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To be annoyed at this?

36 replies

lisab3446 · 09/09/2018 17:17

Last night me and my friend went to bongos bingo (it's a crazy bingo /rave night thing)
Anyway she says dress casual,I ask what she's wearing and she tells me jeans and a jumper with flat shoes..I asked a couple of times if she was deffo wearing this and she said yes.
I get dressed the same and head to meet her.
She's there in leather jeans And a dressy halter top with heels ...
I ask why she isn't wearing what she said and she reply's changed my mind ...
I only asked her 5 min before I left the house.
Why do that?
It's annoyed me..I felt like the scruff all night.

OP posts:
LyndorCake · 09/09/2018 17:25

Bongos is full of people dressed casual (been loads myself) Half the prizes are inflatable boyfriends and other random shite. YABU to be precious about what your mate wore

Original poster
lisab3446 · 09/09/2018 17:27

It isn't about what she wore ..it's the fact she clearly wanted me to look like shit and her look great.

OP posts:
Aridane · 09/09/2018 17:27

YANBU -;that would annoy me too

MyKingdomForBrie · 09/09/2018 17:28

Well there's your answer.. that's why she did that. Not much of a mate.

LyndorCake · 09/09/2018 17:28

Well then why are you friends with her?

CatchingACold · 09/09/2018 17:28

It isn't about what she wore ..it's the fact she clearly wanted me to look like shit and her look great.

Leather trousers NEVER look good.

SilverySurfer · 09/09/2018 17:31

It sounds classy LyndorCake Grin

Seriously, if this is all you have to be annoyed about, thank your lucky stars. Why wold you give a fuck what other people were wearing. Wear it and own it.

Ruleof4 · 09/09/2018 17:36

I'm with you, if I ask my friends the same question I'm expecting to differentiate between dressy and casual. If I 'change my mind' then I'd let the other person know, sounds like she did it on purpose. Obv you can't just end friendships over trivial things but I'd deffo return the favour one day and then plan your own outfits!

SheCameFromGreeceSheHadaThirst · 09/09/2018 17:38

it's the fact she clearly wanted me to look like shit and her look great

I'm confused: you chose clothes from your own wardrobe, and they make you look shit, but you wore them anyway, and that's your friend's fault?

Be a big girl and chose your own outfit next time. And get shot of things that make you look/feel shit.

Pickleypickles · 09/09/2018 17:40

I understand what you mean OP and I've been a bit miffed as well

LyndorCake · 09/09/2018 17:41

Silvery it is actually quite good fun. I actually worked at the venue it's hosted in so have been many times. Very low brow.

JacNaylor · 09/09/2018 17:47

The thing is though, why are you relying on your friend to tell you what to wear? Next time you go out YOU decide what to wear and don't worry about what other people think/are wearing. I'm sure you looked lovely but you need to have a little more faith in your own opinions.

Original poster
lisab3446 · 09/09/2018 18:05

I didn't feel comfortable as she looked like she was going on a night out and I looked like I was off to Tesco's for a bottle of milk.
If I had known I would have also wore different clothes

OP posts:
SheCameFromGreeceSheHadaThirst · 09/09/2018 18:11

I didn't feel comfortable as she looked like she was going on a night out and I looked like I was off to Tesco's for a bottle of milk. If I had known I would have also wore different clothes

Just wear what you're comfortable wearing. It makes no odds what clothes anyone else chooses to put on their own body. Choose what you want to wear, wear it, and don't think about what anyone else wears or says.

Truly, once you let go of caring what other people do or think, your life gets a hell of a lot easier. And wearing a casual outfit to a bingo night whilst someone else wore something different isn't worth a second thought.

Oddcat · 09/09/2018 18:16

Next time you go out with her you'll know to put on a ball gown and tiara!

Develop your own style and self confidence- a confident happy person in jeans and t shirt is so much more attractive than a mizzog dressed to the nines.

LittleMe03 · 09/09/2018 18:27

Just wear what you're comfortable wearing. It makes no odds what clothes anyone else chooses to put on their own body. Choose what you want to wear, wear it, and don't think about what anyone else wears or says.

This ^

MadameButterface · 09/09/2018 18:32

I didn't feel comfortable as she looked like she was going on a night out and I looked like I was off to Tesco's for a bottle of milk.

But you were going on a night out? And you are presumably an adult? Who has been on nights out before?

Dress yourself in what you feel good wearing and you’ll find life a lot easier and more pleasant.

BeautifulPossibilities · 09/09/2018 18:35

Are you known for copying your pals and what they wear? Just wear whatever you feel comfy in.

PineapplePen07 · 09/09/2018 18:35

Yanbu to be irritated op but I really need to know more about the crazy bingo/rave combination. I can't work out whether it's genius or very very wrong.....

BlowPoke · 09/09/2018 18:36

I’m with you OP, and I refuse to believe so many people just wear what they want and don’t care about dressing in a way that is consistent with the venue/occasion. With every friend I’ve ever had we would confer about what we are wearing before a big night out to somewhere unfamiliar. It’s not about being a “big girl,” it’s about dressing appropriately. Would you wear trainers and jeans to a wedding if they made you look better than a dress?

SheCameFromGreeceSheHadaThirst · 09/09/2018 18:43

I refuse to believe so many people just wear what they want and don’t care about dressing in a way that is consistent with the venue/occasion

I do wear what I want when I go out (why would I wear what someone else wanted me to wear?), and I make my own decision about what is appropriate for the venue/occasion. I don't need anyone else's input on that, and I don't change what I fancy wearing in the light of someone else's choice of outfit. What's difficult to believe about that?

Racecardriver · 09/09/2018 18:45

Hold on, she was wearing leather jeans and a halter neck and you were the one who was supposed to look shit?

Racecardriver · 09/09/2018 18:46

Also, maybe she did this because she us sicj of you turning up in exactly the same outfit as her?

chasinggarlic · 09/09/2018 18:49

its the fact she clearly wanted me to look like shit and her look great.

Perhaps choose your own clothes independently of your friend?

WelcomeToShootingStars · 09/09/2018 19:11

It's a night out in town. Surely we can all dress appropriately for that without an itemised list of clothing from other people??

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