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AIBU?

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To not tell him this information

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Herewegoagainx1000 · 08/09/2018 10:20

So sitting watching something on TV with my DP of 2 years last night and he randomly commented on something which lead to the question "Have you had a bigger penis than mine".. I said I refuse to answer because it's not something I want to discuss.. he gets pissed off.. then asks me how many guys I've slept with again i refuse to answer as I don't want to talk about it with him and it's not relevant to our relationship.. now he's left saying that if I can kept stuff from him and cant be honest then we shouldn't be together..

AIBU to not want to discuss this?

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IWentAwayIStayedAway · 08/09/2018 20:21

Dodged a bullet!! Well said rabbit!

TheBeatGoesOnandOn · 08/09/2018 20:27

I'd have told him of course I'll be honest.

I've honestly never had as big of a dick of a boyfriend as him before.

Then tell him to make sure he picks up his coat as he'll not need it here again.

Teachtolive · 08/09/2018 20:27

To spite him I'd tell him all of your previous lovers were way bigger than him!

PlinkPlink · 08/09/2018 20:35

Oh well done OP. I like your no nonsense approach!

PeanuttyButter · 08/09/2018 20:39

Don’t ask questions if you may not like the answer... he needs to grow up. Good for you for standing your ground. Not sure what you mean about analysing the sex afterwards.. doesn’t sound great though I won’t lie haha

Bluebell878275 · 08/09/2018 20:46

"Yes, I've had bigger penises, however, you are the biggest knob I've ever been out with"

puzzledlady · 08/09/2018 20:46

Urghhh he sounds bloody stupid and immature. 41 and asking a how big is your penis question?! Good riddance I say OP. Good luck going forward x

CSIblonde · 08/09/2018 20:48

Hmm. Your refusing means he's now thinking all your ex bf's were porn star size. Having worked in all male environments for years & as a result making lot of platonic male friends, I'd say 80% had the odd worry re size . But they told me they'd never voice it to their partner. So he must be massively insecure it's got to that point. In which case.... I'd tell him no I havent. End of problem. (white lie for greater good).

Id work on the sulking issue at a later date.

Ohyesiam · 08/09/2018 20:55

Should have just said
“God, YES”

CSIblonde · 08/09/2018 20:55

Just seen updates by OP. If he's that insecure re bedroom performance (he obv seeking confirmation he's good in bed, hence the analysing) maybe you aren't suited. I think my partners have known Im happy with sex without a debrief.

ReanimatedSGB · 08/09/2018 20:58

Yeah, get rid. By the sound of it you don't live together, so just tell him that you're tired of him and not to contact you again.

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Herewegoagainx1000 · 08/09/2018 21:05

We had the best sex and i have been telling him this for the last two years... if i would have lied and said no i haven't he would be able to tell and would call me a liar and we would still be in the same situation we are now.. if i would have said yes i have we would still be here now..

He does it because he's so ridiculously insecure about himself, hypersensitive and so over analytical about everything its become impossible to be myself around him anymore. This relationship is over. Im not going to be the punch bag for his insecurity anymore.

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Purpleartichoke · 08/09/2018 21:11

I would not share details of another partner’s anatomy.

I would and do share a list of sexual history. I’m of the age where that was standard practice when starting an intimate relationship with a new partner. You have the right to know their disease risks.

Maelstrop · 08/09/2018 21:16

Insecure? He sounds like a controlling wanker. Ten times he’s done this? Why have you tolerated this?

PerverseConverse · 08/09/2018 21:16

Ugh my stbexh did this and got annoyed when I wouldn't tell him. I never did tell him but he delighted in telling any friends of mine or his who'd listen that I'd been around a bit, generally make out I was a whore, yet I was frigid and never gave him sex. He had the cheek to tell me I was used goods. I'm well rid. I pity his new partner.

Teenagemaw · 08/09/2018 21:25

@iklboo too funny

Tbh the biggest dick I had was the worst sex i had.. dick size is no indication of good sex... but honestly leave him... this does not end well.. i have been there the questioning will increase and there is never a right answer... whatever you say will be questioned.. like my ex he has done a great job of keeping this side of him under control but now he is getting comfortable in your relationship he is becoming more confident at asking these questions... it will escalate

trojanpony · 08/09/2018 22:36

Look at your username... Herewegoagainx1000

This guy has done you a favour - take him up in it and break up with him!
now you won’t need to register as Herewegoagainx1001 next month

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 09/09/2018 00:45

Good decision, Herewegoagain! Find someone who is secure in themselves and doesn't give you such a pain in the neck about everything!

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