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Am I an awful future MIL?

37 replies

LadyRussell · 13/09/2018 22:29

Disclaimer - they are moving out at the end of the month and I have a back lounge full of furniture I have collected for them from various - I love them but.

DS GF moved in a few months ago so they could save money to move out - fab - they have found a flat and leave at the end of this month.

She is a lovely lovely sweet girl and the whole family love her.

Both work shifts and my OH comes Home weekends only.

A few weekends ago she comes into our bedroom (we were in bed) and asks if she can borrow my straightener- I said sure thinking she would remove it from my bedroom. Nope she straightened her hair there and then.

Same weekend DH and I said we would take her to discount furniture store on Sunday morning which we did.

DTD in the morning and she knocked on the door to ask what time we were leaving.

She then tagged on with us the whole day as DS at Work. This was the only day DH and I had to potentially have a bit of time together as currently have transport issues (read my previous threads).

Tonight he’s due Home. He train has been delayed two hours (so his dinner is here needing to me nuked) and she needs him to help him to print something (to do something nice for someone else) butI haven’t seen him since Saturday, he’s going to be knackered etc etc and she keeps asking when he’l be Home.

Argh and breathe Grin

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Milkmonster2 · 13/09/2018 22:37

I can see how it might be frustrating as you just want your own space/time, but perhaps think of it another way...

I think it's quite sweet she wants to spend time with you and feel comfortable around you and treats you like family. Better than a DIL who wants to keep your son to herself and not want to see you so much.

Medea13 · 13/09/2018 22:37

Why didn't you say "oh Xanthippe you can take those out and do it in your room -- i was just about to go to sleep. Just leave them somewhere sensible to cool down and i'll find them in the morning"?

LadyRussell · 13/09/2018 22:38

It was in the morning 😂😂😂

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Medea13 · 13/09/2018 22:40

Okay... Then replace "in the morning" with "later". She's not a mind reader.

squirrelnutkins1 · 13/09/2018 22:41

I'd love to want to spend time with my MIL (but I don't) she sounds sweet potential DIL.

LadyRussell · 13/09/2018 22:42

She is she is - she just has no boundaries Grin

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NonaGrey · 13/09/2018 22:43

Why are you telling us, tell her!!

Please take the straighteners to your own room

We’ll go later we’re busy now.

We’d like some alone time I’m sure you understand.

She not a child just speak to her.

LadyRussell · 13/09/2018 22:43

TBF we were naked in bed ...

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LadyRussell · 13/09/2018 22:44

They move out in a few weeks so it’s not worth having a “difficult” conversation.

We are just having a nightmare seeing each other atm so it’s difficult.

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Popc0rn · 13/09/2018 22:46

Put a sock on the door?

elephantoverthehill · 13/09/2018 22:46

OP have you seen the sit com 'Mum'?

LadyRussell · 13/09/2018 22:47

We watched it together and joked she is like Kelly 😂😂

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NonaGrey · 13/09/2018 22:50

TBF we were naked in bed ...

And you didn’t polite say, “please take those yo your own room”?

That’s not a difficult conversation Lady it’s being a doormat while someone stomps all over your boundaries.

LadyRussell · 13/09/2018 22:51

It wasn’t really like that TBF - we were a bit astounded 😮 Grin

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elephantoverthehill · 13/09/2018 22:51

I am sorry to announce this to you LadyRussell

elephantoverthehill · 13/09/2018 22:52

There is no light at the end of the tunnel Grin

LadyRussell · 13/09/2018 23:02

😰😰

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NonaGrey · 13/09/2018 23:05

we were a bit astounded

I’m not surprised! I still would have asked her to leave though.

LadyRussell · 13/09/2018 23:07

I guess it’s good she feels comfortable with us....

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Aprilshowersnowastorm · 13/09/2018 23:07

No boundaries?
Well she won't mind you using the spare key to their home to do the ironing /tidy the undies drawer /rearrange the furniture and other annoying stuff mners mil's do!!
Enjoy getting your own back!!

LadyRussell · 13/09/2018 23:09

Oh no - I will just enjoy watching them embrace adult life Grin

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Crunchymum · 13/09/2018 23:10

She walked in on you shagging?

LadyRussell · 13/09/2018 23:10

The bills, the cleaning, the cooking.

The other night they had a huge row about where the x-boxis going to go in their flat Grin

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LadyRussell · 13/09/2018 23:11

No she walked in and we were in bed naked (covered).

She tapped on the door when we were shagging.

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PurpleArmy · 13/09/2018 23:12

Have you seen that programme 'Mum" It's you!

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