To hate ex’s gf

[CandiedPeach]

I know it is unreasonable really I hardly even know her and it’s down to my ex to not let her interfere with our co-parenting arrangements.
But still I’m so pissed off and need to rant and it’s better on here than actually phoning her which I was seriously considering earlier today.

I’m sure it’s to wind me up or cause problems, because it’s just stupid little things. And I know I should be mad at him for listening to her, which I am. And I’m usually good at just rising above it and ignoring it, but I’m hormonal and feel crappy tonight.

Her latest little bit of interfering is to say that any stuff I’ve sold of DD’s on eBay, that’s old clothes, toys etc. I should give ex the money if he bought them for her and if I bought them I should take the amount I got off the maintenance he pays me.
I wouldn’t even care if he wanted to sell stuff he’s bought, of course he can. I never ask him to give me stuff from his anyway, so for all I know he already does. It’s the way she does things and implies I’m basically selling the clothes of DD’s back for money for myself.

Oh I’ve had that Beargoesgrr. Although he does at least pay a reasonable amount. But she tried convincing him it was too much and she seems to have issue with me spending anything on myself. I’m apparently always getting my hair and nails done, which is funny because I get my hair trimmed by my mums best friend and I do my own nails.
Obviously she can’t handle that I look this good au natural and I don’t need to go for the fake tanned, bleached hair look she loves so much.

OP it's rare that my jaw drops anymore at these posts but she is a cheeky cow! If it comes from her directly I would tell her it's none of her business; and if from him tell him to grow a pair. Tricky when you've found out about a Facebook post - commenting wouldn't have gotten you anywhere but what a gross invasion of privacy to screenshot your account like that!! I'm raging for you!!

For all she knows, what you’re selling could be being spent back on your daughter. You know like new shoes or clothes etc...
What you do with Maintenance money and the money you make back from selling stuff is nothing to do with her.

I’d be fuming and how ridiculous running what seems like a flipping poll on FB about it.

None of it ever comes from her directly, well other than the phone calls. I’ve heard a few stuff from friends but I’ve asked that they don’t, this one did because he thought it wasn’t on putting my account on fb, although it’s actually ex’s account he didn’t know that though. Her fb isn’t private so I have seen some stuff myself (curiosity got he) but I try not to look. Me and ex had discussed DD’s birthday and we decided on a balance bike, ex is a cycling fan so wanted a decent one and we agreed we’d go half’s and just get her a few small presents separately. Then suddenly after I ordered said bike he chose, he says he thinks he should get his own present instead. Turns out with some prompting his gf has order a battery powered pink jeep thing, DD’s name on the license plate and everything. I could tell from his face he hates it and I’m sure she’s only done it because we were going to give dd the joint present together on her birthday.

I generally do MellowMelly. I’ve used what I’ve sold recently to pay for DD’s birthday party.

Oh are you one of those evil psycho exes who kick back and do nothing except have your hair and nails done and spend all your poor hardworking ex’s lavish maintenance on swan burgers and faberge eggs? Tch i bet you even go on holiday how dare you

This woman is making a total dick of herself. Your mutual friend might have seen her besties agreeing with her on fb but on the offchance she has anyone on there with an ounce of common sense they will have been cringing their arseholes inside out at her publicly picking over your finances and begrudging you making a few quid from selling kids’ clothes on.

I’ve had two Madame one with dd and one without. And I’m going away in October half term. Although I’ve still to tell ex about that, which I really must do. I’m going with my bf though and ex won’t be impressed by that.

And she really is looking stupid, but more so is he. All his mates are like ‘what the fuck you thinking mate’. But he’s so stubborn I know it’s because he’s made a song and dance about them being serious and introducing dd, he won’t just end things now. I’m pretty sure he’s cheated on her or he even still is, but it’s most definitely not with me. I think she thinks it might be or she knows it isn’t but thinks being involved with dd makes her more important to him or something I’m not sure. I just wish my baby didn’t have to be caught up in it. I hate that from his side I’ve no control over who will be her ‘family’and I’m really hoping he comes to his senses soon.

