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To ask what you think about grown women who go to Disneyland without dc with Disney ears and wearing Disney dresses?

449 replies

Witchofzog · 08/09/2018 14:42

Before anyone flames me this is meant to be light hearted. Obviously a holiday is about doing what you want to do and I strongly believe each to their own. I also don't get holidays where you fling yourself out of trees or go to back to basic retreats where you pay a fortune to effectively starve yourself.

But I have 2 friends on Facebook - one an ex colleague and the other a distant family member who have been to Disneyland Florida with their partners (who look a bit bored in the photos) over the last 2 months. Both have dressed in cutesie Disney dresses, Disney shoes, bags and ears despite being in their 30's and their photos are mainly all with various characters. I just don't get it. I imagine with children or for a few days it would be totally magical but I think 2 weeks of meeting characters and eating Disney shaped food would get a bit boring after a while. But I am prepared to be educated. These women look like they are literally having the time of their lives so there must be something I am missing.

Would you go on your own without dc's for 2 weeks?

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Lockheart · 08/09/2018 20:02

Disney World Florida is bloody awesome. If I won the lottery, it would be one of the first places I’d go on my round the world tour.

I’m an ex-museum curator and used to work in antiques and art - I do like “proper” culture too. Am I allowed to like Disney as well?

Lots of people like things I find baffling, disgusting, or don’t understand - gratuitous torture horror films, death metal, football, getting up at 6am on a Saturday to run for several miles.

Luckily the human race is myriad and numerous and we don’t all have to be the same.

Skarossinkplungerridesagain · 08/09/2018 20:03

I am honestly as far from a snob as possible and I am genuinely curious. I love all things holiday and am always intrigued by people who enjoy different things

Poppycock. You wouldn't have used the sanctimonious "grown women" if you meant that.

TheMagicTorch · 08/09/2018 20:08

I went with my OH and my parents, wore ears and disney outfits & even met the princesses. I'm 29.
I understand it's not for everyone but I bloody loved it.
I'm not the person who could go travelling around India or bungee jump, or things like that but each to their own.
The world would be boring if we all liked the same things 🤷‍♀️

NotACleverName · 08/09/2018 20:09

I'm not sure why it's pathetic, worthy of pity or a "yardstick for losers." Maybe the cats-bum-mouth brigade should just shut up and let people enjoy things.

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Witchofzog · 08/09/2018 20:36

@Skaross . They are grown women. They are not children Hmm Have you actually read the entire thread?

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Mummadeeze · 08/09/2018 20:41

I have taken my daughter three times... but I love it just as much as her! I wouldn't go on my own if I didn't have a child, but if I could find another adult Disney fan to go with me, I would 100% go there. Not sure about wearing a Disney dress (!) but I do have a mini mouse phone cover, mickey mouse pyjamas and a Disney princess desk diary. Disney makes me happy, it reminds me of loving the films so much as a child, the theme parks are magical and fun, the rides are better than most theme parks in the world. There is a lot to like to be honest!

TerfsUp · 08/09/2018 20:43

I think that (1) their idea of fun is different from my idea of fun and (2) the world is a big place with room for different tastes.

In other words: if they enjoy themselves and they're not hurting anyone good for them.

SenecaFalls · 08/09/2018 20:51

My mother used to love to go to Disney World and she would often take my brother and me and our spouses along. No children, but we had taken our children many times in the past. (We live in Florida.) Not really my thing, but I have to admit that I usually did have a good time with my mother when we went. No one dressed up in Disney attire, though.

50Running50 · 08/09/2018 21:19

not don't be silly. Nobody is stopping them from doing it. And we've all got individual opinions, which we are actually allowed to have and voice!!!

50Running50 · 08/09/2018 21:21

I doubt it boney

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 08/09/2018 21:35

50Running50 - Would you feel the same if something you loved to do was disparaged and assumptions made about you because of your liking for it?

Would it make any difference if it were you children who were laughed at or dismissed for something that they enjoyed that was perhaps not 'mainstream'?

I think anybody who would uphold a 'nobody is stopping them from doing it' trope, wouldn't be telling the truth because whilst we all know that we're free to do as we please, none of us likes to feel ridiculed or diminished for our choices and that is what the thread has achieved, regardless of the stated reason for posting it.

Some posters are not careful with their wording and either don't see their clumsiness in making personal comments about the poster (because of their interest in whatever) - or do so because they never intended to avoid jabbing at somebody if they can. I think there are a lot of those posters here too. Backtracking if they're pulled up on it too.

