To want to shout at the kids outside my house

[MummaofH]

That’s it really... my son is 11 months old and goes to bed at 7pm. Between 7.30 and 8.30 most evenings, there are children screaming and shouting at each other (as loud as their voices will go) right outside my son’s window. It was wakes him up, they hear him screaming then disperse. Aibu to want to go outside and tell them to keep the noise down? I don’t know who their parents are so I can’t go round etc. I just want to know aibu as it’s early but the noise they are making I think should be considered anti social at any time. The kids must be around 10 or 11.

Children, like most people respond to being asked to do something nicely.

Why would you shout at them. They seem reasonable and disperse when they hear the baby cry.

Why not ask them to move on somewhere more suitable?

Why are they right outside his window - does it overlook a playground or something? And how close are they exactly? 2m? 5m?

Yours will be out there too soon enough. Speak to them as you would want others to talk to your child in the same situation. No need to shout.
If it’s a regular thing could you move him to another room?

Pop outside when they arrive and ask them to please play elsewhere as they’re waking up your baby, and that you know they didn’t mean to as they’re such good kids.

A bit of flattery/praise goes further than shouting - most of the time!

As per Dartmoor. Catch more flies with honey etc.

Why will op's child be out there soon enough??
Not all of us will allow their child to hang around on the streets. I certainly won't. It's tacky and lazy parenting. Take your child out if they want to be out. Or have them in the garden/ yard. Nothing I hate more than children hanging round on streets.

If they disperse when they hear him crying then record him crying and play it when you need to...

I certainly won't be letting my kids hang about in the street.. Screams a certain type doesn't it?

It's tacky and lazy parenting.

Flip side to that is bubble wrapped helicopter parenting.

They are 10/11yo!

"Hanging around the streets", or 'playing out' as normal people call it.

God you can tell helicopter parenting is alive and well in 2018

For centuries children have played outside in the streets

Now it's 'hanging around' and 'tacky and lazy parenting'.

No wonder the obesity epidemic is as bad as it is.

Why don’t you pop out and very reasonably remind them that they know they wake up the baby because they disperse the minute they hear him scream so could they please stand hang round like chavs elsewhere.

YANU to feel that you want to shout at them OP because their behaviour impacts on you and your child. However, YWBU to actually shout at them. They're children and probably not bad children - unless you live somewhere that children are often armed and move in feral packs! Just ask them nicely to move.

LOL at the people who think that children playing out "screams a certain type" and is "tacky and lazy parenting". How sad for children who don't get to play out with friends without an adult to supervise and structure their time.

Why not just explain the problem to them and ask if they would mind going a bit further down to hangout. 10 is old enough to be reasoned with and will likely get a better result then shouting.

Although if you do opt for the shouty route then I'm sure you'll soon find out who their parents are.

@happymummy12345
FWIW I live rurally so my children’s version of playing on the ‘streets’ is actually by the river and in the fields. If that makes me a lazy parent I feel for yours.

My children play out in the street every evening as we face onto a field. I prefer this as it stops them asking for the iPad or tv every 2 minutes, is that also bad parenting? I thought tv every night was bad parenting...

Can’t win @Somewhereovertherainbow13!

Seems a certain type ?

What type is that then ?? Stuck up mare .

Screams a certain type doesn't it?

Someone who is part of a strong local community?
Someone who is sociable and encourages their children to be sociable and make friends?
Someone who encourages their child to be active?

What type is that then ??

My type.

A certain type 😆

As in...the type of people whose children venture outdoors?

You're clutching your pearls so hard they'll leave a mark. Unclench.

My kids play out when the weather is nice, we have a large green in front of our house and houses circle it. Most of the children do and the various parents, grandparents keep an eye out.

Let kids be kids, however ours are certainly not Screaming just laughing chatting and sticking plastic bottles in their bikes to turn them into motor bikes and popping and out each others houses for an ice pop.

It will be dark soon by 4pm and they will be stuck inside until Easter.

We must be a certain type then.... the type are friendly

@happymummy12345

How old are your children, guess not old enough to do this yet because when they get to a certain age they will want to go out with their friends I'm affraid, stopping them is a bit cruel.

Just asked them to move OP sure they will