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To not want abortion.

57 replies

Movingbee · 11/09/2018 14:08

Recently found out im pregnant after a big move due to his job. I was on clomid so was actively trying he was obv aware as you cant have it without them accepting.
So now we have moved he now no longer wants it (im 12 weeks) he says things like "im allowed not to want things i dont want it"( which is true ) i dontwant to pay for it and you. We have a child who is 6 tbh would thrive with a sibling. Im at a loss am i being unreasonable in refusing to get rid? For the past couple weeks ive been ignored or talked at. Told im useless and good for nothing i dont deserve to have an opinion. As ive just moved im struggling to get our son into a school so i can work. He wont help he said its not his problem.

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garethsouthgatesmrs · 11/09/2018 23:07

Don't have the abortion and go back home now. You can get legal advice and the mortgage can be sorted. Don't let financial concerns stop you from being happy.

He is emotionally abusing you and if he c do it to you he can do it to your children. Get them out now!

BlackberryandNettle · 11/09/2018 23:09

There's one thing you should absolutely be getting rid of and that's your partner - he sounds like a total bastard. If you really want this baby and sibling for your child, then keep it but leave him. Or leave him and terminate. Either way, leave the abusive twat!

BlackberryandNettle · 11/09/2018 23:14

Reading back through your posts, could you move back, stay with family or friends (sounds like they may be supportive if they all told you not to move), then proceed with divorce. I'd call your son's old school and try to go back if possible. Definitely get paperwork and leave. You can decide about pregnancy after leaving bit obviously need to act soon if terminating. Only do that if it's what you need to make your new life easier though, not to please him!!

DebbysMum · 11/09/2018 23:19

It sounds like he just pretended to want the baby in order to more easily move you into a vulnerable position. Sad

SoleBizzz · 11/09/2018 23:23

It's all excuses. Leave IT have the baby

ana18 · 12/09/2018 00:13

Don't have abortion, like you said you are tied to the house and marriage so if that's the case not easy for him to leave either if that's what your worried about . But if he did leave he be doing you a favour the way he is acting
If you had abortion you only end up resenting him. Do want you want , you didn't make yourself pregnant it takes two . I'm very sorry your having hard time .

CityFarmer · 12/09/2018 06:34

Congratulations on the baby @OP

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