There's too much of this on mumsnet and it's not benign, these comments are never harmless, they're intended to 'make a point' that the person saying them is of the view that the activity (whatever it is) has no value, is 'less than', is up for criticism and posters should be free to heckle in the name of individual opinions and being allowed to voice them.

Well, that is until the vocal, free-speech poster becomes the target... attitudes change on a sixpence then. It's only fun when it's not you...

tillytrotter1 · 08/09/2018 21:41

I don't think they'll get in wearing costumes as they're over 14!
That said, we're in our 70s and are off to Orlando in February, mainly Universal studios but other than OH's discreet Star Wars t-shirt, bought to impress grandson, there'll be no merchandise! Love it, I might even get him on the Rip-ride Rocket!

tillytrotter1 · 08/09/2018 21:51

No idea why people assume people who like Disney do not like anything else such as hiking, climbing trees etc

The reason's simple, it feeds their self-perceived idea of superiority. If I climbed a higher mountain than you does that make me better?

ThomasRichard · 08/09/2018 21:53

I wouldn’t say it in RL but yes, inwardly I do judge and think FFS, grow up. We took the DC to Disneyland this year and it was weird seeing grown women squealing over the princesses and making the queues even longer. It’s fairly harmless as eccentricities go though.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 08/09/2018 21:59

Do you think the adults got in for free then, ThomasRichard?

Making the queues longer for your children... well, they're not worth more, they haven't paid more so why do you think they are entitled to be in the queue and the adults are not?

The thing is, you say you wouldn't say these things in RL but what's the difference saying them to somebody to their face and saying them to goodness how many on a chat board? Still hurtful to be dismissed and you'd (general) have to be pretty clueless not to understand that.

MrsHoneysHat · 08/09/2018 22:00

Adults aren't allowed to wear costumes so presumably you are talking about the ears, disney themed t shirts etc? Dont see the issue? I've been this summer and was in the minority because i want wearing anything disney related - they're just getting in the spirit and having a good time.

Fstar · 08/09/2018 22:00

Id look at them and think they were up for a laugh and a good time. Ive been to disney a lot and wear character t shirts, wouldnt wear them at home but disney is all about letting your inner child out to play

RedDwarves · 08/09/2018 22:06

I'd prefer to go to Disneyland without children. Grin

I have no interest in Disney princesses, so the princess stuff wouldn't be my cup of tea, but I'd be lying if I said I never wanted go to Disneyland as an adult.

Meowandthen · 08/09/2018 22:07

It is my idea of hell but I really couldn’t give a rat’s arse if someone else wants to do that. I’d think they were a bit daft but why get upset? Not even sure why I am replying to the question it is that unimportant.

Now, people who go on cruises, or prison ships as they are called in my house, that’s something to get judgmental about. Wink

Pieceofpurplesky · 08/09/2018 22:15

Not my cup of tea at all. And then I went. It's amazing - of DS had allowed me without being mortified I would have gone the whole way. I just had Minnie ears and a bow by the end 🤣.

I felt so happy to be there and to be able to take DS there. To be fair I felt the same in New York but DS was older and would have pushed me off the Staten Island Ferry if I had worn a liberty crown!

greendale17 · 08/09/2018 22:20

I would think they are childish, creepy and weird.

I wouldn’t say it in RL but yes, inwardly I do judge and think FFS, grow up. We took the DC to Disneyland this year and it was weird seeing grown women squealing over the princesses

^This

ThomasRichard · 08/09/2018 22:22

If you are a huge adult Disney fan and open a thread with this title, you can’t expect total adoration.

burnoutbabe · 08/09/2018 22:23

I'd see those ladies and start pricing up my next trip. Even though I have just visited the Hong Kong and Tokyo ones this year.
I don't wear the ears. I did wear a fetching knitted ear hat one January as Paris was COLD.
And me and other half did wear matching logo t-shirts in Tokyo as that is a thing couples do there!

CheesyCurryChips · 08/09/2018 22:24

I love it, your never too old for Disney 😍😍

LotsToThinkOf · 08/09/2018 22:30

I find it odd that grown adults would go to Disney without children, I can't get my head around it.

The majority of adults I know who don't have children but have been to Disney have completely baffled me. One couple have no interest in child related things; they actively avoid all of our friendship group's children and have never met any of them on purpose (so they've bumped into them out and about rather than made plans to see them). When they announced they were going to Disney I couldn't comprehend it; then they showed us the photographs of them with the characters. Confused beyond belief at why a couple who actively avoid children would go to Disney.

Another couple are pretty much what you describe OP, really cutesy and immature which irritates me a lot. They paid a fortune for meet and greets with characters. No children, but they just went and behaved like children for 2 weeks.
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