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Original poster

I have a blood clot on my lung

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deepsea · 09/09/2018 21:05

And I have been sent home from hospital and awaiting a CT scan. I am terrified siting here. Is it safe to be at home? Is it unreasonable to want to stay in hospital? I have blood thinners but I feel so bloody unwell.
My dc haven’t stopped arguing. My dh has told me there is no way he can support me as he to work whatever happens (I haven’t even asked him to take any time off) I feel so ill and I feel like no one could care less, not enough to even stop shouting for 5 minutes. I am sobbing and want to leave. I feel too ill to deal with any of this

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Babyroobs · 09/09/2018 21:09

Gosh this sounds awful. Your dh should be taking time off work at least for the first few days until the blood thinning medication kicks in. What would happen if you were to become more unwell and need to go back to hospital ?? I would say you should be taking things easy and not getting stressed. Hope you feel better soon.

Babyroobs · 09/09/2018 21:10

Does your dh realise how serious this condition can be? is there anyone else ( parents, friends) who could help you out ?

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deepsea · 09/09/2018 21:12

My parents live a 200 miles away and couldn’t/wouldn’t come. I have always been on my own with my problems, they have never really offered support.
Yes I have do some really nice friends though.

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categed · 09/09/2018 21:13

I hope friends and family rally around you. Huge hugs. Please take it easy and follow guidance given by the hospital xx

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deepsea · 09/09/2018 21:13

I feel completely and utterly alone

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monkeysox · 09/09/2018 21:14

Your dh needs to step up. It's serious

SoftlyCatchyMonkey1 · 09/09/2018 21:15

How did they find out you have a clot on your lung if you haven't had a CT scan yet?

If you've been given blood thinners I wouldn't worry

WhatWouldLeslieKnopeDo · 09/09/2018 21:15
Flowers

I have had lots of these. In fact I'm waiting to see if I have new ones or if the existing ones have grown/shrunk.

They wouldn't have sent you home if they thought you were at any risk, though I'm sure it is scary to be suddenly on your own, especially with the additional stress of looking after children and your husband being so unsupportive.

The blood thinners will hopefully get to work quite quickly. Are you on injections?

You'll feel unwell for a while but it's honestly better to be at home if you can. There's not much they can do in hospital anyway, and they're full of germs and annoying fellow patients!

I hope that you start to feel much better soon Flowers

saffyBoo · 09/09/2018 21:15

Flowers stay clam. Call your nearest relative's and get someone to help you.

ChasedByBees · 09/09/2018 21:15

Why has your DH said he can’t take time off? I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this alone. How old are the DC?

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deepsea · 09/09/2018 21:20

Thank you all of your replies.
I have realised how selfish everyone is around me.
Whatwould, your message was really resssuring. I have oral blood thinners. They did a d dimer test, ECG and given my symptoms are case book they are not in any real doubt. I apparently need a CT scan in the morning. I am trying to stay calm but I am really worried. I am also not finding it easy to breathe.

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deepsea · 09/09/2018 21:24

Incredibly I need a major operation in two weeks and he can’t take any more time off.
Will I even be able to have surgery with this?

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BeardedMum · 09/09/2018 21:25

Can’t believe your DH’s attitude.

Hope you get better soonFlowers

IdahoJones · 09/09/2018 21:29

If you're having breathing difficulties you need medical attention, tbh. I'm so sorry you have this situation. You shouldn't have been discharged.

As for your family, well that's pretty awful to read. But a lot of us have been there.

TammyTwoSawnson · 09/09/2018 21:32

If you are struggling to breathe, go back to a&e. They'll do a CT scan urgently.

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deepsea · 09/09/2018 21:32

I can breathe but not deeply.

I can’t tell you how much I love my dear little family, I feel really hurt.

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WhatWouldLeslieKnopeDo · 09/09/2018 21:32

I'm wary of saying too much because your situation is likely entirely different to mine. My clots are a result of cancer/chemotherapy. They haven't responded particularly well to the blood thinners (this is unusual!). I've had bowel surgery whilst I've had them. The anaesthetist wasn't really concerned at all. But it depends on the type of surgery and the clot itself and all sorts, so it's impossible to know at this stage what they'd do.

Hopefully the CT scan will shed more light on this. Though I'm a bit surprised they haven't scanned before sending you home.

If your breathing problems get worse then please don't hesitate to call 111 for advice or to go back to A&E.

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deepsea · 09/09/2018 21:33

I am much to frightened to go back. I’ll wait to the morning.

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Fairylea · 09/09/2018 21:33

If you’re struggling to breathe you need to be back in A n E.

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deepsea · 09/09/2018 21:34

Thank you eveyone. At least I have all of you. What a lifeline it is tonight.

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deepsea · 09/09/2018 21:35

I got the impression the CT scan wasn’t available until tomorrow

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deepsea · 09/09/2018 21:36

My dds are 13 & 10

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WhatWouldLeslieKnopeDo · 09/09/2018 21:37

Were they aware of your breathing problems when they discharged you? Sorry I genuinely don't know what's normal as I haven't been able to breathe properly for ages. The blood thinners take a while to work, so it might be that there wouldn't be much improvement expected for a while and there's not really anything that can be done, in which case they would send you home. But if it's got worse or they weren't aware of how bad it was then you might need further medical attention.

DontCallMeCharlotte · 09/09/2018 21:38

What if they'd kept you in? He'd have to step up then. Or is it his work who are being bastards?

I know three people who've had this. They're all fine.

Good luck with everything.

Dragongirl10 · 09/09/2018 21:38

OH op poor you, Handhold from here.......not a great help l know hopefully someone better informed will come along soon