To just want to enjoy my week off work!!

[Winchester89]

So I took this week off work- as my little angel started school and it's half days all week. Been looking forward to this week off for ages. Enter... twatty husband.
He's "working from home" all week. Mildly annoying in itself but never mind.
So today I got up, dropped said little angel at school at 9, walked back made breakfast, watched TV on the couch, went to pick her back up for 12, come back, make lunch. Me and little angel sat on the couch at 1pm, finished our lunch, watching paw patrol, enjoying life... enter... twatty husband;
Him 'When are you gonna sort that washing'
Me 'erm dunno, maybe later'
Him 'you're just sitting on the couch'
Me 'yes I know, I'm enjoying my day off'
Him ' you're so lazy'

I ignore him, me and little angel go upstairs, play in her room for a while, I Potter and tidy up a bit. Come downstairs about an hour ago.

Enter.. well, you get the idea!
Him 'you got anything to say'
Me ' I don't think you wanna hear what I've got to say'
Him ' you're so lazy, you're a child, you don't do anything unless forced to do it'
Me 'give me a break- it's Monday I have all week to do what I need to do'
Him (ranting and speaking to me like shite at this point) ' I've had it up to here with your laziness bla bla bla'

So I go upstairs and just cry in bed cos I'm 4 months pregnant and rather emotional anyway.

I am now angry (maybe irrationally so- who knows) but as I know he thinks he hasn't done anything wrong and I'm the bad guy here- he won't apologise.
So I am considering, as I have my scan tomorrow, and I don't wanna see his face right now for fear I'll try to break it-
Can I just leave the house tomorrow- pick little angel up from school, go out for tea, go to her dance lesson then straight to scan and not mention it to him? Then ignore him if he tries to contact me?

I am literally fuming. I feel like he spoke to me like I'm another one of his children and he's not my fucking dad.

Help me calm down. I really needed a rant. And I need to stop crying also but I'm like a box of Pringles l when it comes to crying.

I thought everyone hated housework. Tell him you have morning sickness and get a cleaner.

You have to be stricter on housework sharing. Start tonight. Get that laundry pile and make him sort, fold and put away with you.

Doing a dull housework job together makes it less dull and offers an opportunity for a bit of a chat.

When the the DC are older, laundry folding is a great time for getting chat out of them instead of grunts.

What a twat! I was off for six weeks over summer, did fuck all and at no point did my dh complain about me doing this. It’s your annual leave, he has no right to moan at you.

I think youre just going to have to thrash this one out while Little Angel is at school and out of earshot.
He is expecting you to do the same housework /wifework that his ex even though you are working and she did not.
He is not picking up the slack in the house even though you are contributing considerably to the household income.
You are working full time while caring for one child and growing another.
And still he has the gall to call you lazy!
Get him told once and for all or your ML will be a nightmare of his expectations.

Agree with getting a cleaner (if you can afford it!). She only comes once every two weeks but my gosh what a difference that makes! House is spotless and because we have spent money on it getting so clean we make more of an effort to keep it clean in between

It's not a regular occurrence, I can't remember the last time we had an argument.

Is that because you normally do everything?

I wouldn't have had a second kid with him, the big life change coming his way would be a divorce.

I wouldn't have had a second kid with him, the big life change coming his way would be a divorce.

I'd have said fucking castration without anaesthesia, then divorce.

Also, I know you mean well, but please stop calling your DD “little angel” every 3 sentences. It’s making my eyes hurt

This ^

If I read 'little angel' one more time I'm gonna punch myself in the face.

Jeez I think I'd go back to work and let him juggle WFH and little angel. Then re-book your annual leave for a week when he's definitely back in the office.