To be annoyed people won't spell my name correctly

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It's not a particularly zany spelling. It's actually short for my full name and is a widely used abbreviation.

Why do people insist on using a different contraction even when I've emailed them and signed my email off with the name I use? Like Deb for Deborah but they call you Debbie...

It pisses me off and I find it rude.

Should I correct them?

I'm with you OP. The amount of people who consistently spell my name wrong even when I always sign off my emails with my shortened name.

I never know whether to correct them or not though.

Correct them if it's someone you expect to have further contact with. I don't normally bother if it's someone I never expect to hear from again.

Just say, 'Oh, by the way, I noticed you made a typo on the last email. My name is actually X. Thanks.'

The two most common mispellings of my name both switch it to a different gender, btw, so I always do this if I think I'll ever meet the person.

I have a very simple name, and people still get it wrong, despite responding to emails etc. Just lazy, and a bit annoying, so i feel your pain. I don't correct, cos these days its just social stuff. But inside, I judge people for it.

Not unreasonable as long as it’s not Nicky or Nikki. That drives me crazy remembering which of the enormous number of Nicolas I work with uses which. I’m only half joking 🙃

It's not Nikki!! I'm almost the only woman in the team which annoys me further...

Could not agree with this more. Especially in a professional setting, feels very disrespectful

It is annoying.

On the flip side I sent an email to Garry the other day apologising for spelling his name Gary. It’s just polite isn’t it?

I get this semi frequently and only ever from men, usually older than me. Given that, and the fact that I work in a male dominated industry, I assume it's some sort of power play. It usually goes along with questioning my technical knowledge and making a big deal out of being shocked that I know how to use a tape measure.

Maybe you should be very obvious and start spelling their names wrong. When they inevitably point it out you can say you assumed it was the done thing since they keep doing it to you.

This drives me mad too!

My name has both an English and a Gaelic spelling. Mine is spelt in the Gaelic manner but the number of people who reply back to me from emails, cards etc. using the English spelling make me grind my teeth!

I know there are more important things to worry about in the world but I admit to finding it really annoying.

My (full, not shortened) name is 4 letters. There is a different vowel in the middle from the normal spelling, which I totally get is unusual and not the expected spelling. But it's FOUR LETTERS! I get so many people spelling it wrong over and over. Particularly annoying when on email, as my correctly spelled name is very clearly there!

Is one of the reasons I always advise against "younique" spellings on the baby names thread!

I have an uncommon Irish name and it's frequently mispronounced and misspelled, even when I've CLEARLY stated my name and spelled it out. Very irritating.

Mine is a widely used spelling and shortening of my name of which there are two ways to go like

Beckie/Becky

My email address is the spelling I use and I always sign off with it and I STILL get the wrong one, or neither, and instead a completely different name

It fucks me off, so I hear you OP

I know that was just an example but I’ve literally never seen the spelling Beckie. I think it’s a reasonable mistake for people to make if they write Becky, because that’s the usual spelling and people are busy and could miss it.

I agree with this, but people who choose to spell their names in a strange way get on my nerves a bit. Like Nikkii or whatever.

My name has 5 letters in it. In all work related email correspondence I have a signature file which as my name, phone contact information and business area in it. My name isn't mixed up in that, it is right at the very start. A number of colleagues misspell my name on replies to emails I have sent them. They have my name. It's not like they have to guess. They still misspell it.
It would be like my name is Anne and they spell it Ann, but even still, my name is in the signature of the email that they are replying to.

GIVES ME THE RAGE SO IT DOES!!!!!!!!!!

You're not alone OP. Not alone at all. We might even set up a support group for this!

Drives me insane too

I have this too and notice that it's mainly older men that do it! Mine is the most common spelling, too 🤔

I'm not a Beckie it was an example but I do know a Beckie that's why I used it.

My name and my nickname are always being spelt incorrectly. It doesn’t bother me, even when it’s my brothers who are doing it. I think it’s funny.

Having said that I try and spell other people’s names and nicknames correctly but it’s tricky when you know several people with the same phonetic name but with different spellings. I don’t write people’s names that often so I sometimes have to double check I’ve got the right spelling.

I have an unusual name.. nobody ever spells it correctly.. I'm lucky they remember it... never mind spell it... I gave up correcting people decades ago... so I answer to allsorts

Don't think it is a sexist thing. My DH gets this all the time. He also gets people mispronouncing his name all the time (it is not foreign or that unusual as an abbreviation). He works from home and I almost felt sorry for the bloke at the other end of the phone by the time DH had corrected him 5 times while refusing to engage with the conversation till he got it right. Felt less sorry for him when he then started making all sorts of arsey unreasonable demands. DH responded with a painfully polite email pointing out all the procedural reasons why he would not be complying.

Oh I get this too... Say my name is Victoria, and I go by Vicky, I get Vicci all the time!
Worse is that the nickname starts with a different letter, so on work related stuff I sometimes get my proper initials, and sometimes with the nickname...

YANBU, it's very annoying especially when you try to polite and clear on it but they keep doing it after that. Mistakes happen but some people are very inconsiderate about it. I can get when people misread my name for a more common English one, but my name is quite short and people love adding letters to my name or changing the letters.

Funniest one though involves a local politician, we'd talked before and she'd seen my name before but very busy and once she asked me my name again and before I could spell it she'd tried writing it and I've never seen someone try to add so many vowels and I think there was an h as well to such a short name, it was over doubled in size. I ended up with a few letters to that name even though I'd tried to correct her and all my correspondence with her has my name both in the email and in the email address.

YANBU. I’ll also add into the mix people who call you something that you are not know by. My daughter is an Isabelle, shortened by family to Belle. Never has gone by Izzy and more importantly she doesn’t want to be called Izzy. Don’t call her it!!!