is that just an excuse?
Looking back to all the lifts my DP's gave me I don't think I could ever say no to a request for one

OP has said her mum has previous form for expecting DH to drop everything and be an on call taxi service, so clearly this is not a one off emergency and she has form for being a CF.

How many siblings have you got and how much running around and shit she didn't want to do did she do for you when you were growing up?

It sounds like a half hour trip, I think it would be selfish not to help your mother.