DS is almost 18 and has done nothing since leaving school 2 years ago. He managed to get a job at McDonald's and lasted a week before he was sacked for gross misconduct. Under pressure he's joined training schemes which are basically two days a week doing English and maths but half the time he doesn't even do that. He stays in bed until 3pmish and then goes out with his druggy stealing mates, sometimes all night.
He's been arrested once for assault but has basically been lucky in not getting arrested for other stuff he's done including trespassing, stealing, drugs and other assaults.
Everytime I think he's making an effort (signing up to college, applying for a job etc) it's only a matter of days before he goes out and gets smashed on drugs, gets into a fight, gets into trouble etc.
I've got him drug counselling, got him referred to cahms, got him counselling with them, tried to talk to him about aspirations etc etc, nothing gets through. His dad is useless and DH is passed caring (he's assaulted him and stolen from him too many times).
Most of his mates live in hostels. I've thrown him out before but always took him back as he had nowhere to go.
Now I find out he's getting involved in dealing. He and his mates are getting drugs from other parts of the country and selling them in our town. I also suspect they're stealing clothes as DS always seems to have clothes on him that I've not bought him and he has no money. Designer stuff.
To our faces he's nice, keeps himself to himself when in the house but all this other stuff is going on in the background.
I feel like I've done everything I can. At what point can a parent say "I tried"? I'm exhausted by it all.