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Original poster

To think I shouldn’t have to pay this?!

47 replies

RoseGirlsInAVase · 08/09/2018 19:00

Friend 1 is having a birthday. Friend 2 is organising it (weekend away)

There is one additional person going Friend 3. I’ve never met this person ever (just calling her friend 3 for ease).

Friend 1 is paying nothing towards this. Friend 3 cannot pay until 6 days before we’re suppose to be going - so nothing has been booked.

Friend 2 has asked if I would contribute 50% of Friend 3s payment and she will pay me back.

Aibu to say no as I although I could afford it I’ve never met this person in my life so I have no idea whether I would get my extra £100 back?

OP posts:
PurpleDaisies · 08/09/2018 19:01

You’re right, you shouldn’t pay.

Stormwhale · 08/09/2018 19:01

I would definitely not do this. You don't know this person at all, you have no guarantee you will get the money back. Absolute no from me.

RhymesWithOrange · 08/09/2018 19:02

Don't pay! You will never see your money again.

RaymondHolt · 08/09/2018 19:03

No - definitely not. You could be left without if anything changes.

yips · 08/09/2018 19:04

Absolutely not. You don't know this person!

Original poster
RoseGirlsInAVase · 08/09/2018 19:13

Thank you, I’m pretty shocked at the front of asking me.

Just questioning myself as it can’t be booked until we can all pay.

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HollowTalk · 08/09/2018 19:16

This person who doesn't even know you has asked you to lend her the money? No way! And she's mad going somewhere like that if she can't afford it a few days beforehand.

BlueThesaurusRex · 08/09/2018 19:17

Nope- don’t do it.

RabbitsAreTasty · 08/09/2018 19:18

Nope. No way. Friend 3 will have to borrow from someone else or not go.

RabbitsAreTasty · 08/09/2018 19:19

Maybe this is the moment to suggest that maybe this trip is too expensive for some people and you totally understand if anyone wants to drop out.

Tistheseason17 · 08/09/2018 19:20

Just say you are a bit short at the moment and can only cover your own costs. Not your problem.

Goldmandra · 08/09/2018 19:35

Why are you planning a birthday celebration that you can't all easily afford?

If friend 3 is that strapped for cash, you should agree on a meal out or a spa day instead.

This is a birthday, not a wedding.

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 08/09/2018 19:50

No way.

Rudgie47 · 08/09/2018 19:51

No way should you pay for friend 3.
Just say you are paying just for yourself.

Returnofthesmileybar · 08/09/2018 19:59

Wtf?? No way hose!! Friend 3 can't pay now then she either doesn't go or takes her chances on being able to book later, she does not ask a stranger to loan her money

bevelino · 08/09/2018 20:01

I agree with other posters, friend 3 needs to pay for herself or not go.

Leeds2 · 08/09/2018 20:04

Wait until Friend 3 pays her way. You WNBU.

Original poster
RoseGirlsInAVase · 08/09/2018 20:04

Why are you planning a birthday celebration that you can't all easily afford?

As stated in my OP, friend 2 is organising it. I have had zero input (did offer).

I don’t have control over other people planning things.

If friend 3 is that strapped for cash, you should agree on a meal out or a spa day instead.

Again I have had zero input.

If it were me who couldn’t afford it then I would politely decline. However as stated I cannot control other people actions.

This is a birthday, not a wedding.

Again zero input.

Friend wanted to go away. I can afford to pay for my share. If I didn’t want to go I wouldn’t.

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Original poster
RoseGirlsInAVase · 08/09/2018 20:06

Just to be clear friend 3 didn’t ask me to pay for her.

Friend 2 the organiser asked me to pay for friend 3.

OP posts:
Rudgie47 · 08/09/2018 20:08

Friend 2 has some cheek, I'd think someone was joking if they asked me to pay for someone I didn't know.
Tell friend 2 to pay for friend 3 herself if shes that bothered.

mikapatika · 08/09/2018 20:11

@returnofthesmileybar *Jose

And no don’t pay it

Iloveacurry · 08/09/2018 20:12

Surely friend 2 should cover friend 3 until she gets paid? It’s not up to you to pay, you don’t even know her.

russiandwarf · 08/09/2018 20:15

As you've had no input in any of the decisions it's absolutely up to friend 2 to cover friend 3 and not you!

MissusGeneHunt · 08/09/2018 20:16

Yup, friend 2 should stump up, not you. CFs, 2 and 3!

arranfan · 08/09/2018 20:18

YANBU - do not front up money for a stranger.