To be upset he's not speaking to me?

[HannaPintura]

I started dating someone a few months ago but because of us both having holidays during this time we have only met up five times or so.

For a few of the dates he turned up and said he was really tired after a busy weekend with his son and would've cancelled on me because he was so tired but didn't because he knew it would upset me.

A few weekends ago he rang me up and said that he was going to come over to see me but he was too tired.

I think when you first start dating someone you want to see them all the time and there's a lot of excitement there. He's seemed very much into me otherwise by texting regularly and ringing me most nights where we would chat for an hour or so and get on really great.

On Sunday just gone, after I returned from my holiday we made plans for him to come round. I was really excited. About an hour after he should've set off for my house he called me saying he was unwell with a stomach upset and that he wouldn't be coming. This pissed me off as it was late afternoon by this point and he had all morning to cancel on me and I had rushed home early from my holiday that day so we could have a good few hours together, so I was a bit short with him on the phone and later text him saying he could've told me in the morning rather than when he was supposed to be arriving.

On Monday we text each other, but not as often as usual, but yesterday I didn't hear from him at all which is really upsetting me because I like him. Usually he texts lots and he has always been the first to text and seemed very keen. I don't know what's happened?

You are someone he sees when he has no one else to fuck. He keeps texting you to keep you interested. The times he is tired, stomach bug etc are just a line. He will be with someone else.

I used to do this all the time. The excuses seem so plausible. The texts are so believable and keep you hanging, I used to just c&p between a couple of conversations.

Oh, and when it looked like I was going to lose them, I would suddenly become available again for a meetup.

I met one of those idiots.
He made a beeline for me in a bar, then texted me relentlessly. I was in a bad place after a long marriage. He was funny, if a bit closed off emotionally.
Then he went on holiday in the U.K. 'with family, and didn't contact me for the whole time (?)
Returned, and back to obsessively texting. Asked to meet, but I had to pick him up from across the street from his house. Weird. I knew his address.

After a lot of dates, many at his house, he disappeared. No texts to say he couldn't meet - just vanished.
I drove to his house (worried) to hear his housemate and gf in the garden, discussing that he 'really needed to tell me, and stop being a dick'.
I drove off, and just texted to ask him to confirm that he was alive.
He responded that there was a complication with his ex, who still loved him. I was gutted, but replied 'good luck. Hope it all works out for you both. If you still love one another, then you're making the best decision.'
He phoned the next day and said he couldn't believe how mature I had been, and 'if you'd said that to me, I would have wanted to stab you in the heart'!!!
WTAF?

A few months later he was back. All sorted. Decided Ex wasn't for him, and he missed me. I made him sweat, then agreed to meet for a chat.
Then his girlfriend messaged me on FB, and it all fell into place. Twat!
We both fucked him off.
She'd been with him 2 years, poor girl.

When I collected my stuff, he ran in front of my car because HE LOVED ME!
I was actually prepared to run him over, in my anger.
Kind of glad I didn't though.

OP you've just extracted yourself from a long term bad relationship why are you so keen to jump into another one. You seem like you need to work on your self esteem and work out what you will and won't accept from a partner before you jump in to dating. Your crying because some guy you barely know is making zero effort to get to know you. Why are you basing you self-worth on a stranger? Why are you so desperate for a near stranger to approve of you?

Hello all, thanks for your great advice. I feel much better about things today. Still no word from him but if he's like that who cares? I don't want another arsehole in my life. Our chats and him in general just really made me happy at a difficult time after the breakup with ex.

And you will get that with someone else who isn't fkakey and who IS into you. Look at this idiot as a lesson in what you don't need in your life. Then go and get what you want. Arrange a girls night in or out this weekend.

You dodged a bullet OP, be thankful & move on. Your time is too precious for his shit.

I still feel sad though! I really liked him and he seemed so genuinely nice and caring and this has just floored me :(

Seriously just block his number, stop torturing yourself. This was a none starter and it's time to let it go.

Dont let him click his fingers at the weekend when he has nothing better to do. Your fate will have been sealed then as he knows you'll come running.

I think part of the reason is you got your hopes up with him and you over looked some “faults” and things like the tiredness because it was nice to feel special and wanted after ex.

But I promise you can find someone more suited to you. Someone who will make you buzz even more than this bloke ever did and that really clicks and gets you. That’s what you deserve. This guy was just a warm up!