Annoyingly I know these things (cheating, texts asking me back etc) and I’d so love to tell her, but I’d be doing that to be horrible and won’t actually do it. But still when I’m feeling pissed off I so want to.

Lucky I’ve got my own PayPal and eBay sorted! Now he knows about me and dd going away with my bf, he thinks he should be getting a share of the money if I sell DD’s things.
I think he’s forgetting that he took dd away with his gf and her kids. That was after seeing her a few months if that!
I’ve been with my bf longer and DD’s been slowly introduced to him not straight off for a long weekend away.

Tell him, the money is for DD, now jog on, dickless!

he can think you should do any number of things, that doesn't mean you have to

what an immature cock chopping and changing his parenting decisions based on whether he has the hump with you for other reasons

OP why on earth wouldn't you tell her about his cheating and him texting you wanting you back?? Men do this all the time meanwhile the current gf thinks they're going crazy and therefore makes them do dumb shit. She doesn't sound nice at all but who knows what she's like when she doesn't have a dick of a bf making her feel like crap??

Oh I know MadameButterface. Unfortunately it doesn’t stop him trying though. He’ll make a bit of noise and then he’ll settle down, I’m best just ignoring him.

I’m not 100 % certain he has cheated for one thing CatsAreMyAesthetic and I have to think of dd first and how we get on as parents. It’s tricky enough navigating new partners and everything and I don’t want the aggro. Plus I’m pretty certain she’d believe I’m just the jealous ex anyway.

I am slightly worried he may refuse me taking dd abroad though, I think he can actually do that.

Fair enough CandiedPeach, just thought I'd found a solution for you!! I think someone else before though mentioned if she asks you again if you and your ex are still "involved" you should stay silent? I think maybe you should say "at the end of the day X and I have alot of history together and there will always be things you don't know".... Leave it at that, let her go nuclear over nothing on his ass, see if it's the straw that breaks the camel's back?? Meanwhile you've said literally nothing wrong! X

I sometimes wish we could all sit with a glass of wine (or a bottle.. each) and figure this shit out properly. We could run the world I swear if we all got together lol

@CatsAreMyAesthetic

Why are you paying any attention at all to this deranged harpy? Tell her where to put her concern.

Most stuff you have heard has been gossip and something about a deleted post on fb!

It does sound a bit dodgy that you've been using his pay pal account and he goes to the effort to transfer money.

You seem really quick to play down their relationship. This issue is something you should either laugh about and move on or actually call her out. You might actually get a different scope on the story!

Marriedwithchildren5 The thing is I personally have never been in this situation myself and after conversation with OP I don't want to over simplify their dilemma by saying there's either route A or route B and that she should pick one and crack on... Life isn't like that.

I’ve heard stuff from others, but there’s a fair bit of stuff Ive heard directly from her or seen myself. I do tend to laugh it off Marriedwithchildren and I don’t say anything to my ex or her, unless it’s something I really think will effect dd or is doing.
Like I said I was angry and in need of a vent when I posted.

In regards to the latest thing, a mutual friend screen shot the fb post and sent me and my ex it. Ex apologised via text saying ‘sorry, I’ve definitely no issue with you selling DD’s things, whoever bought them to start with.

Why’s using his PayPal/eBay account dodgy though? I mean I know it’s not the most sensible idea seen as we’ve split up. And I’ll admit it was lazyness in getting it sorted on my part. Transferring the money takes him two seconds from his phone, he transfers maintenance in the same way every Friday.

I don’t want to be the reason he breaks up with her CatsAreMyAesthetic. I genuinely want him to move on and be happy, if it’s with this current gf, I’ll make the best of it. And just moan on here about them to get it out of my system!

Gosh that’s scraping the barrel . . . My guess is that she’s got a problem with you existing. She’ll be stalking your every move and trying to poison your ex against you.

I’d watch her, my step mum was exactly the same!