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Am I an awful future MIL?

37 replies

LadyRussell · 13/09/2018 22:29

Disclaimer - they are moving out at the end of the month and I have a back lounge full of furniture I have collected for them from various - I love them but.

DS GF moved in a few months ago so they could save money to move out - fab - they have found a flat and leave at the end of this month.

She is a lovely lovely sweet girl and the whole family love her.

Both work shifts and my OH comes Home weekends only.

A few weekends ago she comes into our bedroom (we were in bed) and asks if she can borrow my straightener- I said sure thinking she would remove it from my bedroom. Nope she straightened her hair there and then.

Same weekend DH and I said we would take her to discount furniture store on Sunday morning which we did.

DTD in the morning and she knocked on the door to ask what time we were leaving.

She then tagged on with us the whole day as DS at Work. This was the only day DH and I had to potentially have a bit of time together as currently have transport issues (read my previous threads).

Tonight he’s due Home. He train has been delayed two hours (so his dinner is here needing to me nuked) and she needs him to help him to print something (to do something nice for someone else) butI haven’t seen him since Saturday, he’s going to be knackered etc etc and she keeps asking when he’l be Home.

Argh and breathe Grin

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Blameanamechange · 13/09/2018 23:13

At least you'll have yr space back soon. Sounds like you have made her feel like part of the family. Be glad you get on and laugh about it with oh. Or put a lock on your door incase they stay another time.... Grin

Pumpkinpie2018 · 13/09/2018 23:13

Yeah I wouldn’t do that in my own parents house let alone in laws. She has boundary issues...

Not long to go though so I agree not worth an awkward conversation. At least she obviously sees you as her family/ second Mum and is comfortable around you. Smile

LadyRussell · 13/09/2018 23:13

We have a lock.

I know - I am Cathy ... Wine

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elephantoverthehill · 13/09/2018 23:17

PurpleArmy are my posts invisible? Or have I indeed become 'Cathy' too?

LadyRussell · 13/09/2018 23:17

We really bonded over Mum. She would kill me if she thought I thought of her as Kelly Grin

When they were away she sent me a photo of herself in a straw hat made by local children 😍

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MatildaTheCat · 13/09/2018 23:26

Good for their CV, no? Grin

MatildaTheCat · 13/09/2018 23:28

Seriously, just be more directive.

‘ sure, you can us my straighteners, just let me have them later.’

‘Nope, not ready to go out yet, we will give you a shout.’

Or:

‘We love you both, BUT...’

PerverseConverse · 14/09/2018 09:12

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LadyRussell · 14/09/2018 10:46

PerverseConverse

Pretty sure I have no idea what I have done to offend you but if you don’t like me don’t follow me around MN stalking me.

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 14/09/2018 10:50

Get a lock on your door! Really rude to come in your room especially when you're in bed.

Imagine if you did it to them?!

Northernpowerhouse · 14/09/2018 10:55

LadyRussell I get it! My adult son and his partner have been living with me for 2 months and they move into their new place today :) I love them and there are no particular issues but I can't wait for tonight!!! Neither I expect can they!!

AngeloMysterioso · 14/09/2018 10:56

If I ever used my Mum's straighteners or anything (back when I still lived with her) I'd have to use them in her room for fear that if I took them into mine she'd never see them again and to be fair she had a point.

Maybe the GF is used to similar rules.

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