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To ask if you believe in the afterlife?

232 replies

recklessruby · 14/09/2018 13:08

My dm and I believe when you pass there is another better place you go to. Df disagrees and says when you are gone that's it.
I nearly died giving birth to ds (complications and pre eclampsia) and I know I was drifting somewhere lovely but was told I was too young and it was not my time and turned back. I awoke to chaos and pain and was very disappointed.
Some people will say it's the drugs you get in labour but I have had a few woo encounters over the years when I have been in a clear mind.
So what do you believe? Aibu there is something more after we die?
And that dearly loved pets will be there.
(Maybe not heaven but something).
Sorry this is long and weird.

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Blobby10 · 14/09/2018 13:37

I dont know if I believe in an afterlife but I find it impossible to believe that a human being can just stop existing. We aren't just blood bones and skin, we have electricity and all sorts in our bodies and our brains and emotions and I dont see how that can all just stop!

However I also like to believe in an after life as its comforting to me and also in the hope that I will get the chance to benefit from the lessons I have learned in this life and hopefully not make the same cock ups!

SuckOnTHATRyan · 14/09/2018 13:40

I don’t know tbh. I guess I’m agnostic! What blobby says does resonate with me; I know what happens to our bodies when we die, but find it hard to think that’s all we are, although I know logically we are just flesh and bone 🤷‍♀️.

Emmageddon · 14/09/2018 13:41

I think everything just stops, like if you've ever had a general anaesthetic, one minute you're in the world and responding, the next you're gone.I also think the brain works in a way to protect us from feeling afraid, hence all the stories of relatives waiting, bright lights, fields of flowers, sunshine and peace.

I'd love to think there is something else, but my logical mind tells me there isn't.

Gottagetmoving · 14/09/2018 13:41

No, I don't, well not as in our personality and the human being we are.
I read energy doesn't die but carries on, therefore if 'we' continue after death it's not in a conscious way or a form that can communicate.
All this mediums stuff is just rubbish.

SuckOnTHATRyan · 14/09/2018 13:46

Yes, I nearly said that re energy; energy can’t just go away can it? It just changes I think, like light into heat etc. I’m no physicist though. I’m sure you can’t tell Grin.

Physicallyandmentallyeffed · 14/09/2018 13:52

Sorry to hear you had that experience. You’re not being unreasonable to believe in an afterlife of some kind, it brings a lot of people comfort.
I personally don’t believe in one. at least I tell myself that, or I’d convince myself that any woo experiences I’ve had were real and not just in my mind.
Which is worse being mentally ill or plagued by spirits? 🤷‍♀️

Holidayfromreal · 14/09/2018 13:56

Yes.

Vitalogy · 14/09/2018 13:58

I believe in reincarnation.

Octavella · 14/09/2018 13:59

What I don't understand is how believing in an afterlife normally gives the person comfort. I wish there isn't an afterlife.

Surely there being nothing is the ultimate comfort.

The only thing I can imagine to be true is some kind of matrix scenerio where dreams, deja vu, random memories make sense. Why we think rather than just act is what makes me question nothingness.

StitchingMoss · 14/09/2018 13:59

No. But I understand why people do. It's hard to imagine that once life is over it's over and that's it. I've lost too many people to imagine there is anything else.

Make the most of your one life.

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recklessruby · 14/09/2018 13:59

Well I don't want to be plagued by evil spirits by it would be comforting if it was your relatives or friends.
I won't mess with the oueji board for example. You never know what you might attract!

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recklessruby · 14/09/2018 14:02

@octavella any reason you wouldn't want an afterlife or a second chance?

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Omgineedanamechange · 14/09/2018 14:12

The energy that is your personality has to go somewhere, it doesn’t just cease to exist, cos, physics. Therefore “you” will continue to exist after death, but in my view not in any way that you will be conscious of.

When I typed continue to exist just then my phone autocorrected it to “continue to be dust” so maybe there is some otherworldly force after all, and it’s messing with my phone.Grin

Cath2907 · 14/09/2018 14:14

No afterlife for me, you are alive, then you die, then you are dust....

SuckOnTHATRyan · 14/09/2018 14:14

Grin omg.

Clandestino · 14/09/2018 14:17

You don't know for 100% till it's time and then it's too late to turn around and say: "Actually folks ...."
But I don't believe in afterlife. I believe in life, death and then nothing physical, only the memories the people you loved and who loved you have left of you.

0lgaDaPolga · 14/09/2018 14:20

I’m not sure but I find it hard to wrap my head around that we just cease to exist when we die. All our energy/soul/spirit whatever it is that makes us who we are, I feel like that must go somewhere. Likewise when I look at my son I can’t believe that he once didn’t exist.

BertrandRussell · 14/09/2018 14:21

Here's a passage we used at my mother's funeral- it's by Brian Cox. I think it's wonderful. "Our story is the story of the Universe. Every piece of everyone and everything you love, of everything you hate, of everything you hold precious was assembled in the first few minutes of the life of the Universe, and transformed in the hearts of stars, or created in their fiery deaths. When you die, those pieces will be returned to the Universe in the endless cycle of death and rebirth. What a wonderful thing to be part of that Universe. And what a story. What a majestic story!"

SuckOnTHATRyan · 14/09/2018 14:23

Lovely bertrand! I wish I understood more about physics.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 14/09/2018 14:25

I believe in reincarnation - that we learn through each life and hopefully move on to something better in the next (or not, as the case may be)

And no, I can't prove it before anyone asks, but for me it makes more sense and provides more answers than just about anything else

Chuggachuggatoottoot · 14/09/2018 14:25

I believe at least I hope so.

Chuggachuggatoottoot · 14/09/2018 14:26

OP, can you tell us more of your experience?

Perfectly1mperfect · 14/09/2018 14:27

Omg That made me laugh. Grin

I like to think there is. It gives me comfort and I think when people die very young, it's the only way I can feel 'okay' with it.

I have had a couple of 'unexplainable' things happen to me that I choose to think are explained by there being something after this life.

PlantsArePeopleToo · 14/09/2018 14:27

No. I think we die and that's it.

Spiderdemon · 14/09/2018 14:28

So you die, and you are met by your loving relatives, in a place outside time. You meet your mum. But not your mum as she was when you held her hand and she died from cancer, all thin and tired. Your mum as you remember her from your childhood. And so are you as you are when you died? Or a child? And your mum- she is with her mum, becsuse she too had that experience of meeting her mum. And so on, recursively. But her mum (your grandma) never knew her daughter as an adult, she died when her daughter was young. So who and what is your mum, here in eternity? A being with a child's thoughts and emotions? An adult? Just a principle of love?

And how can you be welcomed by your mum and everyone she loved and everyone they loved? won't it get rather busy and indistinct?