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To think she was very rude

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Creeper8 · 12/09/2018 16:29

Done alot of walking today (about 2 and a half hours) I wanted to board the bus to pick up my children from the town centre to their school. I got on the bus and a woman with a double buggy (tandem one behind the other) was parked across the two spaces and immediately said to me “I have a double!” I looked at her abit confused as she was clearly
parking across the two spaces and was herself standing in the pram space making no attempt to move. She said “I could move it but” and finish the sentence! I ended up getting off and walking as she was cleary being a dick. Im in london for anyone that knows the lay out will know sometimes even prams can fit side by side and Ive had a double myself and it still allowed for other prams to fit on! aibu to think she was really rude?

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WorraLiberty · 12/09/2018 17:34

Or....

"I could move but it'll stick out a bit and very soon, this bus is going to get rammed with school kids".

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Creeper8 · 12/09/2018 17:35

I get on the bus all the time with other double buggies and they all managed to fit just fine are you saying I’m lying and the other people that have commented on the thread are also lying about that then

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ALongHardWinter · 12/09/2018 17:35

I live in Greater London,and I'm afraid to say that this sounds like par for the course on the buses in my local area. I haven't used a pushchair since 2008 when my DGD was a baby,and I'm so grateful that I don't,because at least once a week I see disputes and arguments breaking out between buggy users.

mumsastudent · 12/09/2018 17:41

OK I was on Eurostar & needed to talk to the train manager (my booked seat had sign saying don't use because of stain!) so I went to bar/tea area & asked the assistant if she could contact train manager - she said there was one either end of train I said"No. I don't think so could you please contact them & get them to come to me here or at the seat (it was a full train - I had not intention of walking through 4 or 5 carriages) she contacted him. Point I am making is that you can be assertive & polite & get your way - it took me many years but you shouldn't let other intimidate you - just stand your ground & get your rights - just say no or smile and saying thanking for moving

WorraLiberty · 12/09/2018 17:47

How old is your child, OP?

SilverySurfer · 12/09/2018 17:47

It's amazing how parents managed before the disabled spaces became available on buses, when they all prams/buggies had to be folded and put in a space behind the conductor before even finding somewhere to sit. However did they cope?

WorraLiberty · 12/09/2018 17:49

Silvery, we all used light stroller buggies that were suitable for public transport.

You could literally sling your changing bag on your shoulder, grab the baby and fold the stroller with one hand.

Now many people board buses with complete travel systems.

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Creeper8 · 12/09/2018 17:52

i’ve always got on the bus with other doubles I’m surprised people are trying to tell me that can’t possibly be the case. I’ve had my own double buggy I had two children born one year apart I had a double buggy with them for 2 to 3 years, we always manage to get on the bus with other prams on or if I was on the bus and and another Pram got on I just moved mine abit so theres could fit, no one ever complained. I then had another child and had two years between my other two children again I had a double buggy always manage on the buses, it fits if you put it at an angle. if people with double buggy only ever waited for the bus to be empty before they boarded it, they would never get anywhere.

I do you take the comments on board though I should have been more Assertive definitely.

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Creeper8 · 12/09/2018 17:53

1, around them same age as her children.

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WorraLiberty · 12/09/2018 18:00

Still not sure whether she was very rude or not, as she didn't finish her sentence.

It could well have been she didn't want it to stick out a bit and her (standing holding it) blocking the aisles.

You know what London buses are like as soon as the schools finish. You can hardly fit a sheet of toilet paper between passengers.

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Creeper8 · 12/09/2018 18:00

It was before school finished. I was going to get there early and go inyy

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Creeper8 · 12/09/2018 18:03

Into the shops hence why I had enough time to walk as it takes me double the time it would on the bus. I’m regularly on the bus with shopping trolleys and suitcases blocking the aisle the driver never says anything I don’t think they care in my area.

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Sirzy · 12/09/2018 18:04

TfL website specifically says prams shouldn’t be in the aisle for safety and passenger comfort reasons.

WorraLiberty · 12/09/2018 18:08

It was before school finished. I was going to get there early and go inyy

But she didn't know where you'd be getting off or when.

SilverySurfer · 12/09/2018 18:13

Ah thanks Worra as a non-parent I obviously know nothing about baby carrying equipment and did wonder. Complete travel systems makes the mind boggle.

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Creeper8 · 12/09/2018 18:14

The bus only passes this school but ok. It also wouldnt have been in the aisle ive repeatedly said but you obviously wont take no for an answer. I had a double it was never in the aisle!

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Sirzy · 12/09/2018 18:16

You said she should have parked it diagnonally, I find it hard to figure how a double pram would fit diabgonallh without being in the aisle!

Either way though you had three options and you chose the one which was being a martyr and walking!

Haireverywhere · 12/09/2018 18:17

I'm not sure if she was rude or just you weren't assertive enough.

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Creeper8 · 12/09/2018 18:20

I will take a picture next time it happens I can’t find any online it’s a common occurrence I will post it on this thread.

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WorraLiberty · 12/09/2018 18:23

The woman would've been blocking the aisle, while holding onto her buggy. She may have been reluctant to do that, given the bus was likely to get very busy with school kids.

Silvery I half expect some 'complete travel systems' to fold out into the child's first car, for when they turn 17 Grin

unyummy4amummy · 12/09/2018 18:24

OP I sympathise and do think she was being rude. I have a very large side by side double and manage to get this into a two-seat space no problem. I have sometimes not been able to get on as other buggy users have positioned their pram selfishly, one once took up three spaces with her normal sized single. Thankfully the bus driver asked her to move it before I needed to.Smile
I have learnt that if I want to get on the bus you I have to ask other users politely if they can budge up a bit. Luckily most people where I live will do it.

LemonysSnicket · 12/09/2018 18:29

There's a double in with me now and plenty of room for another - why didn't you say something?

unyummy4amummy · 12/09/2018 18:32

I forgot to say I have often fitted my buggy in at the same time as two single buggies. This should be fairly easy, as long as everyone is considerate!

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Creeper8 · 12/09/2018 18:32

The woman would've been blocking the aisle, while holding onto her buggy. She may have been reluctant to do that, given the bus was likely to get very busy with school kids. but thats no difference from any other standing passenger Confused loads of buses having standing passengers that block the aisle especially by the station.

I should have said something Lemony you are right.

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Creeper8 · 12/09/2018 18:35

Thanks! to the other posters for proving im not lying! It does fit, whether it would have made her standing block the aisle is neither here nor there as plently of people stand up on the bus effectively blocking something. I personally hate it when people stand in the doors blocking them, but they are allowed to as london buses allow space for I think its 30 standing downstairs??

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