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To hate ex’s gf

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CandiedPeach · 11/09/2018 22:09

I know it is unreasonable really I hardly even know her and it’s down to my ex to not let her interfere with our co-parenting arrangements.
But still I’m so pissed off Angry and need to rant and it’s better on here than actually phoning her which I was seriously considering earlier today.

I’m sure it’s to wind me up or cause problems, because it’s just stupid little things. And I know I should be mad at him for listening to her, which I am. And I’m usually good at just rising above it and ignoring it, but I’m hormonal and feel crappy tonight.

Her latest little bit of interfering is to say that any stuff I’ve sold of DD’s on eBay, that’s old clothes, toys etc. I should give ex the money if he bought them for her and if I bought them I should take the amount I got off the maintenance he pays me.
I wouldn’t even care if he wanted to sell stuff he’s bought, of course he can. I never ask him to give me stuff from his anyway, so for all I know he already does. It’s the way she does things and implies I’m basically selling the clothes of DD’s back for money for myself.

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Hisnamesblaine · 11/09/2018 22:11

Omg. How does she even know what your selling? She wants to knob off!!!!!

UpstartCrow · 11/09/2018 22:12

She sounds unhinged.

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CandiedPeach · 11/09/2018 22:12

And of course that’s not all she’s done, that’s just tonight’s annoyance.

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CandiedPeach · 11/09/2018 22:16

She knows because I don’t actually have my own PayPal account (I know! I’m setting one up now) so actually all my eBay money goes into ex’s. He just transfers me the money into my account. So she’d apparently seen eBay his iPad and asked him about it.

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Timeisslippingaway · 11/09/2018 22:17

Cow!! Tell her to fuck right off it's none of her bloody business.

Timeisslippingaway · 11/09/2018 22:18

Oft get that changes asap or she will convince him not to send you the money eventually if he's allowing her to interfere the way she is already.

trevormcdonald · 11/09/2018 22:20

Yep, she's barking.

CaptSkippy · 11/09/2018 22:20

Did she tell you this or did you hear through your ex? If the former you could either cut off contact with her or tell her to mind her own business and if the latter you can tell him that they can sort that out between themselves and not to involve you.

I'd be staying far as far away from their relationship if I could, if I were you. I am sure there is a good reason he is your ex.

KC225 · 11/09/2018 22:24

Did she contact you directly to say this or did it come via your ex?

It's bloody cheeky but I imagine she is mad because its another link between you and ex. Cover your own bases, don't give her any ammunition - get your own PayPal account and she won't know what you do.

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CandiedPeach · 11/09/2018 22:26

I found out this little gem because she posted it on Facebook, with a screen shot of recent things I’d sold. I don’t have her on fb, but a mutual friend of both ex and me, told me about it. She’s deleted it now, but apparently her friends agreed with her about it.

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blackvelvetband · 11/09/2018 22:29

Oh god she sounds awful
Rant here... not in real life. Maintain a dignified silence and ffs get your own PayPal account!! X

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CandiedPeach · 11/09/2018 22:31

I have no contact with her, although she’s phoned me a few times from ex’s phone. Once to apologise over something, the other to accuse me of sleeping with him.

I think she’s very insecure and I feel sorry for her if he’s not really helping with that (he can be a bit of a fuckwit, hence the ex). But for fuck sake leave me and my dd out of it. Ex is at least a usually decent father and ex, well until he started seeing her we never had any issues between us.

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CaptSkippy · 11/09/2018 22:36

Hm, I'd say block, block and block again. If she rings, hang up. Block the mutual "friends" that agree with her. You need as little of this toxicity in your life as possible.

What a piece of work those two are.

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CandiedPeach · 11/09/2018 22:38

I’m working the dignified silence. When ex mentions anything she’s says, I tend to just look at him. He knows me well enough to know what I’m thinking anyway.
But I feel like the more I ignore her the more frigging annoying she gets.

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CandiedPeach · 11/09/2018 22:39

Oh no! It was her friends apparently agreeing the mutual friend just told me about it. She’s deleted it now, so think that might have been down to ex.

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CaptSkippy · 11/09/2018 22:46
Flowers

Seems like you are doing that's possible. This situation sucks.

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CandiedPeach · 11/09/2018 22:47

Of course ex can’t fully disagree with her, because he’s shagging her! So from him I get ‘well she might have a point’! I get that a lot, kind of ‘I’m not saying I agree with her, but’ messages. Can’t remember him being so fucking spineless when we were together.

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CandiedPeach · 11/09/2018 22:50

Now I’m back to mostly just hating him. He’s the one who’s brought her into my life after all. Dickhead!

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TaliZorahVasNormandy · 11/09/2018 22:54

Just tell him, everytime he tells you one of her little gems, to take his balls out of her handbag.

What a knob!

Timeisslippingaway · 11/09/2018 22:55

You should tell her to delete you from everything and not to contact you ever and tell your ex you don't want to know about anything she says.

penisbeakers · 11/09/2018 22:57

Christ. I dislike my fiancé's ex wife because she is ridiculous, and she's not keen on me because she saw me as the prevention for them reconciling (I wasn't he hated her for a looong time before i came along) but there's no way I'd behave like this. This is non of your partner's new gf's business. Unless what you're doing directly impacts her, she needs to butt out.

Singlenotsingle · 11/09/2018 22:57

Set your own PayPal up. Everyone's got it (even me!)

LuckyDiamond · 11/09/2018 22:59

If she ever accuses you of shagging him again, make sure you don’t deny it.

Stupid, stupid cah.

Beargoesgrr · 11/09/2018 23:03

exactly like I told my exes new girlfriend. It’s none of your fucking business, so don’t be putting your side of the story, which you aren’t involved in, and know nothing about across.

To be fair she was telling everyone he had overpaid child support- I’d only just managed to get him to start paying &25 a month, she was 4 at this point,

He lost his job and payments stopped but he happened to make CSA believe he had still been paying that amount with no job.

Funnily enough from that point they had to force him to pay because he kept losing jobs as soon as attachments of earnings were secured. He owed me £9000 when CSA were going to take him to court. By which time he was out of her life and I didn’t want the useless twat coming back for his pound of flesh.

She also told people because DD had expensive boots- I obviously didn’t need the help to bring up DD. My blood still blood ils 6years on thinking that.

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CandiedPeach · 11/09/2018 23:04

I know, I know Single I set his up at the time (I wasn’t 18, so couldn’t do my own). He never really uses it and we were in a relationship so I just never got round to it. Usually I don’t sell much and just leave it in PayPal and use it to buy stuff. Sold quite a bit this time though so wanted the money.

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