To share office gossip: affair?

[Wauden]

Posting as can't gossip in the office about this!
I think there is an affair going on in thr office. Nothing new about that.

Evidence so far-
Saw N (female) and C (male) returning to the office at 5 to 3 this afternoon, then I checked their dairies and theirs was both blank at that time. She all artificially breezy; her boss is away this week.
They left one day at same time and he had shifty look.
N and C laughing and flirting late in afternoon, when he normally avoids everyone and has head phones on.
They work in different teams, so no need to go out of office together.

Further gossip- he has form, as his best friend was dumped by girlfriend, then C goes out with that girl shortly after. The very upset best friend says, either you chose her or me, and C chose the girl over the best friend. No more best friend.

Opinions?

My opinion is that you have too much time on your hands and need a hobby

Mind your own beeswax?

Going out with your friends ex isn't form for having an affair.
Having an affair is form for having an affair.

I think it’s easy to find these things fun till you experience the sharp end of stick yourself.

You sound a bit over-invested! They might just be work pals, or having a cheeky flirt

I had an office fling when I was in my early 20s and, if I’m honest, the idea of people speculating like this made it more fun

Flip side is DH’s office where we are pretty sure someone dumped their fiancé for someone in the team. Very suspicious 4 week gap between the dumping and announcement, but many suspicious moments in the 3 months previous. DH is conflicted as he’s friends with the chap. I am.. less so. I think that’s where office gossip needs to let off, let’s not glorify that sort of thing.

Do love a bit of gossip mind

Are they both single?

No, they aren't single; he is still with the ex of his best friend and she has a boyfriend.

Saw them sitting together today.
Totally none of my beeswax.

Get on with your work, slacker

I get on with my old boss. I like his company and he's a good mentor. We plan to go out for lunch but I worry people will talk. I'm happily married and he is too.

A colleague also acted shocked when she discovered I had a male colleague's phone number. He's sat behind me for 2 years and sent me a silly gif ages ago. We occasionally exchange messages. I ended up showing dh in case I'd completely messed up. Dh was confused why I was showing him the messages (least jealous guy ever, knows I'd not cheat). Office gossip is dangerous - although fun when you're watching from the sidelines.

AnyFucker, ok, but I had worked flat out today.

Too much time on your hands if you are clocking all these "shenanigans"

It could be a fling. It could be an affair. It could be harmless flirting. It could be nothing.
People notice things in the workplace much as others may claim they don't on here.

Still better to share here rather than share in the workplace because that would be stirring.

Oh come on AF, unless you’re splitting the atom (especially then?) it’s the social element of work that keeps you going. Even if it’s not about who’s doing who.

Op, for the girlfriend’s sake I hope you’re wrong... I remember in my old workplace (where I had my fling, albeit all were free in my scenario) a partner was having a very obvious affair with a junior colleague. He left in the afternoon to have some time with his affair partner. Told his PA they had a childcare emergency. His PA who I was good friends with (she didn’t say this until well after) then took a call from the wife at home with the kids asking to talk to him and she had to bluff for him. I always thought that was so unfair on everyone.

Wife only found out when OW got pregnant and he left wife for her. That said maybe it did the wife a favour, he was a massive sleaze.

m0therofdragons, yep, it works that way too. I once had lunch with a union rep and had some very odd looks... Then had lunch with another union rep. Both talking about cases.

DollyWilde, too right, everyone is interested when it happens right in front of them.
Your story reminds me of another affair, in another office I worked in, sad also when people have to cover up for them. So, two married people were having an affair and he was her boss. They once returned to the office about 3.00, flustered, and (gross bit) people said they could, er, smell you know what on them. They made up a ridiculous excuse. She later had a second child which looked very different from the first. Sad.

You must not have much work going on for you to notice this

Yup, they're a shaggin'

they could, er, smell you know what on them.

^^

Beer?

delphguelph- not beer, but spunk.

Well I was going to say coming back together once and leaving together once and laughing together doesn't mean they are shagging.

But the "shifty look" nailed it for me.

Can you describe this shifty look for us in more detail. It's clearly critical evidence..😁

Or maybe they went for lunch

not beer, but spunk

Yeah, so who is pushing rhe troll report button first then? 🤣

We have two interns in our office. Everyone thinks they're shagging.

The bloke left a big team meeting to go ;presumably) to the loo. The woman left five minutes later and everyone started giggling.

You have to liven shit up sometimes with a bit of goss.

My male co-worker and I go for lunch together all the time. I once overheard some gossip about why we would sit in a quiet part of the canteen together rather than joining others at the big communal tables, and why we sometimes could be observed coming out of the hotel next to our office. I thought it was hilarious, and the actual reasons behind the actions were just too mundane - we are union reps, and use our lunch breaks to talk about union work, which is confidential, hence the privacy. The hotel thing is the same - we meet union members at the hotel cafe to preserve their privacy if they don't want anyone to know they have asked for union advice.

His DW works with us now, so we sometimes confuse people by sitting with her too