How does your DP/DH respond when he sees you crying?

[Imsotiredofyou]

Do you get consoled or dismissed? Does he wipe your tears with his hands or write it off as crocodile tears?

AIBU to ask?

I'm not a cryer so when I do husband panics and burst into tears! I thought he was wet but last birth I had something went wrong and I suddenly screamed and cried and my mum and sister both started panicking as they'd never seen me cry either! I'm 'kin nails me, (or massively repressed)

For all these people saying they wouldn’t ever cry in front of anybody. Firstly why? And secondly how do you control it? It’s just sometimes when people are overcome by emotion it’s not always something we can control especially in a traumatic situation.

As a child, I was beaten for crying ( would be told "come here and I'll give you something to cry about" and then would be hit). It's hard to stop yourself from crying, but possible. At boarding school I would promise myself that once I was alone I could have a good cry then, but I was never alone unless locked in the loo! In a genuinely traumatic situation like the unexpected death of my baby, I shut down completely. Crying comes much later.

As an adult, I have become the person who gets everyone else's problems dumped on them. There is nobody to help me and it does pile up and feel suffocating. I'm pretty sure I'm going to regret posting this, but it's all true. I've been crying today because my eldest child dumped something massive on me yesterday and I can't cope with it. Nobody seems to have noticed. I'm the one who copes, they are he ones who cry. It's rubbish.

DontDribbleOnTheCarpet for you

depends with my Ex.

someone else made me cry, he was great.

If I was in pain or HE was the reason I was crying I was either ignored, told to shut up and take painkillers or given a full sermon on how it was my own fault I was upset because I was such a shit wife.

DontDribbleOnTheCarpet, when I had no one to turn to years ago, I rang the Samaritans just to talk through my problem (I wasn’t suicidal or anything but in desperate need of emotional support at the time) and they were terrific. Try them for support - they really helped me sort out my thoughts/emotions.

He leaves me alone. He knows that if I want him I’ll reach out to him, and that if I don’t then I want to be left to myself.