To not give a fuck how much of a shit person I have been this week??

[martian1990]

I’m loosing my fucking mind I swear.

It started on Sunday- MIL came down for Sunday dinner. Criticised my cooking, our new kitchen (we’ve saved up a long time for it and cost a fortune so while it is a first world problem it was upsetting) and as usual tried to taking over parenting my DC. I ended up losing my shit with her and kicking her out. DH got caught in the middle which made me feel shitty.

DH has been away working this week, and will be gone this weekend visiting his brother and some childhood friends. A 100% deserved/earnt trip for him- he more than pulls his weight when he is home.

We have 2 kids- DS (8, just started Y4) and DD who is 21 months. DS is a mummy’s boy, DD is a daddy’s girl through and through- so I’m sure you fellow mummies to daddy’s girls can imagine what my week has been like with her.

I’m not ashamed to admit I’ve used the television as a babysitter more than once this week- I’m also not ashamed of telling the woman who tutted at me for leaving DD sat in her pram watching Cinderella while I dried my hair after swimming to fuck off and mind her own business. I’m sure she would preferred a happy toddler to one having a full blown meltdown in the changing room.

Nor am I ashamed to admit that we have had a takeaway twice this week, on the days I have come home after a 10 hour shift to find the house needed tidying and I needed to wrestle 2 overtired children into bed.

DD has been in meltdown mode over the littlest thing all week. I’m literally exhausted. She hasn’t slept for more than 4 hours at a time all week- and usually goes from 7pm-7.30/8am

I called my mum this morning begging her to take them both for a night- a choice she regretted taking 10 minutes after leaving the house because there was a traffic jam on the motorway and DD was having a meltdown.

But I don’t give a fuck. Because I’m sat on the sofa watching a film I’ve been meaning to watch for nearly 2 years with a large glass of wine and a dominos on route

Just got to get through one night with the devil spawn tomorrow and DH will be home

IMHO I think you are only BU if you have not got a tub of Ben and Jerry's to go with that pizza!

We all need a break sometimes!

You are NBU!! And thank god someone actually says they have a shit time, uses TV, takeaways and sometimes hates parenting because reading through some of the threads on here would send me into a tailspin of being a totally shocking parent! So thank you for reminding me we’re not all perfect all the time!

I have also carted dd off to my parents because my friend is coming to stay tonight and I want to get drunk with him and probably naked. No small child until 6pm tomorrow night, I will make the most of it!

I think you meed to treat yourself to a weekend away when DH gets back.

Not sure why his WE away is described as "100% earnt" when you work 10 hour shifts and he works away yet pulls his weight (whem hes home). Your MIL sounds awful!

Congratulations.

You're not being shit OP, do what you need to do to make life a bit more manageable.
RE: plonking DD in front of a screen whilst you dry your hair in a public changing room to keep the peace- I wish more people would do this!

Enjoy the pizza and wine - you deserve it.

YANBU you have to do what you need to do to get through the week. Lucky you that your mum took them though, I'm not jealous this week, but there have been weeks when I would have loved that. Enjoy!

You sound exhausted OP, I understand completely as I’m struggling too. Take some time for self care and enjoy your pizza!

Sometimes I think the world and various people need reminding that you do not need their opinion on your house, cooking, parenting style, etc.

I wish I could tell more people to get stuffed. Can I hire you, what's your day rate? I have a mother, mother in law and a sister in law who need reminding. Or I might just get a rocking chair, shot gun and a front porch.

YANBU, enjoy that wine and pizza !

Haha hello normal human being!

Enjoy your wine and pizza, have a lovely evening.

Definitely not U
Enjoy the wine and pizza

Some weeks are about survival and anything more than that is a bonus. Enjoy your pizza!

OP you are so NOT BU... I'm struggling too this week, hugely. MN is my new friend for company in terms of being able to not give a flying monkey about saying what I feel, although I've hardly commented on anything in the way that I DO actually feel!

Take a break, chill out, and enjoy your OWN time.

As for your comment to that ghastly woman at the pool, good on ya!

Enjoy your wine and pizza OP. It sounds like you deserve them!

can i have your mums number please?mine is defective; o out,or plain old "No chance"....

When my DD was a daddy’s girl she wouldn’t even sit beside me at the table. Now she’s sixteen and loves me....usually. Your post has made me laugh. I also had a shit week. You are just right. How does one go about kicking out the MIL? Mine is generally lovely thankfully but we all have our moments. Enjoy your evening!

Love the image of a porch, rocking chair and shotgun

YANBU apart from...

I’m also not ashamed of telling the woman who tutted at me for leaving DD sat in her pram watching Cinderella while I dried my hair after swimming to fuck off and mind her own business.

Who are all these people who tut at the most simple normal things? I only ever read about it on MN but in 49 years, I never witness it.

I'm not saying it can't happen, but sometimes I wonder if the MNetter imagines it a bit?

I've had a bit of a week too but have been reminded by a few things my week has not been as bad as others.

YANBU!!

Sometimes you need to say 'Fuck you' to the world and look after yourself. Your DCs are safe and well, you've made it through the week, now bloody well enjoy your treats. I second the ice cream thing, btw.

I’m so jealous of your me time right now!

Rude to criticise your hospitality and your home. You enjoy any spare time because you earned it and I don't begrudge you a good vent as there's only so much nasty a woman can take. So deep breath and I hope the pizza hit the spot. ( next time get the baddest dessert off the menu and add that.

YANBU OP. Get yourself another glass of wine. To take care of anyone else, you first have to look after yourself. Make sure you slurp up every minute and to fuck with anyone else right now.

PS. You are not a shit person. It sounds to me as though you are the person holding everything together. Cheers to your mum also.

You sound like my kinda woman. Live your dreams!