To ask who gets final say on medicating child if parents disagree?

[ShowerOfMonsters]

Split decision parents.
Recommendation from professional.
Paediatrician not convinced it's necessary.
No official diagnosis, just a high probability.
Child is 8.

Just to add that we have only been doing tutoring for 3 months, so for my DS to be ahead in English was a complete shock. School had been talking about him being a year behind. So what they can evidence as to his ability, was in no way a true reflection of his ability. It was just evidence of how he could perform in a classroom environment.

DS has no formal diagnosis of ASD but does have the symptoms. We tried bio neurofeedback and other forms of therapy as well, none of them were a complete success, but the neurofeedback did lead to an improvement. His school made some adjustments but quickly "forgot" about them, so I am not sure that you will have much success there.

shower Sadly you often end up needing more than one assessment for these issues. With DD we consider ourselves lucky that I happened to be at a therapy appointment for DS and DD was there, had a meltdown and the therapist had been involved with a researcher who was collecting data on girls with high functioning autism. The therapist connected us to the researcher who connected us to a whole team of specialists who are focused on autism in girls. Up to that point we had the usual 'bad parenting' excuse along with everyone saying ADD. It wasn't just ADD, but a whole host of other issues too. You can't have an effective plan to manage the behaviors if you don't know the reason behind them which is why a correct diagnosis is so important.

OP does your DS have regular IEP's (review meetings). Is he registered with the school as being on SEN support? Did the EP provide recommendations for the school to follow?
School should be making reasonable adjustments, differentiating language and scaffolding learning talks is entirely reasonable. I wonder is there a mismatch between what school see and what you get at home?

Yes, yes and I don't know exactly what recommendations were made, if any, in writing. Time for another chat with Ed psych.