Every present for 12 months has gone un-acknowledged

[GinFaced]

My sister and brother in law are really rubbing me up the wrong way at the moment.

The family is 2 adults & 2 kids. In the last year I have sent 4 birthday presents (adults and children), 2 'get well soon' presents (the smallest had her tonsils removed, my brother in law broke his wrist) an anniversary present, a new home present and finally, last week, a small 'enjoy going back to school' present. (I had an aunt who lived abroad when I was younger I remember loving getting things in the post.)
I DO NOT expect a thank you note - the kids are small, the parents have a lot on, a thank you note would be nice, but is not required. HOWEVER, I have had to chase up every single present, about a week after it should have arrived, to check it has arrived. I receive no text, email or phone call to say "hey, thanks for the parcel, it arrived today."
Am I being unreasonable to have finally found this so utterly infuriating that I'm just going to stop sending anything? I don't think the kids should miss out because their parents don't know how to say thank you but seriously, how hard is it to simply let me know that the parcel arrived?

Its unbelievably rude not to at the bare minimum acknowledge receipt of a gift, it is also rude to not thank the sender.

You are not expecting them to sit down with a quill and a sheet of parchment and compose a lengthy thank you note. We have more and quicker and easier ways to communicate now than we have ever done - text, e-mail, social media, phone, letter. Too busy is just bollocks, bet they are not too busy to check their Social Media regularly.

If they have a problem with the type or amount of gifts they could also use one of the many means of communication and communicate that to you. Don't send any more gifts to the adults and send cards and vouchers for the children and stick to Christmas and Birthday only.

Very, very rude. It is so easy to pick up the phone and send a simple text. Why would someone NOT to that? It is beyond me!

Yeah that’s rude. I would at least want to know if someone has received the parcel. Things can get lost in the post office, stolen, etc. It could be possible that they don’t want you to send any more presents. I think you’re like me, I enjoy gift giving and exchanging gifts. Others not especially much.

Stop sending so many presents. Birthday and Christmas is enough. They obviously don't appreciate your gifts. I even think the fact that you have to ring to make sure they've got them will be irritating to them.

Just pull back OP.

'get well soon' presents
'sorry you broke your wrist' gift

What do you get as a get well soon present?
Gift wrapped Nurofen? Novelty bandages? An animatronic Thing of the Addams Family?

It is extremely rude not to acknowledge birthday or Christmas presents. But the rest of the giving sounds way OTT. I don't expect anniversary presents from anyone, other than possibly my actual husband. I'd be bemused if someone sent me a 'sorry you broke your wrist' present! I can just about get behind sending something for a child who had had their tonsils out because it's miserable but all the other stuff is just totally unnecessary. I think you should just send birthday and Christmas presents for the kids and not bother with anything else. Less stress all round.

OP I think whether everyone on this thread has supported you or thought you were over-giving, they're all agreed you should stop giving. Either because the lack of any acknowledgement is rude when it takes 10 seconds to send a text, or because they themselves have been deluged by presents and felt unhappily beholden.

So stop sending the presents.

FWIW I also think it's rude not to acknowledge - or even to text/WhatsApp saying "you've been very kind but we really don't need presents". When I realized my DH's family were never going to respond at all and it took me far too long to find something right/post it here and abroad, I just stopped. It didn't halt pleasantness between the families.

Try Exploding Kittens.

It is rude but if a family member was sending me this amount of gifts I would find it too much. Just stop sending gifts why are you wasting your time and money on people who don’t appreciate it.

They are ungrateful, probably because they simply don't want these things from you. Take the hint, do yourself and your bank balance a favour and stop sending things.

Don’t send anything else and see if they contact you when their expected gift fails to arrive

They are rude not to acknowledge your gifts and I can see they are sent with good intentions but I wonder on the flip side if that's how it feels to you sister maybe she feels bad/guilty she can't return the sentiment ect

Absolutely she should say something and be a grown up. But if I were you I would dial it back focus on birthday and Christmas and if you really wants to maybe a nice day out when you do see them.

Yep, suffocating, as pp said.

Does the parcel carrier not inform you that the gifts have been delivered?