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Joking about applying for the same job as DP?

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Whine · 13/09/2018 22:06

My DP and I work in a related field. There’s a job he really wants that he’s perfect for. I jokingly said that I might apply for it and he said he’d never forgive me if I did. And he properly meant it. Even having typed that out I think I was being a goady fucker, but I was genuinely playing and that he’d have known I was joking. Now I’m hurt that I’d forgive him most things (including that if we’d talked about it) but clearly he doesn’t feel the same. Am I being unreasonable/a dick and overreacting?

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Whine · 14/09/2018 21:49

Oddly, that’s almost exactly what he said, which is now what I’m trying to get my head around. I’m still a bit confused as to why he thought I’d ever try to hurt him by going for it but equally he’s confused about why I thought my comment would be funny- even I’m not sure now Confused Hmm Blush

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LemonysSnicket · 14/09/2018 22:01

I'd imagine he was half joking too

LemonysSnicket · 14/09/2018 22:02

And it would be an utterly arseholish thing to do. You're being very sensitive

redexpat · 14/09/2018 22:40

My sister dumped her uni boyfriend of 2 years when he applied for the same grad scheme as her.

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