To be annoyed at this?

[lisab3446]

Last night me and my friend went to bongos bingo (it's a crazy bingo /rave night thing)
Anyway she says dress casual,I ask what she's wearing and she tells me jeans and a jumper with flat shoes..I asked a couple of times if she was deffo wearing this and she said yes.
I get dressed the same and head to meet her.
She's there in leather jeans And a dressy halter top with heels ...
I ask why she isn't wearing what she said and she reply's changed my mind ...
I only asked her 5 min before I left the house.
Why do that?
It's annoyed me..I felt like the scruff all night.

And surely to god if you're ever that unsure, something smart casual will tick most of the boxes most of the time??

I’d wear jeans and flag shoes on a night out. That sort of outfit doesn’t have to look shit.

YWNBU I would also be annoyed. And I think it’s pretty standard to confer re dress code too so in a group of friends no one feels over or under dressed for the occasion.

“Hold on, she was wearing leather jeans and a halter neck and you were the one who was supposed to look shit?”

Ikr, atomic kitten called, they want their look back

She told me everyone dresses casual and wears flats as you dance on the benches then rocks up dressed up and in heels!

I totally get what you're saying, OP. However, I believe it's better to under dressed than over dressed. Don't give it another thought.

And I think it’s pretty standard to confer re dress code too so in a group of friends no one feels over or under dressed for the occasion

Not 'pretty standard' for me and my friends. I'd feel a bit silly asking other people what they were wearing, and at my age I can make a pretty good judgement of what is the 'appropriate' level of dressiness for an event. Maybe I get it wrong sometimes and people are sniping behind my back, but who the fuck really cares? It's only fabric at the end of the day, and if someone's going to judge others on correct or incorrect application of fabric to torso, they need a bit more to occupy their mind.

Wow, people are being very bitchy. I completely understand where you're coming from, OP. It's got nothing to do with not being independent or being a "big girl", it's the fact that you didn't want to stick out and you didn't know what sort of dress code is usually worn there. I would also want to be wearing the same style as whoever I was meeting up with. How are people not getting this? I would be angry with her too, especially since she had confirmed a few minutes before you left that she was still wearing the very casual outfit... YANBU

I bet her feet where killing her tho...
And yours where all nice and comfortable 😂😂

LyndorCake Inflatable boyfriends? Hmm do tell me more

OP I am sure you did not look like shit and casual sounds perfect for where you were going, especially if you were expected to dance on the benches

I do see where you are coming from as she most likely knew you was asking as you was planning on wearing something similar. On the other hand, sod what other people are wearing. You knew where you was going so decide what you are going to wear regardless of other people.

My sense of style is awful. I am always over dressed. My clothes range between unicorns and zombies and i can often be found in clashing patterns. But that's what works for me. I may look like an utter knob half the time, but at least I don't look like I belong in a girl group and don't look the same as everyone else.