To ask what you think about grown women who go to Disneyland without dc with Disney ears and wearing Disney dresses?

[Witchofzog]

Before anyone flames me this is meant to be light hearted. Obviously a holiday is about doing what you want to do and I strongly believe each to their own. I also don't get holidays where you fling yourself out of trees or go to back to basic retreats where you pay a fortune to effectively starve yourself.

But I have 2 friends on Facebook - one an ex colleague and the other a distant family member who have been to Disneyland Florida with their partners (who look a bit bored in the photos) over the last 2 months. Both have dressed in cutesie Disney dresses, Disney shoes, bags and ears despite being in their 30's and their photos are mainly all with various characters. I just don't get it. I imagine with children or for a few days it would be totally magical but I think 2 weeks of meeting characters and eating Disney shaped food would get a bit boring after a while. But I am prepared to be educated. These women look like they are literally having the time of their lives so there must be something I am missing.

Would you go on your own without dc's for 2 weeks?

My DH and I went there on our honeymoon (and toured around the rest of Florida!). Absolutely brilliant fun. We returned many years later with children in tow and it was quite stressful (and expensive!)

Good on your friends I'd say. Do what you enjoy and sod what anyone else thinks

Not my cup of tea. I’m all honesty I would think they are undiscerning and lacking imagination, but I would very much keep that to myself and only air it here.

I don't like Disney. Did to to Disneyland in California when I was 20 and felt way too old for it. Did love Universal Studios....
I hate all the commercialism of Disney also I don't like cartoons and so much of Disney is that.
I find it weird when adult women spend a lot of money on Irregular Choice shoes and outfits to dress up for a trip to Disney (and I say this as an IC fan..but must be so uncomfortable to be walking around in them at a theme park)
I don't like the crowds, queues and the fact the florida one has the zoo (is that still there?)
However..next week I'm driving over 3 days to go to the Isle of Skye for a week. No crowds, single lane roads.. bliss. And I know that is many people's idea of hell. So each to their own.
What I did find odd was my ex boss's obsession with Disney. We were only allowed 2 weeks max hol. She took her (adult) daughters and stayed at the resort for 6 weeks! Seriously. It's her way to relax, she goes every year (not for 6 weeks though).That really pissed me off and also I found it totally nuts, if you had that sort of time and money as an adult, would you spend 6 weeks at a Disney resort!

(ie the Disney themed IC shoes)

It's just a bit of fun that doesn't hurt anyone, so why care?

Disney holds a special place in many people's hearts and some of them are over 30. 😱

WitchofZog, you're judging other women. Your post - except for the 'cutesie' comment - might not have been as offensive as some of the others that followed but still, you think it's ok to judge other women.

As you say, it's a chat board. You can post what you like - and anybody can respond. I don't think it's ok to judge people - and particularly women - for stuff that really doesn't matter and I'm sick of seeing it. Yours isn't the only thread by a long shot but WTF?!

I've said my piece so I'll leave it there.

I could understand a couple of days. Two weeks imo is far too much - even with children.

But hey, live and let live.

Funnily enough I'm in a hotel next to the LA Disney. I've just been down to the hotel breakfast with some colleagues and we've just had a quiet giggle at the grown women walking around the buffet in mouse ears. But seriously, they're not hurting anyone and are enjoying themselves (they even gave us something to talk and smile about), so each to their own. I don't mind Disney and would happily go to the parks (out of school holidays) while I'm here, but I'd never dress up!

All I can @lying is that I was genuinely not judging. I didn't understand the dressing up and going without children because I had always thought this was a place predominantly for children, and when these 2 huge photo albums appeared on Facebook in relatively quick succession it made me wonder as neither went with children. I don't knock anyone's choice of holidays as long as they enjoy them. I love remote cottages in Wales, typical sun holidays in Europe, 80's weekenders at Butlins complete with ridiculous fancy dress, city breaks and I am off to South America next year. All different but some would probably be other people's ideas of hell. I would even go to Disneyworld as part of a Florida holiday now I have read some of these posts (but not for 2 weeks as I couldn't hack it and because I would want to see more of the area)

Disney bashing seems to be a thing on here.

Yes there are aspects of a WDW holiday that are tailored towards children. The resort also has excellent sporting facilities, golf courses, spas, conference centres, wedding venues etc that are designed for adults, along with numerous hotels and a free travel service around the resort. You don't need to go for the ears and traditional "Disney magic" if you don't want to and you might well have another reason for being there.

If you're a Star Wars fan you can run a Star Wars themed marathon in May each year and they're working on a themed area of one of the parks which I think opens next year.

What do I think about the two women you know going and dressing in ears and outfits? Same as I think about everyone's choice of holiday - good for them taking time off to do something they want to do, I hope they enjoy themselves.

2 weeks would be...a lot.

