To think they should close their bloody front door?!

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I live in the outskirts of London, on a new estate that has been described by the developers as a "village". Every day I walk from my flat to the train station and back before and after work through pretty much the entire village.

Every single day both times a day I walk past a row of 3 houses. They have back gardens and three stories each. Every single morning and every single evening, no matter what time I walk past, the middle house has it's door wide open, displaying the entire downstairs hallway, lounge at the end and contents of those rooms to the entire street. I can see every time (I look - I'm only human) that the back door is closed. When it's dark all the lights are on so you can see everything.

The lady who lives there is usually either sat in the living room on the sofa or standing in the hallway shouting up the stairs at one or more children. They're never outside and she's never outside. Yet the front door is open every single time.

I just don't get it. Why on earth would the they do this?! I'm sure I AIBU to care so much but seriously - tell me you wouldn't wonder too?!

Lol at all thr it's normal brigade.

We all know it's not normal to leave your front door wide open all day and evening, drive round any estate, street and village if you're confused. 🤣

What has what your neighbour’s leaving her door open got to do with you?

I think it is odd behaviour!

It's quite simple: they are northern, it's too hot and they haven't adjusted to different cultural norms yet.

Knock on the door and say you just thought you'd let her know her front door was open Incase of burglaries etc

Yeah, do that- it's nice and passive aggressive. They might as well find out sooner rather than later.

Could she be a prostitute? Maybe she hates missing packages? Maybe she likes to see when you go to work and if you got home safely. Once you’re out of sight for the evening she closes her door and goes to bed? What happens if you walk past at 1am?

I leave my back door open as much as possible. But the front door is weird.

When I'm in I have our front and back doors open all day all summer long, and potter in and out of the garden and the yard. Sit outside to work etc.

You can't see into the rooms though, just a hallway and we are well set back from the road.

Could she be a prostitute? Maybe she hates missing packages?

I think they call them punters.

I do live in a small village.One of my Neighbours always have their front door open(the door opens straight onto a hallway so not a case of there being an inside door.,no matter the weather it is wide open!!! The mind boggles

I honestly do not get this whole obsession with having your house locked down like a vault.

Maybe not everybody has lived the same charmed life as you.

I used to leave my front door open when my eldest played out so that he could come in when he wanted to without knocking. You couldn't see right into my house though, because I have a little porch area with an inner door that was closed.

Chuck something through the doorway. They'll soon stop leaving it open.
If they do get robbed, then why are you bothered? It's their problem.

I find it weird that my neighbours big bedroom window is open EVERY night - even in snow - so this would freak me right out! How very odd!

Does it upset you somehow OP? Why?

Also have bedroom windows open at night.

I love the typically MN way that there have been several posts saying that this is entirely normal...

I like to walk and have been walking around various parts of London, suburbs of London and the commuter belt for nigh on 25 years now. I have never, ever seen anyone leave their front door open as a matter of course.

It's not normal but Kidbrooke has massively changed and is not exactly crime ridden the way the ferrier was

I really doubt there's any code or meaning to it other than they just are "those people"

I know a CM who leaves the front door open all day... wierd to me but hey ho she hasn't lost any mindees in 20 years

Maybe back door backs onto the train line hence it being front door they do it with?

No, I only do it because my hall is dark. If I open the front door, all the sunlight comes in.
I have a front garden with a fence so the only people who can see in are the kids on the school bus. Maybe the occasional lorry driver, now I come to think about it

Obviously I shut it when it gets colder or before it gets dark. We live in a village. The only person who ever comes into the garden is the postman. I’m starting to worry about it now

I have never, ever seen anyone leave their front door open as a matter of course

Well of course not, because it's not remotely normal. Anyone who ever goes out knows that, You can air your house plenty well with windows and the back door or patio doors. There is no need to have your front door open all day and evening.

I'm not saying it's wrong, but it's far from the norm. So why some folks are pretending otherwise is bonkers.

I have a large front garden and some friends who tend to leave my front door open when they go into the garden. It drives me nuts. I did ask them once, when I got sick of shouting shut the door, why they left my front door open when they never left theirs open and got the response "I think it's because it's not like a normal front door". But it is a front door, it's mine, fucking shut it, like you shut yours. 🤣

Maybe she's waiting for transport for one of the kids. I can wait in a front room for ours, as we have a good view of the road, but a lot of those town houses have hallway and garage at the front at ground level and no windows to look out of.

Kidbrooke Village .

Used to be the concrete jungle, aka Ferrier Estate for years.

I leave my patio door open enough to let air in the whole day. I'm in London ten minutes walk from a Circle line tube station. However my door isn't visible from the street, a passer-by would have to take a detour through communal gardens to notice it.

To be fair, a neighbour with an identical flat once had a laptop taken after leaving his door open, so I'm probably not as safe as I feel.

I lived on ferrier many moons ago as a small child, lots of fond memories even if it was a bit of a dump!
I don’t claim to think this sort of thing is normal, I just don’t get why the OP and some others are so bothered about someone else leaving their front door open. It literally affects you in no way, why do you care?

My neighbour does this. At first I thought it was very unusual. Now I wonder what I do that she finds unusual.

I grew up in a street where everyone's front door was open but vestibule doors shut all day because there would be kids in and out or people dropping round etc. That was the late 80s/early 90s. Now I lock my own front door even if anyone just pops in, just in case. If the Mum is always visible then perhaps she shuts /locks the door when she goes upstairs etc but likes the air. I've just moved and there are a couple of houses that keep their doors open during the day as there seems to be a stream of kids in and out or people chatting on the front. Took me back tbh.