DH and I stayed onsite at Disney World for a week and didn’t go into the parks every day, but even then we were definitely ready to move on after the 7th night. To do two weeks you’d need to be a biiiiig fan.

Rather them than me but why not. If its what they enjoy good for them!

There are a lot of people on Mumsnet who bash others for doing something they enjoy. It generally seems to be the "gin o'clock" type, which says a lot.

I haven't been to Disney for years, but I do go regularly to the Harry Potter Studios with my other Potter friends, and we all wear robes/cosplay. It's a bit of fun and I'd much rather do something I enjoy than socialise with drunken bores who call people names on Mumsnet for doing something they don't like.

perhaps I wonder whether they have learning or emotional developmental difficulties because I work with people who do

How disgustingly ableist. So you're saying that people who like Disney and enjoy a laugh have developmental or learning difficulties? What the actual fuck?

I am ready to take all your pity, and judgements of being ‘sad’ or ‘pathetic’, because not only do I enjoy Orlando holidays (Disney, Universal, Kennedy Space Centre etc.), I also like Lego, Marvel superheroes, and anything related to Snoopy/Peanuts. This must qualify me for the full gamut of learning disabilities, right? Because it’s not just one ‘sad’ or ‘pathetic’ thing people find childish, but a whole host of them.

I am actually disabled, but am a mostly functioning adult, who finds it incomprehensible that people would liken going to Disney as an adult, to wearing nappies as an adult and calling their partner ‘daddy’.

I don’t dress up in themed character outfits, both because I hate dressing up and, let’s be honest, I have enough trouble being me some days, let alone anybody else. But I might well wear a shirt with a Disney character on, or something superhero based, to the relevant park. To be fair, I wear them at home too...so judge that all you want too!

My point is - I’m not harming anyone. As a general rule, unless you get an ultra aggressive adult fan at Disney, they’re not harming anyone either. And no, I don’t think adults in queues for pictures with characters should give way to children - it’s not my thing, but the time we took my 11 year old nephew I queued with him, and it’s a fair queue where you all wait. As someone said, you’ve paid a lot of money to be there, so your place in the queue is as valid as anyone else’s.

I don’t like beach holidays - two weeks in the Caribbean sounds boring beyond words to me, but I don’t judge people who enjoy this. But liking a beach holiday seems so much more socially acceptable than going to Disney.

I don’t drink alcohol, which is a complete mystery to some, but I ponder on whether people who have a glass of wine with their evening meal every night are alcoholics, because they would be stupid.

You can say something’s not your cup of tea (oh - don’t drink that either, so clearly I need to turn in my UK citizenship right now) without casting judgement on others. Words like ‘pathetic’ and ‘sad’ and ‘possibly have learning difficulties’ are not helpful, and, frankly, bitchy.

That should say, ‘I don’t ponder’, not that I ponder - completely changes the tone of my rant!

‘That would be stupid’...seriously, my fingers just were not cooperating...

Why not if it makes them happy

Meh - who cares?? My sister had huge Minnie Mouse ears and a Minnie skirt in Disneyland HK and I thought she looks ex cute, she’s 27 no kids. Would I? No - but I don’t like Disney. They really aren’t hurting anyone, how boring would life be if we all were the same - right? If one of them if Disney obsessed - then probably to them this was a dream come true and probably doesn’t care who thinks what of them for wearing what.....

@Rockhopper81 Meh, don’t let it bother you.

There are loads of MN-isms that make me scratch my head in wonder, but I don’t think I’m superior because of it.

Off to start planning my next Disney holiday. I’ll start a AIBU thread about leaving the kids at home with my parents and I’ll give you a heads up so you can read the responses from people calling me a neglectful mother and boasting that they carried their five year old in a papoose during their three month trekking holiday across the Andes.

A family friend in her 30s takes regular trips to Disneyland. I think she's been 6 times since January this year.

She also takes a stuffed teddy everywhere, and I mean everywhere. It goes with her to work, the cinema, out for meals with friends. It wears a seat belt in the car.

When we see her, all she talks about is Disney, and I find it all a bit much.

I like the parks well enough, and I'd like to take my kids Disney World when they're older, but I can't get myself interested in taking multiple photos with a stranger dressed as Cinderella.

I wore the ears at Euro. I never went to Disney as a child so yes I wore the ears and squealed with excitement from time to time.

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I find it pathetic too!

Pathetic is a strong word when talking about people having fun

I'm now 49 and it still leaves me cold. As a child I was always in the mud or up a tree, so my perfect holiday would be camping/hiking/activities

Now that would turn me cold, but I don't find it "pathetic" as I understand that people have different ways of enjoying themselves.

I wonder If those having trouble understanding why people like disney and other things are those that comment and spoil films and tv etc. because they are unable to engage their imagination and suspend real life for any length of time?

Well I can answer that for you boney.

No they aren't. 🤣